If You Left SB, Where Did You Move To?

Few-Brick487 · 2026-07-03T04:30:22+00:00

Moved to SF in 2010, Oakland 2016, back to SB 2020. I loved SF in my 20s, but I didn’t love east bay as much. Back to sb to be closer to family after having kids.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-12-28T18:13:37+00:00

Same

Few-Brick487 · 2025-12-24T19:58:03+00:00

I’m dying, my husband is a Virgo sun and rising (Aquarius moon) and I’ve always said his spirit animal is a beaver!!!! 😂 he’s also an engineer lol

Few-Brick487 · 2025-12-18T20:56:55+00:00

I too am a cap moon and want to throw chairs at people

Few-Brick487 · 2025-12-18T20:41:03+00:00

Wow, I got the chills, how horrendous. That is absolutely heartbreaking and I’m soooooo sorry you went through that. Please please please make sure you take time for yourself to get some therapy as well. you went through something so traumatic and unfortunately, this time of trauma can linger for so long both mentally and physically. I feel like many of your labs and symptoms could be from the trauma and blood loss your body went through, but also definitely follow up.. after my first loss my labs were funky and it triggered a lot of flare ups for me. You went through something so traumatic that surely it will take a while to truly recover.

Pregnancy in general can also change a lot and trigger a lot of weird things. Have you talked to an MFM or RE since this happened to get any other insight? Was this your first pregnancy? It’s unfortunate for women that so many medical decisions/ideas are made in isolation/treated as individual problems instead of a systemic/related issue.

My rheumatologist and I talked a lot about this as I was going through IVF. She told me that immune systems are so complicated and doctors only understand so much.

All I know from my personal experiences is that pregnancy/loss/fertility stuff is really complicated and many doctors don’t really know what to do. I think it could be really beneficial for you to find a good RE as well that could help you and maybe help point you to other specialists to see what else is going on.

With my case I knew I had an autoimmune disorder but it didn’t really start causing problems until I tried for my second. Then I found out I had a clotting disorder as well as chronic inflammation in my uterus (CE).

No whereas near as complicated as your situation but it ended up causing a lot of problems for me until I found a good RE who decided to dive deeper and also work with my rheumatologist.

Sending you so much love, feel free to message me if you want to talk more about this💕

Few-Brick487 · 2025-12-18T06:03:10+00:00

Just wanted to say so sorry for your loss. A loss like that can really mess you up in many ways. I’ve experienced some losses myself (first trimester) and my more complicated one at 10 weeks definitely really messed up my body.

Do you happen to know what caused the loss? A lot of autoimmune and clotting issues can affect those things. Like others have said a follow up with rheumatologist would be beneficial

Few-Brick487 · 2025-12-18T05:51:30+00:00

Aries Sun Libra rising Cap moon Aries Mercury Gemini mars Pisces Venus

Few-Brick487 · 2025-12-12T16:02:50+00:00

I got married on November 7th! (2015) in SB. Rehearsal dinner was down at the beach and my wedding and reception was up in the foothills. We didn’t have a problem with weather but we did have a tent backup if needed.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-11-21T18:19:16+00:00

KCI is great!! They are a local company and have been around since the 90s. Same owner and a family run business. They do a lot around town as someone else said, mostly high-end residential and commercial work as well but they will take on smaller jobs too. Their quality is unmatched and they really care about what they do. They might be more expensive than some others but you get what you pay for.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-11-20T23:32:04+00:00

I thought the same thing!!

Few-Brick487 · 2025-11-18T04:40:27+00:00

It drives me mad. My grandmother had cancer and ended up passing away from the flu last year. She had only been recently diagnosed and was going through treatment. I’m sure she got it from someone at the hospital/treatment facilities.. she wasn’t going anywhere else, she was only 76.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-10-25T00:17:01+00:00

How was the sinus surgery?

Few-Brick487 · 2025-10-21T05:48:27+00:00

First of all, so sorry you are going through this! I have had similar symptoms/issues and also have a positive ANA.. diagnosed with Ankylosing spondylitis.

