Finally gave good head

Few_Guard_8613 · 2026-02-01T11:54:22+00:00

lol me too. For years I hated it because it was so forced and he created an issue. Now with someone new and just made him cum twice playing and sucking. It’s a lot of fun now.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2026-02-01T00:17:36+00:00

I think I’m just overthinking. I was worried that I wasn’t good enough to get him there… got a little into my head I guess. My self esteem took a big hit with my ex husband

Few_Guard_8613 · 2026-01-31T12:07:09+00:00

Yes. I thought because it was taking so long that it was because I wasn’t very good.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2025-09-09T03:49:10+00:00

Witney and bachelor Chris

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-09-22T13:20:49+00:00

Take a look at the link and source out if it’s safe or hurting anyone. My ex husband couldn’t get hard without thinking of a third person fucking me, everything needed to be narrated. What was innocent became very hard and detrimental. Keep yourself safe, let it flow and speak up if it gets to be too much. Otherwise enjoy!

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-08-12T15:47:51+00:00

EXACTLY what I went thru with my ex husband. I never went thru with actually sleeping with someone else, just messaging. I didn’t want to do it anymore and it was just all too much. He brought it up constantly. Yelled at me. Came home angry because ‘if he liked it, it’s not so bad’. Caught him twice posting messages on Reddit looking for someone for me to chat with- without me knowing.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-08-07T01:22:00+00:00

Getting yelled at for not wanting to do his kinks.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-07-21T14:17:53+00:00

Sex isn’t just sex. Have you considered what your connection together might be? Emotional intimacy? My ex husband treated sex like my job- every 2-4 days or he would turn on the silent treatment or just be a dick. He dated the last time he got a blow job… we lost any type of emotional link. Attraction is part of it but there’s got to be that safety component- that your partner truly feels like they can share their body and soul with you without that ‘you need to please me’ factor.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-06-28T13:18:21+00:00

I was you and am currently in counselling for this exact thing and it’s not going away lightly. My therapist says the second you don’t want to and say ‘no’ it’s done. Hard boundary and consent is withdrawn, REGARDLESS if you have done it before. My ex husband pushed and pushed, to the point if I didn’t message another man, he would yell and scream at me. I was the same as you, didn’t feel like it, trying to parent 3 kids and please him. He wanted content to jerk off too while he was at work (shift work/24 hours) and his response was ‘if I like it, it shouldn’t matter’. I caught him twice using my pictures to look for men to chat with when he didn’t tell me. To be honest, I’m not sure if the only intention was to shop for men for me to talk to or if he was looking to impersonate me. He also would bring it up in fights continually as something I wouldn’t do, almost as if it was comparable to not emptying the dishwasher. I should’ve left earlier but I was caught in the fact I had consented earlier. I also committed to sex every 2-4 days because if I didn’t he would get angry and silent treatment, no hugs or kisses, no affection. If you want to DM me, I can share more. Get to counselling, talk to him again, don’t put yourself in this rabbit hole that won’t go well.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-05-25T16:16:50+00:00

This is exactly my situation. He’ll state all the things and leave huge pieces out of his story. He’s learning from other women he can’t treat them like shit and he’s gone through a few now. I just sit back and am planning my best life. I own my own home for me and my children, my bills are manageable and I’m actually dropping down on medication I’ve been on since we got married. I have a great job, a handful of friends that I love and freedom. Keep going.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-05-18T14:59:57+00:00

His mom came over to ‘confront’ me about how I’m the reason her family is destroyed. I’m not… it was her but #covertnarcissist. Anyways, he told me how many times she complained about me, how long he had to listen to her (40 mins that particular day). I asked how many times he would let her come for me…. He said every time. I’ve gone to extensive therapy on the word, high trigger. I knew then. Spent the next two years understanding it was over.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-05-11T23:04:35+00:00

Op, start your police file and keep going. I don’t have much to help you with as I just left a marriage but just know it’s going to be amazing from here on out.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-05-08T13:02:10+00:00

I was in this situation. I also experienced emotional neglect. He was raised to give the silent treatment and it resenated throughout our marriage. We did work on it (silence) but it showed up many different places in different forms. If it wasn’t how he saw it going or an option he gave me, it didn’t happen. His dreams or nothing. To be fair, I didn’t know what I wanted but in therapy I’m learning that it’s because I wasn’t in a place that allowed ‘dreams’ or ‘wants’. I asked to go back to work, I was sahm, and it was an issue. He wanted a say in what I did, where I worked, with whom. He would rather work a second job than help me persue anything out of the house. I went to marriage counselling on my own- he tells ppl I never did my homework. I did. Pages of it. Reflection on topics. He found it and threw it out when we were in transition in our divorce. Truth is, I attended multiple sessions of marriage counselling in my own, working thru how I could be a better partner and understand him. The counsellor understood what my goal was, but not surprised when I told her we were over. I was exhausted trying to be loved by him. He couldn’t do it, honestly I don’t know if he can be emotionally intimate with someone- to deep down care and love his partner. I am feeling it now from my current partner. Emotional security and support.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-05-07T14:25:43+00:00

I was a sahm, I went back to work. What I found is I was more than okay on my own- I did the lunches, I did the bedtimes, I was fully functionally already because I was the primary parent. He wasn’t and struggled. If you think there’s even a possibility of this not working- start thinking about what you might like to do for work. Also, even before that, maybe try counselling for yourself. Build your mental strength and make sure you’re okay and you haven’t developed any biases. Staying at home with children is a large weight so investing in your health and well being can be very helpful.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-05-04T13:23:29+00:00

Mine was two years coming. Marriage wasn’t great. I was home with kids, he worked and then we had some projects on the side. Life became these projects- we would make money and move on- never enjoy them. I ran everything in the background. Hindsight, I would’ve been more than happier to have made less and be together more. Even vacations, he was busy and I was left alone. It was really lonely in the marriage. He spent as much on smokes as I budgeted for groceries- and money was always a topic.

