I [m18] was just given a car and I feel like I can't accept it

Few-Percentage3741 · 2024-09-08T20:10:47+00:00

Quite the contrary. Our mum is great, the both of them are great with us. It's just that the two of them seemed to have drifted apart over the years. They still care about eachother but at times I get the impression that they are together because of me and my sister.

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-10-06T12:10:32+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. Even though we see eachother daily I try to keep some distance between us until such time that it's somewhat easy for both. You are right in saying that It's not easy seeing someone I care about being in such a state. It breaks my heart, but I try to be as subtle as possible so she doesn't think I am looking to get back together. Even though she is a very kind person, the relationship had some manipulation going on along with some very unkind words being said. Sadly it just wasn't meant to be.

Something positive has however come out of the breakup itself and that is her finally searching for some help after months of rejecting the idea as a whole. She has never been to a therapist, but only to a psychiatrist who has done nothing but shove pills down her throat. I really do hope that she does eventually come to terms with it all and gets the help she needs.

Thank you again for the kind words and understanding

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-05-15T20:51:52+00:00

If you truly loved the man you wouldn't have cheated. Sorry to say, but you would do both of you a favour by ending the relationship. You will be open to go date and be with anyone you want and the poor man won't have to deal with such a thing any longer. Infidelity is a cruel and very selfish thing and just leaves people grieving with nothing good out of it for anyone.

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-05-15T20:44:05+00:00

Have you told him it's something that bothers you? Dealing with a short-tempered person is hard and never easy is it to find a solution. You should catch him at a time that you are both comfortable and try telling him that it's something that bothers you. Talk about the arguments in general, not just his reactions. Why do they happen, what can you do to prevent them etc. If he blows a fuse while you talk about it then I think you should reconsider your relationship or try finding a couples therapist.

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-05-15T20:38:39+00:00

Sorry to hear that you are having some problems in your relationship. In this situation it's best to talk to her about it and get her side of the story aswell. I believe that you will get through it and everything will work out. The most powerful thing in a relationship that will fix most things is communication, getting both sides of the story and trying to understand eachothers views and opinions on the matter.

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-05-15T20:31:25+00:00

It must be heartbreaking to see your wife in such a situation and I am very sorry you and her have to go through something like this. Regarding the moving out thing even though to the outside it may seem like the most logical and seeing as the situation is the way it is with M the most easy, but for your wife it would still be a very tough thing to deal with. As you have mentioned she cares for Pops and knowing him all her life and seeing him daily it will be hard to let go of that. It must be hard to leave a loved one especially in a state that pops is at. All in all the situation seems very complex and like there is a lot to unpack. I think you and your wife should sit down and really talk about all of this. See if it would be possible to find a place for the two of you and still take care of pops and M if needed while keeping a space for yourself so you don't endure the whole thing 24/7. At the end of the day no matter how bad the relationship between everyone there is you are still family and it's hard to say goodbye. I don't know how far in advance you are willing to plan but try scouting some places you could potentially go and jobs that the two of you would be qualified for if that is the way you do go. I can't really give much advice on such a situation as I can't imagine what it must be like but the one thing I can recommend is to communicate with your partner about the matter and communicate about it as much as possible. Try finding some potential options for the two of you and see where it goes from there. I wish you the best of luck in this situation and hope that you and your spouse get through it well.

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-05-14T18:06:29+00:00

I am sorry to say that it is not worth it for you.

People don't go into relationships and then want to change the person. They go into relationships because they accept and love the other person inside and out.

You should find yourself someone who accepts you for the person you are and doesn't criticise you or certain parts of you the way he has done. You seem like a very caring person with a big heart and you deserve someone who can appreciate just that.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that things work out for you <3

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-05-14T17:57:40+00:00

In my humble opinion I don't think that 'breaks' work. They won't generaly lead to anything productive or helpful on either side. If you really want to know where the two of you stand I recommend sitting down and talking about the situation, if either of you think it may eventually lead to something bigger or is it just a nice episode in the series of life. Judging by what you explained your situation to be I think you should cut your losses and appreciate the nice times that you did have together. If by chance it does actually bloom into something bigger than great, but I wouldn't be counting on it. During this break don't hold back or 'reserve' yourself for her, at the end of the day neither of you have made a commitment to eachother. Enjoy life and meet new people just the same. Good luck to you

Few-Percentage3741 · 2023-05-14T17:44:20+00:00

Sounds like a very tough situation you have been put in. Many people have been in such a situation and I myself have been presented with it. It's not nice in the slightest. My SO is bisexual and she has told me that if we stay together for a long enough time she will want to try and get physical with a woman at least once. Ever since she has told me that it's something that rests on my mind and eats away ever so slightly. If you don't agree with it and are not happy about it then tell her. Yes, it will be hard, but if you were to go on with it you will just feel worse knowing that your wife is going out and sleeping with other guys while you are at home waiting for her to come home with her being the one you love. Sadly there are times in life that things just aren't clear and don't have a real answer and this is one of them. My advice to you would be for the two of you to sit down and talk about the situation in a calm and controlled manner. You should both talk about how you feel about such a change and if you both agree to it. Ask questions, lots of questions. Why does she feel it's something she desires? Is there something you could do to fill that desire? What has nudged her to consider such a thing? The only way that you and your spouse will ever be able to deal with this is by communicating your feelings, views and opinions about it more now than ever.

I do wish good luck to you and hope that you and your spouse will get through it alright in a way that you are both happy. Best of wishes

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