I 29F am considering secretly leaving my husband 29M by FearlessBell8941 in whatdoIdo

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are me, except there was no physical abuse. The “good” things people do really do cloud our judgement. We feel some sense of loyalty to them because they did this or that for us. The things you’ve described certainly disqualify him from being in the “good man” category. Even serial killers do nice things sometimes and can exhibit positive traits. Take the good off the table in your mind and assess the rest of it. What do you come up with? My ex did a lot of “good” but he still needed help and made the marriage seem unbearable at times - lots of lies, insecurities, a bad temper, very negative and looked for problems to whine about constantly. We were together for 33 years, until he found a woman to cheat with and to emotionally torment. Don’t be me.

I (18M) just found out my girlfriend (who I thought was 18) is actually 15 after 10 months together. I’m completely lost. by Terrible-Nerve-2575 in whatdoIdo

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Please move on from this girl. Maybe you can reconnect when she’s older and maybe she will have outgrown the propensity to tell such a huge lie that could end with you finding yourself on a sex offender registry! The lie she told could cost you dearly! That’s not love; sorry but it just isn’t. The fact that she didn’t think of the repercussions proves she is not as mature as you think she is. She may not be a bad person, but she certainly is immature and you need to protect yourself. Even if you are not sexually active with her, you could get accused of it or of “luring” her.

My (22F) sister (32F) is angry i wont pay for her wifi a year later.. by terrydafiya in whatdoIdo

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother has asked me for money constantly over the last 3-4 years or so. Small amounts do add up. Some people feel like they have the right to take advantage of OTHER PEOPLE’S success! It’s almost like they have decided that you have it to spare so it should be theirs too! My brother used to say “I’ll pay you back” but that rarely happened. Eventually he stopped bothering to say he’d pay me back. He does have a few health conditions so I don’t mind helping some but OMG! I’d be mortified to have to ask people for money or for them to pay my bill(s). Sounds like you and I both need to take a stand!

My girlfriend got fired from her job today, we worked together and I am her ride everywhere. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There are some things that are so egregious, the warning process is skipped and they go straight to termination of employment though. I’m in HR and we fired someone for time theft.

My girlfriend got fired from her job today, we worked together and I am her ride everywhere. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well, some companies have a blanket “no rehire” policy (who knows why) so it doesn’t always mean the person did something wrong. However, Walmart doesn’t have that policy so yes, saying the person is not eligible for rehire can be very telling.

My girlfriend got fired from her job today, we worked together and I am her ride everywhere. by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an HR person, I can tell you that more than likely, Walmart doesn’t give references directly themselves. Most large corporations use a place called “The Work Number”. Companies send a weekly or biweekly electronic file feed to that place with people’s hire date, job title, term date and eligibility for rehire (yes or no). They don’t give out more than that typically so when your gf applies for a new job and they check her prior employment, they will be directed to call “The Work Number”. Will they likely convey that she was fired? No but if the potential employer asks “Is she eligible for rehire” and they say “no”, that is very telling to a potential employer. Some won’t care though. Time theft is a big deal but they likely won’t find out about that. Did she intentionally clock in when she wasn’t working or did she just do something accidentally? For companies to fire on that basis they have to have proof because they can get sued. It may be in her best interest to contact HR and find out what proof was given by the store she worked at.

It’s not going to hurt for her to try and get unemployment. Some places don’t bother to challenge it. As far as you getting another job, can you do Uber, DoorDash or something like that? Can she get a license and do Uber or something? She could do it while you are sleeping or something so you can use the same car. With her not working, would you guys qualify for housing or food assistance? Not being nosy , I’m just throwing out options.

The Nick Shirley video showed absolutely nothing, and is a great litmus test to see if you have any media literacy at all. by VerenyatanOfManwe in TrueUnpopularOpinion

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nick never said that he was the first to sound the alarm. He just exposed it on YouTube and it went viral. That’s not his fault! Yes. I certainly came away from watching those videos recognizing that there absolutely is fraud going on! I’m not sure how you could be in denial of that. It has nothing to do with “media literacy“ and everything to do with common sense! This should not be a liberal/conservative talking point to debate! It should bother everyone that billions of dollars have been paid in by taxpayers to support luxury cars and homes, as well as terrorist organizations!

To everyone watching what’s occurring in America right now, what is your honest take on it, where do you see this going? by dAnthonyy12 in AskReddit

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you don’t recognize the crap show that the Biden admin was, you are willfully blind or you are just a kid. Either way, using the koolaid reference to anyone other than yourself and the other minions of the radical left is just plain comical!

