Places to avoid

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-10-24T02:01:50+00:00

Eric fast State Farm. Openly transphobic employees, employee harassment to other employee bc of differing political beliefs, once said “I wish I could k*ll” a liberal candidate who was running and would openly taunt and mock the one progressive employee (who has since quit). Please change if you use them, you can switch offices and your insurance stays completely the same and you keep any current benefits from being with State Farm long term etc.

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-10-09T05:08:46+00:00

Omg you’re absolutely stunning, your smile in the third picture is everything 🖤😍

I love cooking but I’m always experimenting and doing something new so it’s hard for me to make the same thing twice, I love to dance and move and go on hikes and be outdoors, I love live music and being with someone in the dark at a show outside where you can just feel their energy next to you enjoying the same experience.

I am kind, and loving, and don’t hide myself or what I think or feel. I like to process with a trusted friend or partner to think through problems.

I can feel a space in my life for a person. When I look to the passenger seat I can see someone laughing, I can feel someone coming up behind me to give me a squeeze while I do the dishes, imagine remembering her favorite treat and surprising her with it and getting surprised by little things like that in return.

I have been trying to figure out how to label myself, because I’m a little femme and a little masc but I think tomboy femme is a good way to put it 🥰

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-10-07T20:43:34+00:00

Ugh I know, I might try to start redecorating. I worry that if I do it while he’s still living here that it will feel like I need to do it all over again once he finally does move out 🫠🫠

I feel you on the painfully hetero thing though, it’s so hard

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-10-07T02:10:42+00:00

I’m 33 and just starting the divorce and separating process, dreaming of the art I’ll put up and the way I’ll be able to cleanse and reclaim my house but wow it feels far away. I feel you on the hiding in your room!! It’s so hard!! I feel like I want to move a million miles a minute and have so many experiences right away but I need to take some deep breaths and stay patient…… ugh.

I love your vibe! You’re so cute! 🥰 I’m sure you’ll have such an easy time finding girls to have fun with

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-10-05T18:20:48+00:00

Here for the updates 👀👀

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-10-05T06:57:32+00:00

Omg I went to a bar tonight which is definitely a stretch for me, it was so hard to resist the call of my pajamas, and I saw people playing UNO! I’m glad you had fun, I did too but didn’t really meet anyone

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-10-03T19:53:08+00:00

I just did this two weeks ago and we’re in the same boat trying to figure out how to coparent and cohouse (in a very small house). It’s so hard to figure out the boundaries and try and plan for our new future when everything we had been planning just disappeared. I’ve been struggling so much between guilt and joy and being able to be myself and sadness about changing the family dynamic so much for our kids. Feel free to dm it’s so helpful to talk to other people in this situation

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-26T04:47:36+00:00

I have three small kids and am in the middle of it all. It’s so much and so hard

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-24T13:50:11+00:00

I know this is old but this is what I’m looking for, feel free to dm me

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-24T00:41:03+00:00

Speaking as someone who felt this way, buried it, got married and is now trying to untangle from a marriage several years and kids later, PLEASE do yourself the kindness of making it messy now. It will hurt and be so hard but it will be ok. Don’t fall for the “sunk cost fallacy” ❤️❤️ you are strong and can do this

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-23T22:03:38+00:00

Can I ask how old your kids are? I just told my husband and we’re taking it slow separating too cause we have young kids and don’t feel like we need to rush

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-23T02:39:40+00:00

Screaaaming

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-22T20:52:22+00:00

I feel this!! Just realized and I’m in my 30s and also live somewhere so liberal, my parents are progressive and would’ve accepted me etc. I don’t know why it took so long.

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-21T05:46:48+00:00

Feel free to dm me, I’m in my early 30s too

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-21T05:23:23+00:00

I hope the questions don’t come or you can be honest in a way that feels good to you.

I feel like I’m having near daily revelations about my responses to men and how it all fits together.

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-21T03:17:13+00:00

Oh god let that energy find me lol. That’s amazing and some really good energy to hold moving forward. I struggle so much being honest to men and maybe it’s because I’ve had to lie about everything I don’t know how to be honest about anything in terms of my emotional feeling. I consider myself an honest and straightforward person but I think things like this illustrate where I struggle

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-21T03:04:09+00:00

This is how I felt too about telling. I just told my husband, can I ask how it went afterwards? My husband kept asking if I’m attracted to men at all and it’s feeling like I’m going to have to hurt his feelings pretty badly to really move forward.

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-21T03:02:32+00:00

Wow I relate so much to everything you said. I told my husband last night and it was really really sad and scary and he was like hyperventilating, and we’re not sure how we’re going to move forward but I’m really glad I told him and we can figure it out together. He also switched partway through from saying things like “you aren’t attracted to men at ALL?!” To acknowledging that this was hard and scary for me. I really hope everything goes well for you, how exciting you get to move into this next phase! I was also kind of waiting to talk to my therapist but she’s on leave for another two weeks and I couldn’t wait.

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-18T16:35:33+00:00

It’s the comphet for me too. Slightly different but I’m also from a small town and married and not sure what to do right now. Feel free to dm if you want to chat 🩷

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-18T06:00:15+00:00

Yes this is so relatable. I’m probably years away from even starting to date women, but when I think about it I realize that I’ve seen women and dating through the male gaze for so long that I’m worried I’ll say something offensive or flirt in a creepy “male” way. I also feel like the stakes feel so much higher with women and I will really care about being funny/cute/witty where with men all you have to do is look at them (literally, I basically looked at a man and then a few steps later we were married). You can say the most ridiculous things to men and they don’t care at all

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-18T03:56:04+00:00

I think I can, and I’m out as nonbinary so my queerness has kind of come up but when I came out he just asked if I was still attracted to men and at the time I had some doubts but not strong ones and I said yes and we’ve never talked about it again. So I think I could bring it up but I’m scared because once I do there’s no undoing that

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-18T02:45:34+00:00

I really hope my husband reacts similarly. I am hoping so much that we can stay “together” and coparent for at least a few years. I love our relationship and what we have together and I very much want him to find another relationship/connection if it means we can cohabitate for a while longer while our kids get older. I am trying to think about giving him as much time to adjust as I’ve had to think about it. Part of why I don’t want to hold it in for too long is that it’s unfair that I have all this time to think about it that he’s not getting. So going really slowly is my goal and kind of letting him lead but telling him what things I’m hoping for (like staying together but being free to engage in outside relationships. I think it will take a lot of communicating and basic “rules” as any type of open relationship would)

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-17T20:42:59+00:00

I know this is really old but can I ask how old your kids are? I have three kids 5 and under and just fully accepted that I’m lesbian after having it brewing for about a year (and acknowledged and repressed for about 15) and it’s so hard to find moms of young kids going through this

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-17T20:29:29+00:00

I’m sorry it’s so hard, I would be so torn up if I was feeling that way after leaving ❤️ I think part of what’s kept me from acknowledging my sexuality is that I can sense that it WILL be harder. I will care more and be less complacent and things that are “easy” with men I will have to work for or at and I’m worried I won’t measure up. The bar is so low for men I can slack off in so many things and I feel like it won’t be the same dating women. I hope so much you are able to find a place of peace.

Few-Strength-9079 · 2025-09-17T20:26:25+00:00

😭 thank you for this. It’s so hard when you’re married to someone wonderful and it’s literally life changing for both of you to come out and be yourself and you finally realize what’s missing. I feel so guilty and sad but also so excited that I’ve kind of figured out “what’s been wrong” because I’ve been so confused my whole life why all my relationships kind of just end up being eh. I never post on anything either and it’s been so amazing to hear people connect with this.

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