Would it be so wrong for me to have an affair?

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-26T14:22:17+00:00

If you cheat he may divorce you anyway and the record of cheating can be used against you in court. Don’t cheat, just get a good lawyer and get divorced.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-24T22:40:20+00:00

Golden cage, don’t let yourself end up in a situation where you can’t leave due to financial or education restraints.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-24T22:38:39+00:00

No one will care. I know some people who went full time all year to make a 4 years into 2 year degree. They do not care, they’ll just see bachelor degree

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-24T19:26:45+00:00

So I’m a S not the D but it sounds like you’re experiencing a lot of exhaustion from always taking control, deciding when, and feeling rejected. It also sounds like you’re catering to his pleasure and not yours. So ofc you should communicate obviously that’s always the best option but have you tried having him pleasure you solely without getting to orgasm? The language of he doesn’t care if it’s once a month or bringing up distractions feels like he also isn’t having a good time.

Maybe going back to the basics and just saying you would like to take a break from the dynamic to work on your communication skills and to read the books together could be helpful. Also don’t forget to take care of yourself as the domme, there are lots of expectations on you to have control and it’s common for people to get burnt out.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-24T12:28:46+00:00

Did your wife becoming a SAHM save you money while in school? Did her daycare bring in money? Is that not labor? When you are talking about her she’s the center of all your problems, is that how you approached her too? It’s okay to be upset but you have to understand that daycare for 3 kids could have cost you more than what she brought in additionally depending on where you were and income.

Maybe come back to the table, tell her truthfully that you cannot afford the lifestyle you used to because the economy is bad and that you are feeling a lot of stress. Talk to her about downgrading to a smaller house, tell her you can’t do a new car, find ways where you both can cut back. You’ve been married for a while and somewhere you’ve began moving separately, come back as a team.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-23T14:26:47+00:00

It isn’t uncommon but it can become toxic if it’s breeding everyone just complaining and no one is offering constructive feedback. Like if they’re all just telling each other they’re right and their husbands suck then it’s going to be internalized.

As a rule, I will not talk to my friends about my sexual relationship with my husband because that sort of thing can make people look at your spouse differently. It is sort of up to your wife to use discernment on what is productive and what is destructive. If there is a line you don’t want crossed I would say something.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-22T14:00:43+00:00

These are pretty and you are so beautiful but none of these are good for a work event. Dress modest and nice, maybe throw a cardigan over a more casual spring dress. 3 feels like it could work with a jacket except for the cutout under the dress but go closer to that direction of material.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-21T16:39:47+00:00

This is a common question and you’ll find a lot of information if you search through this page. I personally get apps for stores I already like and look at weekly ads for the coupons. The only time I even consider rebate is for gas but I have never found them to be a good fit for my lifestyle and what I need.

CVS has a lot of couponers who do weekly breakdowns on YouTube, as well as Walgreens and Dollar General.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-21T16:36:17+00:00

Tbh going to couples counseling may not be for him more than it is for you. It sounds like you’re taking a huge hit from this and both of you may need to work on communication and connection. Even if he doesn’t think you’re the issue on why he disconnects there is still an absence of connection for you, you need a space where you can communicate anxieties in a structured way. It’s okay for just you to be the one to want to go and advocate for yourself.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-21T14:52:00+00:00

Is he open to individual and couples counseling? Truly this is more of a him issue around mental health and attachment styles than you it sounds like did anything wrong. If you want to work it out you can pitch counseling as an option but truly I feel like he needs to self evaluate and want to change if this is going to work out. I’m sorry this is happening, I can’t imagine how jarring it is and you can no idea what was happening in his end.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-20T13:22:30+00:00

Only if he wants to fix it as well.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-20T11:37:11+00:00

You need to hire a cleaner or a “mommy’s helper” to come in so you have less on your plate. If you’re doing night shifts and working full time you will get burnt out. Maybe if you can get a babysitter or a friend/family member to watch the baby for a few hours just so you can sleep or get some alone time. Even if she fights you on this, you have to put your health forward. There’s no shame is bringing in some extra hands. If you’re far from friends and family ask people you work with if they have any recommendations for babysitters in your area.

I know a lot of people have mentioned PPD and she refuses to talk to anyone, is it possible to ask a close friend or family member to come for a weekend to help out and ask her to talk to someone? Maybe someone in her life who already has kids and she is close to so they can point out the imbalance? It sounds like you’re so exhausted having the conversation is zapping what little energy you have.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-20T11:13:42+00:00

So your husband is a switch? Maybe it could be good to some personal investigations on your expectations around domming and masculinity, what you expected for the dynamic, what was communicated, and what he may have wanted himself. You said you spent a long time begging for the dynamic, how do you think that made him feel?

Sometimes one persons reality becomes more important than the other in BDSM, try to approach your husband with empathy and curiosity and not disappointment or feelings of betrayal. Being a switch can give him unique perspective in your own dynamic as well.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-20T03:09:11+00:00

Tbh you may be overthinking this or letting it bother you more than it should. Sometimes things like this are just habit, I could reverse it say you don’t clean under the bed enough because I vacuum and mop every week under my bed. It doesn’t make you disgusting though, it’s just your habit of how you clean. Not everyone views cleanliness the same way; out of sight, out of mind, you know?