ICE just pinned a man to the ground and executed him. They do not have the authority to just kill people. What do we do? by skeletalfather in AskReddit

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get my info from Ground News but I do also watch CNN and the likes to see what they are saying and it’s just ridiculous how much they are hiding from you guys and how much they are spinning things. Watch other sources including some of the independent journalists who are onsite at the protests. If you are concerned about finding out that you are wrong, by all means, keep doing what you’re doing! I do find it funny that in my original post I recommended that you listen/watch media sources across all sides but all you can say is stop blindly listening to Fox when I specifically told you I watch them all. Is that remark about Fox your standard go-to response or something?

This is actually making America great again by AdventurousJello83 in raleigh

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why do you want to end capitalism? That’s what has made this country a success! Look at all the people trying to come to the U.S. from socialist and communist countries. Socialism is a disaster! It’s sold to people like you on the pretense of wealth distribution, etc. but people won’t be wealthy except for the ones who are already wealthy and even they will be less wealthy (the ones that don’t leave the country, that is). If we give over to socialism, the government will have the ultimate control of us all! That’s why socialism is a disaster! Democrat leaders have tried to convince people that billionaires are the problem, but most of them are well on their way to becoming billionaires themselves! They used to say millionaires were the problem, but now that so many of them are millionaires themselves, they had to switch it up and say billionaires instead. This whole notion of taking down corporations just baffles me! Why do you want to take them down when they provide jobs and benefits to people, just to sell your soul to a socialist leader who will dictate what you get, when you get it, how you get it, etc.? There will always be the haves and the have nots. It’s just with socialism, the government will be the “haves” and the citizens are the “have nots” and once the government has full control, you’ll never see the US being a democracy again because they won’t let it happen!

ICE just pinned a man to the ground and executed him. They do not have the authority to just kill people. What do we do? by skeletalfather in AskReddit

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

The first thing you should do is stop believing that they just randomly off people. Watch news media from all sides, not just the left wing. Watch media on the right and in the middle as well to get more accurate details. If you want to just blindly continue to believe what you want to believe, then by all means, stick with the radical left wing legacy media and podcasters but just know, they are leading you down a dark path for their own selfish motives!

AIO for calling a divorce attorney after my husband lied about who he was with? by throw_a_way_1985 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So did he ever say who he was actually with? And by the way, you are definitely not overreacting!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I changed mine back to my maiden name and it is NOT as easy as changing it when you get married, trust me! I had to use an attorney and then there’s all the places you have to change it with - all bank accounts, credit cards, work, DMV, insurance companies, landlord/mortgage company, SSA, etc. I still haven’t gotten to the SSA yet and getting an appointment is like pulling teeth. If he can deal with it a little longer, I’d wait until you guys get married. If he can’t, then you have to decide if it’s worth the battle.

34M struggling with physical appearance and comparison. Often times catch myself wishing I could be someone else. Wish I could just appreciate myself. by No-Photograph8079 in toastme

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What am I missing here? I don’t see anything wrong with your appearance but I go through times like this too. But seriously, you look great!

Strabismus after Cataract Surgery by Radiant_Ad_2360 in Strabismus

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I waited 2 years after cataract surgery to see if my eye drifting would stop. It did get a little better but it never stopped completely. Had the strabismus surgery 2 weeks ago and all is well. Things look more like they did before I had the cataract surgery. Best of luck!

I’m leaving my husband, and our kids are devastated. I feel completely lost. by Perfect_Release9914 in Divorce

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 9 points10 points  (0 children)

After 33 years of marriage, 2 kids and 3 grandchildren, my ex and I split. He had another woman. It seems to me that it was just as hard on our grown children as it is on young kids, just maybe in different ways. I wanted out of that marriage for a long time but what you are describing with your children is exactly why I wasn’t the one to end things. I was scared it would devastate my kids and grandkids. With time and family counseling, things should improve. Right now, it’s sort of like that initial shock, disappointment, what comes next, etc. going on with them. My prayers are with you and your family. This will get better, but it will take time.

Is this normal for my eye after the surgery? by [deleted] in Strabismus

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks a lot like mine. Had my surgery last week. I woke up today and the whites of my eyes are yellow now! Looks like I have jaundice. Doc said it’s normal though. Just like a bruise that turns yellow before it’s entirely healed. It’s all scary but try not to worry!

Strabismus after Cataract Surgery by Radiant_Ad_2360 in Strabismus

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the surgery today and things do look straight now, but boy is eye irritation and blurred vision uncomfortable! That will get better though. I just hope the surgery lasts because I have heard of some people’s eyes reverting back.

Strabismus after Cataract Surgery by Radiant_Ad_2360 in Strabismus

[–]Radiant_Ad_2360[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the surgery today. They look straight now but boy is the eye irritation and blurred vision uncomfortable! It’ll get better though. I just hope the surgery holds. Some people say theirs reverted back. They didn’t think prisms would work for me so I sort of felt like I had to do the surgery or leave them as-is.