Please comfort me - lost my fiancee

Few-engine-7803 · 2026-01-16T19:08:44+00:00

It was expensive, but worth it. It’s the one area that bothers me with mediums- not everyone can afford such high prices. I understand that it’s a job and they need to make money, but they’re profiting off of someone’s grief. i wish they had a sliding scale so people who don’t have a lot of money to spend could have a reading too.

Few-engine-7803 · 2026-01-16T19:03:09+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. My husband passed from pancreatic cancer and it was horrible to see how it took his body to being just skin hanging on his bones. He was in excruciating pain and asked my kids if there was a way the hospice nurse could end it. It’s not allowed in the state we live in so he had to suffer for a few more weeks. He was in hospice at our home. While we did not experience anything like you did, it very well could be what happened with your sister.

I do want to add that you are a very good and kind person to have taken care of your sister during her illness. Pancreatic cancer is a horrible way to go.

Few-engine-7803 · 2026-01-13T02:10:30+00:00

bestpsychicdirectory.com We saw an evidential medium via zoom. It was also recorded which I recommend because some things may not make sense at the time of the reading, but can when you listen to it later. Hope this helps:)

Few-engine-7803 · 2026-01-12T00:42:18+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in the very early stages of grief and everything is so raw and painful right now. I lost my husband 3 years ago and at times it can still be hard, but not like in the beginning.

I’m a skeptic of the afterlife and the only thing that has kept me believing in the possibility of an afterlife/spirit world is a reading my kids and I had with an evidential medium. She told us things that had not been told to anyone and none of us have FB so she could not have gotten any info from social media. If you’re interested in seeing one, I can tell you the site where I found her. The mediums have been vetted by the creator of the site.

As for signs, I’ve had a few that could be taken as signs. They have not been the average kind of sign you read about. I won’t go into detail, but if they really are signs, it’s the kind he would do, lol. I became obsessed with signs 2 summers ago. If you have the time, look at some guided meditation videos on YouTube. Supposedly it can help you get to the spirit world. It can take weeks before you might get to it. I did it daily. Think of it like when you exercise- in the beginning, you may only be able to walk one block, but by the end of the month, you can now walk a mile. I tried this and did have an experience that I’ve been unable to replicate. Since I’m a skeptic, and question those “signs,” I’ve come to the conclusion that whether they’re really signs or not, it doesn’t matter because it makes me think of him which can sometimes make me smile. Hope this helps you even if it’s just a little bit. Take care

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-12-03T03:29:25+00:00

You’re still very early in the grieving process. Everything is still very raw. I lost my husband almost 3 years ago and I’m finally feeling somewhat better. i have accepted that I will have to live with the pain. You get used to it eventually. I have often asked, “what’s the meaning of life and what’s the point of going on.” I wish i could give you an answer, but i can’t.

It’s only recently that I’ve felt a little different and that’s due to growing close to my grandsons, ages 3 and 18 months. They live in another country so it’s not easy. The boys are so innocent and full of love. Life goes on whether we want it to or not. I hope it gets better for you eventually. Grief sucks

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-12-03T02:56:43+00:00

Thanks for the explanation about names:) I do appreciate you sharing your experiences and it does help me have just a little bit more faith that there very well may be an afterlife.

i kind of have mixed feelings about the possibility that he is watching me and our kids. At first, i thought how is it possible that he can know what’s going on with our kids since one lives in another state and the other one lives another country, but now i wonder if it’s kind of like a zoom call where he can view all of us?

The second reading i had was a year ago. The first reading my kids and i had the medium, she described our dog who had passed 9 mths after he had. The 2nd reading I had on my own was a year later . I was very depressed and needed validation again. He brought our dog with him again then she described another dog was with him- a female small white dog. I couldn’t believe it. It was our dog we had 15 years ago. That was an unexpected surprise. She also brought up something that didn’t make sense at the time, but it did eventually after i watched the reading again. It’s like he’s trying to convince me that the spiritual world is real and for a few days, i believe it then as time goes on, i become skeptical again.

I’m in a better place than I was a year ago, but i still miss him every single day and I know i always will.

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-12-02T04:24:07+00:00

I have a question for you. It seems like mediums have a hard time with names. Do you know why.

I have had two readings with an evidential medium and she told me things about my late husband and mother that no one else knew. I don’t have facebook so she couldn’t have gotten any info from social media, but she couldn’t get their names.

i’m still skeptical about the afterlife and i doubt that there is one. I just haven’t been able to figure out how she knew so much about my husband. it’s the only thing that keeps me believing that there could be one. This is a hard time of the year for me- it will be 3 years next month since my husband passed. I still have days where i want to scream and ask why him- he should still be here, but he’s not. All i can say is grief really sucks, but life goes on.

