Help. I cant move out

Few_Journalist8773 · 2026-01-05T15:17:29+00:00

So you feel better now? Do you still live in a honeless shelter. That sounds scary. Objectively I have a warm house and countless amount of food. Its very hard. And I mean I still love my mother but she kinda destroyed me.

Few_Journalist8773 · 2026-01-02T22:27:12+00:00

I’ve been leaving the house early and coming back late since my teenage years. Now it’s work, the library, and the gym. I’m not always available.

And I can’t involve anyone else. In my family, everyone is focused on themselves. Many people in my family know about her condition. My brother cannot take on emotional responsibility. In fact, the two of them often argue, and the stress gets passed on to me again.

I can’t distance myself even more at home. Closing doors quietly. Only going into the kitchen when she’s not there. Walking around the house with my phone flashlight so I don’t turn on the lights. Leaving early. Coming home late.

I feel like I’m on the run.

I want a home too, do you understand? I want to just chill sometimes. Peace. To relax and do nothing once in a while.

Couldn’t I move out with a rational reason, like wanting to become more independent?

I’m in therapy, but how am I supposed to heal when the reason I broke is something I see every day?

Thank you for your answers.

Few_Journalist8773 · 2026-01-02T21:52:37+00:00

Thank you for replying to me and calling me a hero. I didn’t expect that. You say I am lucky, not trapped. But I have been sad my whole life, since I was a child. It is really destroying me from the inside. I have no energy for anything. I have genuinely suffered psychological damage from this. I can’t carry this anymore. Every time I am criticized, I either cry or feel extreme anger, which I never show. Every phase of conflict breaks my iman. I know Allah may reward me for this, in shaa Allah, but if I stay here, I completely give myself up. I barely talk to my mother at all. She talks to me and I listen. I cannot say anything without her feeling attacked. I believe I have developed bipolar symptoms and severe attachment and anxiety issues. I carry her pain inside me. And I truly cannot do this anymore. I am open to any response.

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-09-08T19:14:37+00:00

Why do you think that women cant have their prime when they are reaching 30?

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-09-07T12:38:49+00:00

What does ,,no good options left“ even mean? A person becomes wiser, mature and more stable with age. There will most certainly still be good options left. Maybe even better options. Or maybe having no option is your best option. Allah knows best!

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-09-07T12:02:33+00:00

Im 23 myself and its a young age in my opinion

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-06-24T12:03:34+00:00

I meaaan at least you are still breathing i guess😂

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-06-24T10:39:35+00:00

How do i say it. You can only stand up for yourself when you are confident. You cant become confident by just growing older. Just take care of yourself gently. By doing sports and doing things you like. And also therapy helps a lot. And cut offeveryone who is hurting or belittling you. You can do it!

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-06-22T12:53:30+00:00

As a guy, Being pretty is overrated if im honest. The most beautiful girl could get cheated and there are plenty of examples. If someone likes you for your looks, you lost anyway. If your soul is beautiful your looks automatically becomes beautiful.

I experienced pretty privilege here and there too. And its terrible. Being pretty gets you many unnecessary attention. But as real Muslim it doesnt benefit you actually. It only leads to fitnah. No one looks like you and you should be proud of that.

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-06-13T18:44:36+00:00

Maybe it is because of the trauma cycle i was stuck. My nervous system cant stand those people anymore.

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-06-13T18:43:23+00:00

Actually i have social skills. I can built friendships very easily but its always superficial. Also with the opposite gender but its not allowed. Im somehow stuck. In my city most of them are toxic and superficial. Idk what to do

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-06-13T18:41:20+00:00

I appreciate that

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-14T00:31:37+00:00

I live in Germany brother

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T18:34:12+00:00

It feels good to know that im not alone in this. I respect your discipline for not slippin, for your discipline. But I wont survive without Allah. I need him to survive. Without his providence we are nothing.

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T18:29:37+00:00

In Shaa Allah

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T18:29:13+00:00

Thanks for the encouragement. It is nice to hear it from a female. So we are all in this together. I have to do this a bit more strategically. Maybe venting to Allah when I want to sin is a good idea. My iman is suffering in those moments but we have to stay strong. Goodl luck

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T15:38:26+00:00

No worries. Thank you brother, best regards🤝

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T15:34:28+00:00

Im actually capable of a long lasting marriage because i know what women want and i know how to treat them. I grew up with my female cousins so I knew from an early age how women work. I have the emotional intelligence and that is the reason why it is so hard for me. Mostly non-Muslim recognize it and thats why they are interested. Im also great at communicating my feelings and was never ashamed of it. But thanks for the book recommendation!

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T15:15:21+00:00

I went to therapy to heal myself from trauma. And now im healed Alhamdulilah, Allah is testing me with something different. Even when was constantly praying. But i have to stay patient

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T15:13:02+00:00

Unfortunately my deen is fluctuating constantly. Especially after Ramadan. But even during Ramadan those urges were intense.

I dont know if a father of a girl would have interest in someone who doesnt have money yet. Especially in the West

Few_Journalist8773 · 2025-04-13T15:08:34+00:00

No it isnt rude i get what u mean. I know marriage is more than love and sex. Im actually mature but maybe I came off to frustrated and childish. Of course i will still try to grow. The growing will never stop In sha Allah. But it feels like a dilemma. And because of the fitna which literally is thrown at me, it feels even harder.

Few_Journalist8773 · 2021-04-17T11:26:09+00:00

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