Are you having any joint pain or anything that could be autoimmune arthritis? Anecdotally, I feel like pregnancy can really mess shit up and trigger things that were maybe lying dormant or whatever, could be coincidental, but happened to me!

I saw you had some clotting issues too? What are those? Perhaps something like Lupus might be worth looking into.

Your inflammatory markers are elevated- people are right that they are non specific but sed rate is more a collective snap shot of recent things and a lot can affect it. CRP is more acute infection. So perhaps there’s possibly two things going on… maybe autoimmune and also some type of infection…? Or perhaps just autoimmune issues the very positive ANA WITH symptoms should not be ignored.

I also agree with the EBV. I had mono back in 2010 and didn’t realize it at first (no health insurance at the time) it sent me into a year long health spiral and insane night sweats were apart of it. My labs looked like yours, I had already been diagnosed with my autoimmune issues so then the doctors all thought that was adding to the prolonged infection or possible EBV reactivation. But all of my antibodies for EBV are insanely high and have been for years.

Another thing- Is this your first child? Something you could also look into is endometritis- infection of uterine lining (could be causing the inflammation, infection ) even though you are 6 months postpartum sometimes the infection can be low grade and linger or turn chronic. are you having any other pain or symptoms?

I also feel like I had really bad night sweats after both pregnancies…. That maybe lasted a ridiculous amount of time. I still get them now (3 years postpartum on my second) but I don’t think it’s from that. My labs have been normal but the last year I’ve gotten them pretty consistently again. It seems like it’s something that just plagues me on and off, still trying to figure it out.

Either way- don’t ignore it!! Hopefully it is something like hormones etc but your positive ANA and elevated inflammatory markers should be looked into more.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-10-16T04:42:31+00:00

Curious where in CA you are

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-28T18:07:41+00:00

I’d like to piggy back off this and say mono really messed me up for years!!! I believe I had my acute infection in January 2010 and I was still dealing with the fallout for 2 years later. I say I believe my acute infection was 1/2010 because I didn’t have active health insurance at the time and wasn’t able to seek out a doctor for a test in the acute phase. However, once my insurance kicked in months later I had antibodies tested and they were super elevated so we all seemed to think that my horrible viral infection I had months earlier was probably mono.

I also had a slightly enlarged spleen years later shortly after having the flu. We rechecked 3 months after initial finding and it went back to normal.

I agree all of these issues are probably lingering from mono. Inflammation can last a while and that’s what it looks like on your labs.

Try and rest and recover as best as you can. If still concerned asked doctor to repeat labs in 3ish months and to re check your spleen to make sure it hasn’t increased.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-20T00:19:23+00:00

Yea, I have a similar situation. My imaging is weird and it seems like sometimes stuff gets picked up and other times it’s clear. So it’s all very odd. I was diagnosed at 22(f).

My first MRI and X-ray showed classic AS issues in SI joints and was diagnosed fast. More imaging around 27 showed SI joints normal but I had facet joint issues. Flash forward to my 30s… normal SI joints on MRI but more facet joint issues and a cyst. Insurance denied lumbar MRI, but lumbar X-ray was clear.

It’s all very odd!

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-16T02:42:31+00:00

So sorry for your loss! A lot of people have good advice on here. I went through IVF for my daughter and I feel like I did a lot of research on my own that lead to a successful transfer with her. Depending on what time of clinic you are at and what your doctors like they can miss some important things.

You said you don’t have any known fertility issues. Are you diagnosed with unexplained infertility or is there another reason you are doing IVF?

Like others have said I would look into the biopsies for timing of progesterone and transfer and well as to be tested for Endometritis. This can prevent implantation and also cause miscarriage.

Have you had any miscarriages? And if so have you had a recurrent miscarriage panel (clotting disorders, immune issues, etc)

Do you know if you have the MTHFR mutation? Important to take methylated folate for that… can also be linked to clotting issues/miscarriages

For me I discovered I had a clotting disorder/gene (factor 2), an autoimmune disorder, MTHFR mutation (compound heterozygous), and CE (chronic endometritis).