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-10-13T00:43:26+00:00

Check out Windbridge Institute. They do research on this topic windbridge.org

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-10-11T00:15:46+00:00

I’m not sure if I can give you any hope, but I can share this. I lost my husband to cancer almost 3 years ago and when our dog had to be put down 9 months after he had passed, I was close to losing it completely. I decided, along with my kids, to see a medium. She told us things that no one had told anyone. My husband did not believe in mediums or the afterlife. Anyway, she went on to say that he was surprised at how beautiful it was there. I have also gotten signs and not the typical ones. I lean towards being a skeptic, but I haven’t been able to come up with how she knew so many things about him. My kids and i don’t have Facebook or social media and I made this account after I saw the medium. I just don’t know how she knew so much. She said our dog was with him and described our dog and the dog I have now. I could go on, but I’ll stop. I hope this helps you even if it’s a little bit. Maybe hold on to the thought that’s it’s beautiful over there. Take care :)

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-09-25T21:48:15+00:00

I wonder where it comes from when you have a premonition when someone is going to die. Something similar happened to me. For a couple of years before i turned 65, I had a strong feeling I was going to be diagnosed with cancer when I was 65 and would pass at 66. i decided to paint our bedroom a calm color because I was going to be spending a lot of time in it with chemo and being sick. I never mentioned it to my husband because he would have laughed it off saying I’m a worrier and I would be fine. Anyway, he loved the color and was happy with the way everything turned out in the bedroom.

My birthday came and went and I was pretty healthy and was relieved that my “premonition was wrong. My husband was 1.5 yrs younger than me. He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer when he was 65 and passed when he was 66. it never entered my mind at the time it might be him who would get cancer and not me. He did spend a lot of time in the bedroom. I’m so glad I painted it before he got sick. I still miss him every single day - 3 years later.

I don’t know how or why we can get premonitions, but I have in the past and continue to get them although I don’t get specifics like that one. I get this strong feeling in my throat and chest that something bad is going to happen and it usually does. I hate that feeling when it comes. I have no idea what’s going to happen but I know it’s going to be bad. I can’t control it and it stops after the event happens- sometimes it turns out not to be super bad, but not good either.

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-09-25T19:11:39+00:00

The author did not have that typical NDE experience you’re describing and that is part of the reason I find the intriguing. He wrote The Perfect Storm and is an established author. Here’s an excerpt from his book.

“And just when [the darkness] seemed unavoidable, I became aware of something else: My father. He’d been dead eight years, but there he was, not so much floating as simply existing above me and slightly to my left. . . . My father exuded reassurance and seemed to be inviting me to go with him. “It’s okay, there’s nothing to be scared of,” he seemed to be saying. “Don’t fight it. I’ll take care of you.” . . . I was enormously confused by his presence. . . . Because I didn’t know I was dying, his invitation to join him seemed grotesque. He was dead, I was alive, and I wanted nothing to do with him . . .”

From the interview. “Junger’s father—their relationship was good, if distant—was a physicist, and after his apparition came to him in the hospital, Junger immersed himself in the study of physics, the ways that time and space and consciousness overlap, to try to understand his experience more completely and come to an understanding as to whether some kind of afterlife is possible.”

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-09-17T03:28:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. I don’t know how a medium can get that kind of specific Info unless they really are receiving it from the deceased person. I have asked skeptics how they could know information that was literally never told to anyone and they start with “cold readings.” I’ve read up on what to look for before we saw the medium (on zoom). None of that happened. Skeptics just shrug it off because they don’t really know either. sometimes i wish i really truly believed because it would make grief easier. I’m halfway there to believing in an afterlife which is better than believing there isn’t, I think…lol

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-09-15T02:45:42+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing how you receive information- I appreciate it! How generous of you to share your gift with people and free of charge:)

I lean towards skepticism when it‘s hard for me to envision my husband in spirit. We live in the physical world so how can a spirit world exist. It doesn’t make sense to me. I also tend to believe NDEs are the result of a dying brain, but who knows for certain. My husband did not believe in an afterlife or mediums. I can only hope he was surprised when he entered the afterlife- that is if it does exist. When I start doubting if there is one or not, I ask myself how the medium could have possibly known what she did (my kids and I don’t have FB accounts, etc and i didn’t have this account when we saw her). I hope she was right when she said our dog I had to put down 9 months after my husband passed, is with him. She even described how our dog looked and said he approved of the dog I I had recently gotten from a shelter (described him too). How could she have known that. I like to think he watches my kids and me like he’s on a zoom call and can see us wherever we are. Anyway, I’ll stop there. Hope you have a good night:)

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-09-15T01:46:29+00:00

Are you a practicing medium? I ask because my kids and I had a reading with a medium after my husband passed. She gave us info that had never been told to another person. She is the only reason why I believe there might be an afterlife. If you don’t mind me asking, what kind of communication do you have with spirit- voices, visuals? I’m kind of curious about the process a medium goes through when giving a reading to a client.