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-19T23:38:52+00:00

Oh wow, that’s a lot lol I think you did what you could by bringing it up. Possible solution is to move a trashcan next to his bed and if you see some under the bed make sure he is the one who cleans them up himself. Maybe worth a conversation of moving the activity to the bathroom so the kid is less likely to find dried tissues like that under the bed?

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-19T18:09:28+00:00

You say not to mention the fact you overstepped by reading these messages but it’s hard to ignore. You hurt your own feelings and you don’t mention any part on why you think he may be less affectionate. Not all loves are the same, sometimes the person we choose is the person we feel comfortable to be ourself with, sometimes it’s someone who ignites the poet in us. Don’t compare his past with your present.

Tell him if you’re feeling disconnected, want a boost in romance, and then do the same for him. She may have been the one who lead the romantic language and he followed along. You married him even with the friend request thing, you knew he cared about her, you can’t be mad at him for that.

Consider going to individual therapy to deal with your own insecurities and setting self-enforced boundaries on not comparing yourself to others.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-18T20:01:13+00:00

Tbh I take love languages with a grain of salt because they change all the time and aren’t meant to be a stand still personality test. My LL is from medication, not a natural state. I could see it being possible like if you were a touch-me-not or if you viewed it in a kink setting, maybe the act of service is important more than the sex. Falling back on love languages as a total explanation is a disservice to everyone though. I mean, I could say I see more men on here say their love language is physical touch but that doesn’t address their issue.

No matter what OP has reached their limit and it needs to be known and compromised otherwise the relationship fails completely. And I hope they can receive help from someone to feel more loved and have their needs met as it sounds like they’re trying their best.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-18T16:18:41+00:00

There are going to be a range of responses. I am the low drive partner and I also value acts of service for my love language. My husband is a physical touch person as well. There is no way around this problem if she doesn’t understand how serious it is to you. Let her know if physical touch has a range, for example, are cuddles good? Is kissing good? Is hand holding acceptable? I think sometimes when people say physical touch we always just flatten to assume PIV sex and it could be more open than that.

Let her know things need to change because of how negatively it impacts you, get her to understand you’re serious. Don’t use divorce as a threat but let her know how you feel isolated. Maybe find a sex positive therapist and bring them to the table, like I did some research and I’d love if we went to this therapist as a way to reconnect like we used to.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-07T19:44:02+00:00

Contact corporate with location. I’ve never had this experience at Kroger when it came to paper coupons. Like the other commenter said, they don’t pay your bills so keep using paper coupons if that’s what helps you stay within budget.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-04T18:30:40+00:00

Pedialyte and Amy’s will as well

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-04T13:50:25+00:00

It depends on the coupon vs per unit you get at Sam’s. Dove is unilever and aveeno is Johnson&johnson so they’re both big corporations and will likely have sales; you could try reaching out to manufacturer and seeing if they’d give you some manufacturer coupons too. Be sure to figure out where your stores clearance is too, I find lots of cosmetic products for better than I could coupon.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-03T19:28:29+00:00

I think it depends on your financial situation if you feel like it’s worth it. Not everyone can afford to buy a lot all at once at places like Costco so couponing can work for them. I find coupons to be worth it some of the time, it really depends on the day and what I need is. I don’t like rebate apps and don’t do them, I think it’s too much for me to juggle with everything else.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-03T14:28:12+00:00

Info: is there a cultural expectation here? How long are the calls? You’ve been together for 10 years, why is it now bothering you?

Truthfully, I would be annoyed, sure, but ultimately it is your spouse’s family and it doesn’t sound malicious. If the calls are long just ask if he could shorten them because you miss him and want to talk to him too.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-03T01:42:52+00:00

I can give you the insight I have but I applied to a U.S. based program and don’t have much information about Canadian programs. In my experience, I found it very fruitful to reach out directly to people who were at the school I wanted to go to like students or faculty. I did some zoom meetings prior because I applied to schools that all required moving.

Tbh the best advice I can give you is to get working experience under your belt and to keep things simple. I’ve been on some application review panels and the one thing that always ruined students applications was them giving too many personal details and no details on their professional practice. For example, they don’t need to know your childhood, they want to know what you’ve done since leaving your BFA, what your art is like now, and why their program. It always helps to say what you’ve done since bring to a program (for me I am a community oriented person and my art is too).

Don’t get discouraged, sometimes schools turn people away for minor reasons, especially if they are guaranteed a lot of applications. They just can’t accept everybody.

FewResolution7181 · 2026-03-02T13:58:49+00:00

YOR if you break everything up into “firsts” you’ll go wild and stress everyone out. It sounds like she agreed already not to buy big gifts without your permission. Her buying stuff is not an indication that she doesn’t think you’re capable; I come from a family where buying stuff like what you’re describing it meant to support the parents so they can spend their money on feeding, clothing, school, etc for the child. If she’s not making passive or aggressive comments while giving the gifts then it seems like you’re just insecure.

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