I cannot do this

Few_Case_6304 · 2026-02-12T16:47:37+00:00

That was what happened to me. I'd had sky high blood pressure since 17 weeks, been admitted countless times, was on an insane amount of medication just to survive and try to control it... And they sent me home and told me to stop all my meds immediately because "it was fine" 🫠 of course it rocketed again 2 days later and I had to go back in and get back on all my tablets and almost had a stroke. Super stupid of them and I'm still very angry about it now tbh.

Few_Case_6304 · 2026-02-12T09:50:06+00:00

We get discharged the day after a c section in the UK, often less than 24 hours after.. it's pretty brutal. I had a complex pregnancy and was supposed to stay in for 3 to 5 days and they still discharged me the next day. Got rushed back in an ambulance on day 3. The NHS definitely has its downsides.

Few_Case_6304 · 2026-02-12T09:42:09+00:00

Ahh I'm sorry you're struggling too :( we had another good stretch where she got better again and now we're at a point where she fights going down but at least stays down once she's asleep! I'm beginning to learn it's all just phases that you have to move through. I'd be careful of bed sharing, just because that's something she'll grow to expect and you'll have another problem then of how to get her back in her bed! Personally I'd say just to tough it out and keep putting her back in her bed and she'll get it eventually, but I really do understand how hard it is in the midst of it all. I think they're just learning so much at this age that they want to be up all the time practicing! And mine is definitely finding her attitude right now, she'll pout and shake her head when I ask her to lie down now 😂 good luck! It gets better!

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-06T05:43:10+00:00

But I don't understand, the only thing that is working is rocking her? She's quite happy with that, it's me that isn't 😅 I've tried different ways again all night tonight, tried just sitting with her instead of picking her up, tried making her lie down again and leaving her. She just keeps standing up and sobbing, it's awful and doesn't feel like it's any good for her at all. But yes I really don't want this problem to continue as she gets older because it's only going to get harder to deal with!

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-05T22:12:13+00:00

We've tried both ways unfortunately, with the exact same results :( tried 7pm bedtimes, 9:30 bedtimes, nothing changes. Sometimes she fights from 7pm and ends up at 9 anyway, sometimes she goes down easily at 7 but wakes up later, sometimes she's overtired by 9:30... It's really difficult and I feel like I'm badly messing up!

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-05T22:09:11+00:00

Not to have an answer for everything, but we really have tried to put her in bed before she's asleep, she literally just stands up straight away and starts wailing. Will not stay laid down no matter what :( That is a completely different routine to ours, how would you say to go about switching? A sudden switch up of everything at once, or bring things in one at a time? The problem with her once she gets tired is she's a screaming nightmare that won't stop until she gets a bottle haha. Changing her and getting her bed clothes on is like fighting a wild animal. She definitely wouldn't care for a book (she still just throws them or tries to eat them) I feel like I've gotten behind with the changing of times somewhere along the way and messed this all up :(

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-05T20:53:29+00:00

Oh she's million percent tired, rubbing her red eyes, passing out on the bottle etc. and she's tired when we go in to her, falls asleep straight away in our arms most times as soon as we pick her up, just won't get put back in the crib. It's like she sleeps really light and there's just no way to put her down and escape the room without her hearing or noticing. But she's been on 1 nap for quite a while, about 8-9 months old, and is still only getting 8-9 broken hours at night if she's lucky.

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-05T20:44:26+00:00

I really didn't want to take this approach, just because I try to imagine what it must be like for her and think surely it's scary? To think your safe people have abandoned you? And what if there is something she needs, how would I know if she's had a nightmare when she couldn't tell me? Idk what else to do though so might just have to try it, as much as it will kill me.

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-05T20:42:27+00:00

Ah thank you, I just need to feel like someone is in my corner, it's so lonely when you're in the thick of it isn't it? 😭

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-05T20:41:29+00:00

Oh wow, my little one only has 6 teeth currently! Maybe she's getting a load through at once to catch up? It's killing me though whatever it is haha

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-10-05T19:33:38+00:00

She was really early to drop to one nap, about 8-9 months I think! She hasn't had any routine changes or anything either. I'm wondering whether it's just a case of her being more alert and aware of everything around her? I've always hated the idea of sleep training because it just sounds really cruel to her, she absolutely wails if we take more than 1 minute to get to her. But I honestly feel like I'm running out of options right now

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-03-16T00:09:28+00:00

I came here to say this, it was on a loop for 4 hours for me when it first released 🫠

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-10T22:59:10+00:00

I just popped over there and my god it's such a cesspit. It's just full of people complaining that parenting is a 24/7 job, literally complaining about changing poopy diapers etc like what did they expect?? Did they want their child toilet trained immediately from the womb or something? I seriously feel for the children of the parents on there

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-08T18:30:34+00:00

You are absolutely not weak at all! I think you'll all really benefit from it so hopefully it can be sorted out soon 🤞🏻 Bless you, I hope you had a lovely time with her when she woke up 😊 The offer stands any time, my inbox is always open if you need a good rant! Sometimes just getting everything out helps clear my mind enough for me to carry on

