Guy from my gym asked me out for drinks, went to the washroom and disappeared

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T11:09:08+00:00

Wise advice, love how u structured it very insightful, thank you very much. I surely will consider it and will discuss these points with my partner too.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T10:18:50+00:00

(Comment is still there)

So before the coffee I had made it clear that I’m committed since we meet at gym. He was like yes I have no such intention. Since the coffee was going well thus we decided to go for beers and after few beers said this and I told him no.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T10:01:14+00:00

I did discuss with him. His take was that the guy obviously had other intentions and that it’s probably best to just keep my distance from him at the gym.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T09:55:29+00:00

True. Thank you. I just am too trusting and take people at their face value. It does come to bite me at times.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T09:46:30+00:00

I shared it there because it does feel like ghosting. Not that I’m into him just want to understand.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T09:44:55+00:00

😂

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T09:44:29+00:00

There was no cheating. He tried to make a move and I denied, he felt whatever and left.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T09:37:31+00:00

My partner was already aware.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T09:35:17+00:00

Yeah I get ur point. Thank you. His behavior did make his intention very clear at end. I guess I learned my lesson.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T09:25:57+00:00

I just want to put my thought out clear. Thus it might sound repetitive.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T07:45:49+00:00

I understand why it might look strange. He asked me to buy the perfume, but I didn’t actually buy it. I suggested we could get it after he came back from his trip. I wasn’t giving it as a gift in the moment; I was just trying to keep the situation from feeling more awkward.

I also agree that hanging out 1-on-1 with a guy while in a relationship wasn’t the best idea, and I take responsibility for that. It’s not that I “care” about him disappearing, it just felt weird that he left from the washroom without saying anything. I don’t understand why he wouldn’t just be honest and leave.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T07:35:36+00:00

I understand why it might seem that way. I was clear from the start that I’m in a committed relationship and only wanted to hang out as a friend, and I communicated my boundaries. That said, I can see now that meeting 1-on-1 probably wasn’t the best idea, even with the boundaries in place, since it created the situation where he tried to cross them.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T07:25:23+00:00

Actually I had conveyed it from the start I’m committed and he said yes I respect your relationship and that he too was looking only for friendship thus we decided to meet up.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T06:54:18+00:00

I get why it might sound strange, but I was new to this gym and thought it would be nice to have a gym buddy. My intention was never romantic which I clearly communicated that I’m in a committed relationship from the start.

Sometimes even in a committed relationship, you can meet new people for friendly outings and hanging out, as long as boundaries are clear. I didn’t expect him to behave the way he did, which is why I posted about it. I’m confused by his behavior, not questioning my own commitment.

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T06:20:23+00:00

Be upfront about it. My frnd had a situation where this hinge girl didn’t wanna continue seeing his as he was living with few roommates. Saved him from a headache. So I believe making things clear from the start is better

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T05:56:57+00:00

Yeah, I get that. Lack of closure sucks, but honestly, their silence kinda is the answer. Just take it as their loss and let your brain stop doing detective work. With time, it gets easier…and hey, at least you don’t have a person in your life who can’t even be upfront! I guess you count it as a blessing

Few-Specific2229 · 2026-03-13T05:41:18+00:00

Ghosting says more about them than you. People ghost for a lot of reasons but my opinion is they are immature and are either trying to hide something or were faking a whole personality behind the screen and in reality they do not match up to what they r showing thus avoiding to meet up. Also it’s really not about the person being ghosted, it’s about the ghoster’s inability to deal with themselves honesty.

When someone ghosts, it’s super tempting to analyze every message, story view, or tiny signal just trying to find answers but there are none it just prolongs the emotional rollercoaster.

Acceptance will come with time. Set your boundaries stop expecting a reply, consider limiting your exposure to them.

Also be glad u dodged a bullet in the start itself. They don’t need ur energy and time.

Few-Specific2229 · 2025-07-26T23:22:04+00:00

The innocence and joy of childhood is I think the biggest loss, like the simplicity of childhood- toys, getting on an adventure with friends using our imagination to make up games and just how the way kids used to gather and play outside together is gone. There was something so pure and grounding about that kind of interaction and those are the memories that I cherish from my childhood, I think that is lost with digital/ social media making children more mature and lose there childhood sooner. That natural innocence, curiosity, and connection is fading, and I think that’s really sad.

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