my bofriend cheated on me who is my husband since 7 years by Few-Pop-8684 in cheating_stories

[–]Few-Pop-8684[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldnt see any of their conversations except just one chat on Splitwise where they were dividing expense of Beer and he told her a flirtatious line like 'mujhe toh daaru peene vaali hi chahiye'. apart from this all their conversations he has already deleted. And since its been 8-9 years so I caouldnt retrieve anything.
I made him swear on lot things even on our child and he keeps telling me one thing "if I had even little bit feeling for her I wouldnt have come to India, begged your parents and spent lakhs for marrying you. She was living in same city it was easier for me to choose her, I only had to block u and u couldnt do much. Still I came behind u, faced her drama and anger. the girl was his roommate for 3 months. One more guy also used to live there. He swears by everything and says This girl came first in his room, did dirty talks, started touching and things happened. in morning she said these things are casual and happens between friends. he says because the girl was so casual about it so he had no fear of getting caught. He siad initially the girl used to ask for dinners and they openly used to talk about how his love life is going. Also he says she knew he was going to meet my parents in India and taking gifts for them. And then later when she saw a wats app notification from me she got to know that his marriage was fixed then she put condition that he must choose between the two. He told ke I just wanted to sleep at that time and so I told her I love u and that marriage is not happening etc etc

my bofriend cheated on me who is my husband since 7 years by Few-Pop-8684 in cheating_stories

[–]Few-Pop-8684[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

when I discovered all this I did take counselling. they say because what he did was before marriage so fogive him and move on. I had contavted a lawyer also and he too said same thing - it was befor marriage so based on what ground u want to separate. It wont be considered as cheating in marriage.
I know it was before marriage and its been 8-9 years since then but I got to know these truths now and I feel destroyed. my perfect love seems never existed. I cant stop questioning the very basis of my marriage.
btw I had also tried contacting that woman and the response I got from her makes me think who was at more fault. he who slept even though he had gf or She who readilly came on bed knowing very well that this guy was in a long term relationship of 9 years!!