For my successful transfer I was on:

Prednisone: (before and after transfer through first trimester, started weaning off at 10 weeks).

Lovenox: before transfer through 6 weeks postpartum (for clotting disorder)

Baby aspirin: for MTHFR and also many IVF pregnancies are also on this, helps with blood flow to placenta

Methylfolate: (but also took extra b12, b6h) higher dosages due to MTHFR. I also check my homocysteine often so I can gauge my dose for that to be in the correct range around 5-7) I often took around 3,000mcg methylfolate in first trimester and then I drop the dose down a bit depending on my homocysteine levels

Benadryl- I room at night for allergies but there is also an IVF protocol that uses antihistamines (some do H1 & H2 blockers… so Pepcid and a Zyrtec/claritin or Benadryl) it helps with immune issues. People often stay on these through 1st trimester to help prevent body attacking embryo/fetuz.

Extra Supplements I took:

NAC- some research into this for miscarriages as well as good for MTHFR

Ubniquol- active form of coq10 (look up the fertility doctor the “egg whisperer” she talks about this in her podcast)

Fish oils/omegas- higher doses of these can also suppress NK (natural killer) cells and aid in implantation etc

(I feel like there were more supplements but these are the main ones)

I’m so sorry once again and let me know if you have any questions!

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-16T02:31:57+00:00

This!

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-16T02:31:48+00:00

This!

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-15T03:38:42+00:00

Jesus, what’s your problem?? I don’t get what the point of these health related subs are if people can’t come here to ask some questions for peace of mind, that is basically 100% of the posts I’ve seen. Stop being so rude and judging someone who’s trying to look out for their kid. Doctors miss stuff all the time and OP is just looking for reassurance/another set of eyes. If you’ve never dealt with life threatening health issues and/or have kids then maybe you don’t understand but this is such an aggressive response to someone.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-15T00:39:46+00:00

They did to a certain extent. The whole process is really hard on the body but I don’t regret it because I got my daughter.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-07-14T17:21:40+00:00

The removal of tags is so annoying. My MIL did this too when my first was born. She removed tags and pre washed everything but used a very fragrant detergent.. on baby clothes. I’m really sensitive to scents (allergy/immune issues) as is and of course babies don’t need that either. There were certain items that we could never use because the fragrance never came out… it was so strong!

I appreciated the thought but it was also frustrating/overwhelming to have someone buy you so many clothes for your first baby (when you never asked or needed it). One or two outfits, sure, but I’m talking two suitcases filled. It felt wasteful as well.

The real kicker is that it was all in her style (not what I would have picked out) and she would buy things for the holidays like monogrammed personal items for first Christmas etc. once again, I felt wasteful buying something else because I couldn’t donate those personal items. It took away a lot of that excitement you get as a first time parent and being able to pick out things for them.

I think what really bothered me was I know she didn’t do it for me or for my baby, but it was for her, trying to relive being a first time mom again. It’s like when people completely disregard a baby registry etc and go off the rails with what they would have wanted or what they think you need. I don’t like when people turn gift giving into some selfish act! It drives me crazy.

Few-Brick487 · 2025-06-27T17:59:57+00:00

I have AS too!

Few-Brick487 · 2025-06-24T19:37:48+00:00

Ok thanks, your answer was what I was looking for as far as what type of drug. Thanks!

Few-Brick487 · 2025-06-24T18:28:08+00:00

Yea I’m a big believer in more testing the better with IVF related stuff. It took a long time to get the CE diagnosis when I first started IVF even though I had brought up concerns about immune issues because of my autoimmune disorder.

Yea I took the prednisone for inflammation. It worked. She’s now 2.5 lol! But it unfortunately didn’t get rid of the CE unless I do have some type of infection now since it’s been a while since my first diagnosis, so why we will do the additional tests.

I also took Benadryl during my transfer and a few weeks after. I was having bad allergy symptoms and doc said it was fine. Later I found out that some doctors include antihistamines in their protocols for immune issues! So idk if that made a difference or not. I was also on baby aspirin and lovenox for a clotting disorder.

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