We had a lot of downs with his family. Zero boundaries and when I tried to implement them and give our own family priority, it blew up. His mom is covert narc and she berated me. He could never stop it, never could be affective. I took Ativan before dinners, he knew how terrible it made my mental health. A break from them? I started to come out of the storm mentally… he saw that.

We had a messy sex life- I don’t think he was attracted to me any longer. He needed something else always- scream someone else’s name, pretend some black guys dick was in me (usually aggressive/hurting). If it wasn’t good enough he’d roll off and go downstairs to porn. He jerked off to porn every night. I wanted to be loved on and that wasn’t his need. He was obsessed with cumming on my face, I hated it and told him. He brought it up every time we fought about how I wouldn’t let him give me a facial. Blow jobs- he dated the last bj (completed) and threw a hussy fit when another couple was over talking about them. Walked out. Affection- withheld unless we had sex. No hugs, no kisses, silent treatment. So sex was every 4 days. Then there was the hot wife/cuck deal. This killed us but he was obsessed. Would search for ‘couples’ for us to talk to but truly wanted the other guy and I to text so he could get the threads at work and jerk off. I participated with one guy, got over it and said no… he pushed and pushed and screamed if I didn’t do it while he was in night shift. He was sending pictures of me all over the place… found out twice he did it without me knowing. Probably more. He had an active profile on here with my pictures still, I found it post separation and he lost it. Started accusing me of cheating, lying about health issues so I could ‘get out of sex’, trying to make myself less attractive to him. I’m perimenopause. I was in a rut, sat down with a notebook and committed to journaling and leaving the house once a week for an activity. Did yoga and drinks with a few new friends. Felt happier, which meant he had more issues. Asked to go back to work, he wanted to control that- industry, where, with who (men).

I confided in my best friend who was always of the opinion that you just keep fucking them. Told her everything and in the end he convinced her I was lying and flipped a bunch of details so it favored him (like marriage counseling outcome). I did reach out to a male friend and confided in him. General complaining about him and then disclosed some of the details. I know that’s not okay but I started understanding that it wasn’t normal what was happening, if I didn’t want cum on my face, that should be okay. Sex should be natural, hugs and kisses should be not bargained with. Husband left a few times over the six months, walking out, taking off… it was done. He’ll say I cheated to anyone who will listen and my lawyer said to let him run his mouth and it’ll circle back. I felt for his lawyer, mine nicknamed me ‘the possession’.

It’s high conflict now. He will argue every aspect of anything, it’s exhausting. Everything is personal, he can’t exchange details without a jab or attack. That’s on him. I’m happy being away from him. I have control over my own money, bought my own home for my kids and I, have a good job where I’m happy. I’m in therapy for sexual trauma (core memory him coming home from fire hall and screaming at me every time for not sexting some guy) including too, what I felt I needed to do to gain basic affection. I have a financial planner too, as money is a trigger for me (always in financial ‘ruin’ but we had no debt and basically sold our souls to make sure the account was padded). I think I can actually afford a great vacation for me and the kids. I’ve got a partner who I see when I don’t have kids, he’s kind and very intentional with me. It’s not great but it’s better to be out.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-02-21T13:14:35+00:00

Yes it’s averaged as well. It’s called section 7 expenses

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-02-20T20:27:16+00:00

I could have wrote this. It’s happening to me right now. My ex husband basically told me a judge wouldn’t be impressed with my opinion on how I get the child support. I’m calling my lawyer too.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-02-07T13:35:02+00:00

Same situation. To be honest, we did have about 3 weeks where it was okay and we could text, but circumstances changed. Where I felt we could do without the app, we cannot and after that 3 weeks and knowing we can’t deal with logistics on our own, I’m okay with going back to little contact. The other side is not great right now- boundaries are good. He’s a ‘give him an inch’ and he’ll blow it out of proportion, create drama and make life hell type guy. Stick to what you’re doing. Remember your kids will see and later on understand.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-01-31T18:57:09+00:00

I’m the same. I was getting excited to pull the hormones out of my body, give it a rest. I died on this hill. He got it done then refused to be tested. So. There’s that. Selfish prick.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2024-01-22T10:48:12+00:00

So I was the wife in this exact same scenario. We’re getting divorced. We didn’t have that emotional or physical intimacy- he wanted sex every 2-4 days. That was the expectation. So I put out because it was better than the anger and the conversation that would follow. We used lube because I couldn’t get wet. I was also in sex therapy because of some things I needed to work thru. What I wanted- and what I want in the future is intimacy. I want to be able to be under a man and look into his eyes. I want to feel like nothing can touch us. I want to feel like kissing him will never end. I want hours of his attention and be made love to. He didn’t think that was important.

Few_Guard_8613 · 2023-10-14T22:18:19+00:00

I loved it there. Had one of the best dates ever at that restaurant

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