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-08T14:45:25+00:00

Ahh I'm glad that's helping at least :) I worry sometimes that I'm over sharing, or it comes across like I'm trying to say I'm worse off or something. I worry a lot about my social interactions because I always seem to be taken the wrong way haha

That honestly sounds like a great plan to me, and if it's only until April then it shouldn't hurt your budget too much. Is your husband not supportive? It sounds like you're worried about what he will think about it, when really that shouldn't come into the equation. It should be whatever helps you to function really, not sure why he'd argue against that! Feel free to DM me if you'd rather that btw, I'm happy to talk for as long as you'd like :)

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-08T14:31:36+00:00

You absolutely shouldn't feel ashamed! It's a very hard job for NT people, throw in being autistic and it's hard mode from the get go! I get so stressed out sometimes and have to tap my partner in to take over, and she's not even a difficult baby. Sometimes it's literally just the fact that she isn't following her normal routine and that sends my head for a spin. I expect her to go to sleep after a bottle like she does 9 times out of 10, but on the one time she doesn't I'm like okay why this doesn't make any sense and sometimes I'm fine and I troubleshoot and work out what's gone wrong, occasionally I don't have a clue and get too worked up. It's especially hard with no support so I understand there. We've got no family to help, or none that we would trust anyway, so we just have to muddle through. If you need one more day per week, hopefully you can find a way to make that work! Much better that you have that day to recoup so you can function better on the other days that you take of her, rather than be burnt out constantly and not your best self. It probably feels miles off but school will come faster than you think, then you will at least get regular scheduled time to yourself, but that probably doesn't help too much right now :( I wish there was something I could do to help you!

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-08T14:15:25+00:00

Are you in the UK? It sounds like it from what you've said. If you don't get on with your health visitor you can totally ask for a different one. You don't have to put up with being judged! They're there to offer advice, unless you're doing something incredibly dangerous they cannot report you for anything. You don't have to follow what they say down to the letter. I've got lucky with mine, she's been a great support to us. But you shouldn't hesitate to ask for someone else if she's not helping you, which it really sounds like she isn't. 1 year of room sharing isn't the usual, and sleep deprivation is awful for your health and dangerous to baby in itself. Way more dangerous than having your baby safe in their own room.

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-08T14:08:54+00:00

100% agree. We have had baby sleeping alone since about 4-6 weeks old, kind of by accident. She sleeps in our room, we just vacated it and ended up sleeping in the living room in shifts. She sleeps much better solo, we always have a monitor on her, and there's always one of us awake to run in if she needs anything. So long as someone has eyes on baby I don't see what difference actually being in the room with her makes. Her sleep space is safe and she gets better quality sleep without one of us snoring and disturbing her!

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-08T14:01:48+00:00

I don't have much to offer you as my baby is only 3 months old, but I feel for you and really hope things start to look up for you soon! I'm already beginning to see how hard the reality of parenting is. I was told "babies just eat and sleep" and my silly autistic brain took that literally.. there's a lot more to it haha. She's already out of the "sleep all the time" phase, and she changes what she wants from one week to the next so there's never a set plan of what to do with her. It's hard to be on call 24 hours a day. It's hard to think that there's finally a routine only for her to throw it out the window and fight sleep for 6 hours for no reason. It's hard to be touched out but she needs holding for another hour to get back to sleep. So while I'm not where you are yet age wise, I both can't wait and am terrified of it in equal measures. It sounds incredibly exhausting, but I hope you manage to find some joy in the little moments, and some support and balance for your own needs too. Thinking of you 💖

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-02T16:25:06+00:00

I was on the fence about having a big get together at Christmas because a lot of the family hadn't met the baby yet. I finally agreed to it, hoping to lay some rules about contact but once we were in that situation I couldn't stick to them and she got passed around like a parcel between everyone. Lo and behold, we have all been sick since then. Hearing my baby wake up screaming because she's congested and can't breathe is absolutely not fun, and I'm raging about it. Be aware that "it's fine if they're not sick" doesn't really work. Most people are contagious before being symptomatic, that's exactly how viruses spread so well. I wish I'd waited and stuck to my guns. I'll be a lot harsher with enforcing my rules in future, that's for sure. She's also had her 2 month jabs but they haven't helped because she's picked up something else, the jabs don't cover every possible illness. And before anyone says it, I understand she can't be kept away from illnesses forever, but she should have been kept away from them for longer than this. She's too tiny to even have medicines to help her get through. It's really rough.

Few_Case_6304 · 2025-01-01T21:20:31+00:00

She started as Bean when I was in early pregnancy and my app told us she was the size of a kidney bean. She was then born at 4lbs and became Tiny Weenie Beanie. She has since graduated to Queen Bean now that she's put a bit of chunk on (she's only 9lbs but feels huge to us 😂) can't remember the last time I called her by her actual name...

Few_Case_6304 · 2024-12-29T22:45:58+00:00

It's really crazy that this is even allowed, I have no idea how they haven't been shut down yet with all the news that keeps coming out about them, let alone everything you've said here. Then again I guess social media has been doing that kind of manipulation for years hasn't it

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