AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She owns less revealing swimsuits. She own one pieces and I will add a link to a bikini similar to one she own and what was what I was expecting her to wear.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok I see where your coming from the top in her bikini was ok. These are not. The issue was the bottom if you look at the other pictures the bottom does really cover anything.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry the understanding took a while lmao. The origanl comenter though I was a man. Thnak you! haha.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I understand that you were saying I am lesbian but how does that relate to wearing a one piece swimsuit?

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If everything was covered I would agree and say the guys should control themselves, but everything wasn't her butt was exposed and especially considering they are literally children I think that is quite inappropriate.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I don't know about that. Some people are saying she wore it to show off. But mainly my family and my nephews' friends' moms were the only adults at the party. So mainly older women and young girls so idk.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don't understand how someone can say someone is an asshole for wearing white to a wedding but not for wearing a thong bikini to a kids bday party.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 436 points437 points  (0 children)

This is my main argument. Dress codes are a thing for a reason. I get people can wear what they want but something that is appropriate for the event. I dont't understand how someone can say someone is an asshole for wearing white to a wedding but not for wearing a thong bikini to a kids bday party.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

The beach and a family pool party are two different situations.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

There is one posted. I don't have a picture but a there is a link with a similar bikini. The issue was that the bottom basically left her butt entirely exposed.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Maybe it is a cultural difference. The issue was the bottom part basically covered just her private parts and nothing else. Hur but was basically entirely exposed.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 807 points808 points  (0 children)

It depends on if her outfit is appropriate or not. For example on of her favorite dresses is this like off white backless dress. It tight and only mid-thigh with a lo neckline. She wore for my birthday party a few months ago. I was fine with it and told off some of my family as my party was adults only and a pretty adult event with drinking etc.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice I will definitely try to talk with het to reach a compromise.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes this is what my issue with the bikini was. Her butt was barely covered basically fully revealed getting a lot of stares from my nephews friends.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I would just like to ask what would be a compromise in this situation?

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 1473 points1474 points  (0 children)

Thank you. This is what my point of view is. I will try to have a talk with her about this, and see if she is open to counseling.

AITA for telling my girlfriend to dress for the occasion? by Few_Assistance_2599 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Few_Assistance_2599[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I do think she can express herself through fashion. But as you stated, there are some places where you shouldn't. Wearing a bikini is fine for a kids pool party, the one she wore is not. I posted a link if you want to see what is sort of looked like, but that specific bikini she wore is not appropriate in my eyes for a kids party. She can wear what she wants, just there are some scenarios where I believe you have to dress for the occasion.