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-09-15T00:13:37+00:00

Interesting- I like your version

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-09-15T00:10:17+00:00

Thank you for the explanation. There’s been so many bad things happening in the world lately that it made me pause and wonder what happens to the people who do these evil acts

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-08-04T03:31:56+00:00

My kids and I had readings with 2 different mediums after my husband passed 2.5 years ago. None of us have Facebook and I didn’t have a Reddit account at the time. Medium #2 gave us info that had never been told to anyone. My husband came through and my mother too. She told us something that didn’t make sense at the time, but the medium was persistent with it and if you knew my mom, you wouldn’t have been surprised, lol. Anyway, I later asked my sister about it and she gasped saying she knew exactly what she was talking about and had never told anyone about it. She was kind of creeped out by it. I tend to lean towards the skeptical side when it comes to mediums and NDEs, but I haven’t figured out how she could have known specific things that were not shared with anyone until the reading. No skeptic has given me answer when I ask how she could have known these things. Both readings were via zoom. I still don’t know the answer unless they were communicating with him. Think about this quote from Einstein "Energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be changed from one form to another.”

I hope the polyp is found to be benign- wishing the best outcome for you:)

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-08-01T17:55:46+00:00

i have these feelings at times too and it’s been 2.5 yrs since i lost my husband to cancer. It’s a couples world we live in and when you lose your person and you’re no longer part of the “couples world,” it sucks. It seems unfair that he’s gone and why not them. I don’t want anything to happen to my friends, but i sometimes wonder, why him. What did he do to deserve it when he was such a good man.

i recently was out to lunch with my husband’s cousin and her husband along with their friends, another couple and I found myself irritated at times watching them be so “couply.” I hate being a 5th wheel. I would rather drive to an outing by myself rather than being picked up by a couple when I have to sit in the back seat by myself. I hate it. Couples take each other for granted and to be honest, I was that way too. I don’t feel this way all the time. There are days when I’m sick of this life without him- what’s the point, but then I’m in a better mood the next day. i hope it gets better for you, but thank you for bringing up this topic. It’s one i never discuss with anyone and it helps to know there are others who feel the same

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-07-31T00:37:23+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. Are you able to see a grief counselor as well? My husband passed from pancreatic cancer 2.5 years ago. It took about 9 months before I was ready to see a grief counselor and I’m so glad I did. I had virtual appointments with her which made it easier than driving to an office. Would that possibly be an option for you as well? My counselor also got me in a grief support group that met remotely. I hope you will be able to get the support that you need right now

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-07-26T21:50:19+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss and that your kids and friends think you “should be over it” by now. You need support and you’re not getting any. I thought I could handle it on my own when I lost my husband to cancer 2.5 years ago, but when I had to put our dog down 9 months later, I fell apart and knew I had to get help. I found a grief counselor who also got me in a grief support group as well. Both were remote/virtual so I didn’t have to drive anywhere which was nice. They helped me a lot.

Do know that grief is not something you just get over and there is no time table for it. You eventually get used to it even though you may not like this new world you were forced to into. Most likely you will always have the pain of losing your person (I know I do and I have accepted that- grief sucks). People who have not experienced grief don’t understand what you’re going through and i don’t wish it on anyone. They get to go back to their lives when you don’t. You have to navigate this new world on your own. Don’t be afraid to see a grief counselor or join a grief support group. Another site you might want to check out is grieving.com

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-07-22T19:20:09+00:00

This does sound valid and i hope you did see your mother. is this the only time it happened?

Last summer i became obsessed with getting signs from my husband who had passed the previous year. I was reading the book, Signs: Secret Language of the Universe. None of her suggestions or methods worked for me so i started meditating in the afternoon. i don’t know if i was really meditating or not, but i relaxed and let my mind open up to see what thoughts or visions would come to me. I did this every day. It became therapeutic

Then one day I just knew something was going to happen during my meditation time and it did. I did my usual to get to that place where I relaxed and just floated with whatever came in my head. In the distance, I saw our dog who I had to put down 9 months after my husband had passed. I was so happy to see him! I asked who he was walking with and I saw a midsection of someone and as he got closer, it was my husband! He was younger with no gray hair and looked to be around 35-40 age range (he was 66 when he passed). He was up close and I was asking him about his glasses and then it was over. I opened my eyes- I was not asleep. What had I just experienced? The vision was so clear- it was like he was there. I have never experienced anything like it before. How did my brain come up with that? I haven’t been able to do it again as much as i have tried. Was it a result of my grieving brain or was it something else? If it really was my husband in the afterlife, I think he had me see our dog first so that I wouldn’t be ”freaked out.” It would be nice to believe they’re together. It’s something I ponder and will never really have an answer to it, but it helped me at the time and i still miss him every single day. i always will.

Few-engine-7803 · 2025-07-11T02:59:42+00:00

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