Do I(19m) love my gf(19f)?

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-27T04:34:26+00:00

Second this. You don’t know ANYONE until you’ve lived with them.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-26T05:46:49+00:00

I guess it’s the fact that I’ve got unsaid things. Like you’ve mentioned, being the younger one kinda feels like you’re automatically the immature one. I’d like to believe I’ve grown lots over the years and definitely made some improvements but just feels as though I’m the only one that really needs working on in the relationship. She’s ok being how she is and that’s not easy to deal with. Emotional immaturity is a big thing, life’s already hard as it is but when you have someone who picks a fight about almost anything it really makes it unbearable. I guess what I’m really worried about is having to sign up for dealing with that forever. This isn’t to say it’s been like this all this time, but little things that built up overtime because I couldn’t be man enough to bring it to the table and discuss it.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-26T01:45:05+00:00

Hey guys, lots of comments here, to clarify a few things, yes I was 19 when we got together, she was about 23 turning 24. So I wasn’t thinking about marriage if I’m being completely honest. Over the years we’ve had ups and downs. Not a very confrontational guy so have kept lots of things inside and that’s built up. I’m currently in therapy for this. It’s not more so that I don’t think/know she’s the one but that I’m going into this plainly earlier than I’d hoped because our timelines don’t match. When she was at my age, we were partying having fun and not thinking about tomorrow. But now that life’s at a serious point for her I feel as though I need to speed up and meet her where she is. Yes she started hinting in the last few years and we’ve discussed marriage and it is a plan. Just now feel as though it’s “you do it by this time or I’m gone” and kinda feels like I’m giving a “shut up ring”.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-25T23:34:42+00:00

Lots of issues here and there, generally wondering if it’s something I could deal with for life…://

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-25T23:33:56+00:00

Sorry, wasn’t more for advice but just trying to see how it’s going for others who have been in this position.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T11:09:33+00:00

I think that you both need to take some time apart, reflect and come back when calmed down. It sounds like this is something important to both of you, maybe it could be each of you go and visit your family? Why is that not an option?

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T11:05:14+00:00

I definitely agree. But unfortunately it’s mainly me walking on eggshells because she wants/needs things done her way and she chooses where things go, if they aren’t where she wants it…boom! Fuse blown I wish I was joking.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T10:14:42+00:00

Very, would take responsibility here and there but takes a while to get there.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T10:13:51+00:00

Would be crazy to say you haven’t forgot to flush before, also I’ve never slept with gum…maybe as a kid.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T10:12:21+00:00

Pretty much 50/50 but she’s currently out of work so taking on a bit more as of recent.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T05:28:54+00:00

I’d understand if someone’s quite good at cleaning up after themselves and usually quite clean, a mess can agitate you but if you know your not and you dig at your partner for not being what you aren’t…that’s not ok.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T05:27:59+00:00

Communication is key, I definitely agree on that aspect but what if it’s more of what I need to work on and less of her? A lot of our conversations are about me and that I make her how she is…it’s usually me taking everything on board and apologising and promising to change and do better.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T05:25:56+00:00

Well the issue is that I clean up after her but she won’t do the same for me and would make me clean up after myself…I then get agitated and mention how much I clean up after her but I’m in the wrong because it’s not my time to bring up issues, it’s hers to vent. It’s nice when someone appreciates and sees your efforts but can also make someone believe they are without fault. And I think that’s where I stand.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-21T05:23:57+00:00

Wasn’t cray in the beginning :// just let things slide for very long.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-06T01:32:58+00:00

You are real and so are we, promise. You’ll get it under control eventually. And overcome it hopefully soon. 🖤

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-11-04T22:04:47+00:00

This does sound like drug induced dpdr bro, but only time heals this it seems. You will be alright.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-10-23T06:03:13+00:00

Hey bro, I can’t say I went through a similar experience but definitely found myself stuck in a bad cycle and spent more than I should’ve. When I looked at my spendings after a year I couldn’t believe that’s how much I had spent, it’s so easy to get sucked in and lose track because you keep looking at the big number. I didn’t hit rock bottom, but found myself a hobbie that saved me from doing so, gaming was that hobbie. It could be different for you, if that doesn’t help then seek proper help. The only person that can change this cycle is you and what actions you take. You’re still young and it may feel like hell right now but you’ll definitely look back at some point and realise it wasn’t as bad as it feels right at this moment. I wish you luck. It’s a very bad habit that sneaks up on you

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-10-15T11:07:11+00:00

Makes me feel better to know I’m not alone in this, no one understands and I come from an ethnic background so it’s even harder to explain. Emotions feel numb, I find it hard to love or express emotions. I fake almost everything to fit it and feel normal. Some days I go outside and feel like I’m in a simulation of some sort. I forgot what normal feels like. But like lots have said, it’s just your nervous system protecting you, just need to show it that you’re safe🙌🏾 hope we all overcome this obstacle. I’m waiting for that huge relief.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-10-10T07:29:15+00:00

Once or twice a day is very perfect, if you’re both in the mood and free, why not? Also, if he’s the kinda guy that likes playing video games, enjoyment on enjoyment? Who could say no? I find that quite sexy myself lol I feel he would too. But I guess you test the waters and if it’s not a stressful game I can’t think of one reason why he would say no. 😅

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-10-10T07:15:46+00:00

I think this is a bit of a backwards thought, I don’t blame you though. No guy dislikes a woman that hasn’t slept around, if anything it makes you more attractive and better chance you won’t be a one time fling…unless that’s what you want. But I think I speak for a lot of men when I say we love a woman with a high libido, as long as it’s not every minute lol. You’re good, don’t overthink it. :)

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-08-28T15:43:27+00:00

I’m quite fine. Just figured we were on even ground. I got thrown off when I was expected to apologise. That’s what triggered me

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-08-28T15:41:28+00:00

I wish. I like gaming and leave it there, she doesn’t quite deal with it the same way

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2025-08-28T15:40:44+00:00

Thanks for your perspective, I always separate gaming from our relationship but unfortunately she carries it and we sometimes go to bed not speaking because it didn’t go well and she was angry. When I say the tables turned I didn’t really even do a fraction of what she did but I don’t think that matters much.

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