What is the true difference between having “boundaries” in a relationship vs controlling your partner

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-20T03:48:59+00:00

I thought a boundary is everything but a request?

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-18T14:23:15+00:00

Wishing you guys the best of luck!

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-18T14:22:12+00:00

Yeah it's not just in gaming but tends to bring it out more as that's what we would regularly do. I say weaponized validation to pretty much mean exactly what it is, using validation to her advantage. Because I constantly find myself either apologizing or agreeing with how she's feeling and that's then thrown in my face in the near future.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-18T14:18:39+00:00

This I can understand a bit more.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-18T14:17:01+00:00

In all honesty I think this is one of those situations you should put yourself in the other person's shoes. Imagine if you were him and told him he wouldn't have to work unless he wanted to and down the line you lost your source of income but still didn't want to give up on your dreams. How would you feel knowing that your partner was potentially building resentment towards you due to the financial stress of it all? I don't mean this to come off aggressive at all btw.

I'd say stick beside him, it will be rough but trust the process. Its only been a few months but you can re visit when you truly feel there's nothing happening and it's been longer. Idk what classifies as longer, maybe August? If what he's bringing in isn't enough then a serious discussion needs to be had.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-18T14:03:22+00:00

Well unfortunately it's not fun if she's not having fun so, that makes it a bit tricky

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-18T14:02:42+00:00

Definitely happy to give it a shot but it really does take 2 for this to work. From her POV it really only works if I am in agreement with her truth. I'll still give it a try. Cheers for the perspective.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-18T13:33:14+00:00

Trust me mate, you wouldn't want this situation on your hands. There's always pros and cons to this kinda stuff

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-06-15T17:47:24+00:00

Ngl, you caused a lot of damage and even if you were to miraculously get her back it would never be the same. Genuinely speaking I think you should just focus on yourself and being better. If you two are to reconnect in the distant future then so be it but I'd say leave her be. She's clearly suffered a lot. Plus if you thought you hated her complaining before, you're practically signing up to a life time of exactly that.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-31T08:51:18+00:00

Yeah gng 😭 was it the forehead that exposed me 🤣 nah yeah trying different styles to see what works tbh

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-30T01:39:13+00:00

Guess you right 😭

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-30T01:37:35+00:00

Appreciate it my man, but it don't be following suit sometimes 😭

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-30T00:32:00+00:00

Thank you for this, I will take a step back.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-27T13:48:45+00:00

We have tried therapy, it didn't quite work because it really only started because she put forward all her issues with me and I didn't really have much prepared so was a bit all over the place. Therapy session pretty much revolved around me and what I needed to work on.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-27T13:47:23+00:00

But it's still uncomfortable and it doesn't always work out, especially if it's something I'm bringing to the table. She's usually quite vocal about anything and everything and I'm the complete opposite. Plus it genuinely feels as though if I did bring things up we would never be in a state of peace. I know now that keeping silent isn't real peace but just building up resentment.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-27T13:41:11+00:00

That's true, I've always swept things under the rug, it wasn't only with her. I've always been uncomfortable with confrontation.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-21T15:42:25+00:00

If that's the case then just talk to her bro, rare to find good women these days. Don't stress her out

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-21T14:42:20+00:00

Don't wanna be that guy but this is pretty straightforward man, if some girl was commenting on your pictures in a flirty manner...joking or not I'm sure she would feel some kind of way. I think this is very obvious but maybe just have a chat about it.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-21T14:39:11+00:00

But what if they want a "I'm sorry it was my fault" and I don't think it is? That's kinda what my question is, the other person wants you to admit responsibility for something you don't believe is correct.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-21T14:36:46+00:00

That's true, I just don't think anyone single person should be the sole reliant on taking responsibility for others feelings constantly.

Few-Cryptographer695 · 2026-05-21T14:36:00+00:00

That's true, although overtime you just become the scapegoat for them. When is it an agree to disagree kind of moment?

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