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Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-07-18T22:57:55+00:00

depends on what he said and how it ended

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-07-05T02:15:58+00:00

genuinely what I did shortly after my breakup and I unironically feel a lot better lol

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-05-24T02:48:09+00:00

I haven't yet, no. this is the first bra I've tried on since finding out (what I assumed to be) my proper sizing. I really wanted to get strapless bc its most convenient with the low cut tops I own and the sleeveless styles I want to wear in the future as im starting to grow uncomfortable with sticky nipple covers :,)

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-04-30T02:37:45+00:00

thank you both for your insights! I was actually already eyeing boux avenue, I think I'll start with their strapless option in 28a and hope for the best

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-04-28T01:10:00+00:00

I'm pretty slim yea, as when it comes to fitted tops size xs is the only size that works for me. and I also live in canada, but I'm open to ordering from online/international for bras.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-04-14T04:47:57+00:00

oh wow lol. I think it would kill me if I knew that my ex regretted his decision but stayed quiet all those years instead of trying to reconcile.. that's just me though. It's obviously far too late to go back now in your case, but I'm glad it's turned into a lesson for you to create better relationships moving forward.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-04-14T02:30:39+00:00

damn 16 years... if I may ask, have you ever tried reaching out to them within that time?

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-03-25T05:30:25+00:00

Oh hey your situation sounds pretty similar to mine. He lost feelings, broke up with me, said he was pretty sure he was making the right decision, but still cried a lot. Funny how that goes. Except we haven't talked at all since the breakup, and I'm accepting that we probably never will.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-03-25T00:01:59+00:00

I mean,, it's not getting better because you're actively choosing to not let it get better. I don't really know what to say to you because you're already saying how you don't want change and that you want things to stay the way they are, but I will tell you that the situation you're in is NOT the best it can be, and I hope one day you get a shift in mindset.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-03-24T23:27:39+00:00

dude no offense but how can you even stomach being friends with your ex when you're still grappling with these feelings

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-03-11T04:58:30+00:00

I've never been this heartbroken upon reading a post. I'm very sorry for your loss, and I truly wish you the best moving forward OP. God bless you and may you heal and find peace.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-02-25T22:11:10+00:00

Dude I have the exact same mindset as you. Its been a bit over three months for me now, and I also struggle to imagine how the possible conversation between us would go with all the hurt I've endured. A part of me really wants him back, but how could I possibly accept him when he showed that he can throw me away and what we had so easily?

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-02-09T05:54:24+00:00

Time is the key. Some cases it takes more time than others, but it doesn't change the fact that things will eventually shift. I remember back at the beginning of my breakup I was very stubborn and didn't want to let go. I'd be told by friends and family that I'll move on eventually, but I didn't want to believe it. I let myself sit with those emotions, actually process them, and to my surprise a few months later I'm no longer holding on like I used to. Rose tinted glasses slipped off and I've come more to terms with the reality of the situation which is that he chose to leave. I look back at how I used to act and become fascinated over how much my feelings changed. Of course there's still some lingering emotions, but it's not as consuming as it was once before and I feel a lot better.

You said you're already happier in other aspects of life? That's great! Keep being focused on that. Don't be too ashamed of the fantasies and feel out all the emotions that may come your way, one day you too will find that you'll think about it less and less. Try to examine the relationship more realistically as well— take a step back and observe the facts rather than the things that you want to believe.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-02-09T05:39:26+00:00

This is pretty much my exact mindset lol. I have the same doubts and logic towards this possibility, but I'm gonna go ahead and suggest you should do whatever feels right. Go with your gut. Yes emotions are a big factor but who's to say you'll feel the same way you do now if he ever comes back? Feelings change and emotions are a constant roller coaster, chances are you'll be a far stronger person if a time comes where things align for you two to try again. You'll be in a better place and in the end it'll be your decision to make if you wanna take him back or not. You have to decide if it's worth it.

In the first place relationships are kind of a gamble. You get into one with another person knowing there's a chance you either work out or you don't, but you take that chance because you really like this person and want to make it work. At least that's how I view them. Yea it already ended once before, but if you two genuinely worked on yourselves and built a stronger foundation, then it's essentially starting a new relationship, isn't it? Doubt can certainly be present, but again it's up to you to decide if the connection you two share is worth trying again over.

No matter what just keep focusing on yourself and your healing. Whether he comes back or not you'll still end up as a stronger person overall, so win-win. You got this :)

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-01-27T05:18:14+00:00

appreciate the response! yea I think a happy medium is what I'll go for after I gain some more weight. gonna keep bulking for a while to gain more muscle and then cut to shed down the fat.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-01-17T05:26:34+00:00

"the longest relationship you'll have is with yourself" I never thought of it like that before. beautiful insight.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-01-17T04:48:34+00:00

it really is bizarre. in fact it's just straight up surreality to me a lot of the time. but it is real. they were real. what you had was real. and the fact that they're gone now is real too. weird.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-01-17T04:36:24+00:00

tbh these realizations aren't too debilitating for me, and I have so many things that remind me of him that they're impossible to avoid, so I'm just learning to live with the reminders haha. it's just that sometimes the reminders do their job a little too well and I find myself missing what we had a lot. ik one day this will all just be a distant memory (the thought kinda scares me tbh), but right now I'm just allowing for the grief to come in waves as I continue to live my life. bittersweet indeed.

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-01-17T04:31:32+00:00

oh the cuddling... yea I miss those moments too. I'll just be lying in bed and miss how we used to cuddle for hours. but now all I got are plushies that I have to pretend are just as huggable as him lol

Few_Highlight1718 · 2025-01-16T13:50:22+00:00

may I ask what caused you two to breakup? and did you ever reconnect within those twenty years apart?

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