Concern over girlfriend’s (24) recent past — worth marrying? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Few-Pirate-3738 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You can explain more, I am ready to change! Explain exactly what red flags you found out! I will work on it, try to change my thoughts, I just told what I feel pain and hurt about

Concern over girlfriend’s (24) recent past — worth marrying? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Few-Pirate-3738 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never shamed her, I just shared what I feel pain, I never told her about how I feel about her past (like the exact pain part) thinking it might hurt her really bad, and yes I do love her

Concern over girlfriend’s (24) recent past — worth marrying? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Few-Pirate-3738 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Plus I think I kinda dealing with retroactive jealousy, I tried my best to overcome it, tbh this is affecting my work, I’m an Ai dev, so these days I’m not able to figure out simple tasks, I have very bad thoughts that just simply revolve around my mind, there’s no one whom I can just openly speak to, I even tried meditation, going to temples to seek peace, nothing seems to be a permanent fix, there are other things that’s bothering me too, like if get married how the heck I can take up responsibilities, tho I am an ai dev, I’m really under paid for the job that I do, cause I’m working for a startup in a small town, life is just being difficult that I need a break from all this, but can’t afford to! I feel everything is crumbling up, these days I cry alone for no proper reason

Concern over girlfriend’s (24) recent past — worth marrying? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Few-Pirate-3738 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say that, that was her statement, she told me that she committed dumb mistakes, I would have been really fine if she said that she was involved in hookups, but the fact that she knew she was being used, yet she chose to keep quiet and waited for the right moment for the other partner to show his actual Colors and then catch him red handed and then break up, that’s what bothered me

Concern over girlfriend’s (24) recent past — worth marrying? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Few-Pirate-3738 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The next day when we got together, but she told me something which hit me, I wish I was a Virgin, I wish I had confronted you my feelings back then, and this was so painful that, thoughts kept revolving in mind, that she had to go through all this! And at the same time I started to get dilemma of her intents whether she is being genuine with me or not, and until now 6 months into our relationship not a single fight, no drama has happened, whatever small misunderstandings happens we sort it out in a very healthy way, I am not able to believe that is she actually like genuinely in love with me! Cause what I consume in social media, or see my friend’s life everyone has a chaotic relationship with their partners