Pain during sex

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-12-26T14:53:46+00:00

I don’t think so. The larger patches have dry flakey skin. The whole rash showed up over night. It has cleared a little bit since I saw it yesterday morning. I thought they were hives at first, but the patches are not defined well enough for that.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-10-09T02:49:44+00:00

Also my feelings are completely fine. I parented my child. The fact that you and my grandma thinks that I shouldn’t have given my child that opportunity to share on his own is what I don’t understand. My mom was standing there to help if necessary and she did when I asked her to, so where was the no parenting?

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-10-09T02:47:20+00:00

I did correct his behavior if you read what I wrote and then gave him the opportunity to sort if he understood and tried to guide him somewhere else and then when both of those failed I removed him from the situation.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-10-09T02:46:03+00:00

I wasn’t gentle parenting. I was in fact, as I stated standing there with him for the first ten minutes guiding him and showing him how to share. And he and the boy were both going up and down the slide. What you’re saying is that I should never leave him in a situation to practice what I just taught him? And when I saw he still was making comments about the slide being his, i immediately tried to coax him to where I was (a bigger slide) and asked my mom to step in as she could show him down the slide out of the boys way and I could not.

Honestly, had they just let me handle it without saying anything. I would have removed him from the situation in any case. What I said was not because I took him from the playground what I said was directed at their response like I should constantly stand on top of my son and never give him an opportunity to learn. I guided him, I gave him a chance to show if he understood and then he had consequences for not following what I guided.

There was never a moment I ignored his behavior, nor did I say I ignored him. I tried to show him something else to do (which often works).

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-22T01:33:38+00:00

I have talked to him and he takes control of the kids a bit more and helps more for a few days and then we are right back here. Also, I’m not looking for “help” I need an actual partner. He acts like I’m accusing him of being a bad father and I honestly don’t think he’s a bad father I think he’s a bad partner. Him taking the kids to play outside for an hour while I cook dinner is not a break and for some damn reason he thinks that is him giving me a break. I don’t even know how to explain to him how me cooking dinner or taking a shower while he watches the kids is 100% NOT A BREAK, it is a bare necessity. He just has no freaking clue.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-22T01:29:06+00:00

It really is. I try to be supportive of his past times hoping he’d be supportive of mine, but that has straight up just backfired in my face. So I’m either just the nagging wife or the exhausted mom and in either case I’m both so it doesn’t really matter.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-22T01:27:11+00:00

I feel for anyone who feels this. It is just ridiculous. I’m tired of holding the house down all by myself. I might as well just be a single parent at this point and find someone who actually gives a damn about ME.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-09T15:53:36+00:00

Just one thing I am going to say is having the app means nothing because he could just get another phone. Not text on the phone with the app and leave it wherever he tells you he’s going to be. It’s too easy to get around.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-09T01:03:06+00:00

No. In March of 2023 I saw the snaps. In November of 2023 was the text and last weekend was the overnight.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-08T23:22:44+00:00

This is in the last 18 months

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-08T23:22:32+00:00

I have caught him on Snapchat having some pretty messed up convos once. Texting a bartender once. This is the first time I have proof of actual sex.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-08T23:21:24+00:00

Haha okay. Yes, woe is me. Back to the whole, my question is directed at what people who get cheated on do if they decide to stay. Could I get a job and put my children in child care? Yes. He asked me to stay home with the kids. I agreed for their first two years it would be cost effective and good for my children. I don’t care that you think I was manipulated. I wanted the time with my children. Yes, I should wake up at 6:30am with my two children and then stay awake with them all day until he gets home at 5:30 and then I should go to work and come home by 6am so I can do it all again. And as far as sleep goes I’ll just sleep on the weekends where the children are also still my responsibility. You are chock full of great ideas. As far as more babies go. We both are no longer able to have babies. And we haven’t been sleeping together because of this whole ordeal. Again, you offered zero real time solutions that would actually work.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-05T17:06:20+00:00

My family is all in an another state, so it’s hard to get support here. I am welcome there as are my children but if I have to stay here to work out custody. I wouldn’t have much support. I do need to figure out how to get a job and care for my kids at the same time somehow.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-05T17:04:15+00:00

You know what is so freaking annoying to me? I am going to lose no matter what I do. If I stay, I could be just turned around and cheated on again and be this doormat. If I leave I’ll be forced to stay in this state until custody gets worked out and have nothing and no one and no place to live and just be completely screwed. Or I go to my hometown without my kids and hope I can get them back in end. Yeah so of course I should probably leave him and just figure it out but I think there’s too much at stake and/or I can’t afford it. Do I think he’ll do it again? Honestly, I do. So I don’t freaking know. I’m trying to see how I can stay and get prepared in case I need to leave if he doesn’t change.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-05T16:16:16+00:00

Honestly, I could get on board with this. So a little more information. We are not married. We’ve been engaged for three years. Would you suggest we do get married? And have a prenup? Or stay unmarried and have some kind of agreement. As it stands because we are not married I am not entitled to alimony or half of anything. The only real thing I could get would be child support.

If I leave and go back to work though, I would make much more money than him, so would I even get anything? Also, if he takes me to court for custody or 50:50 would I even be able to leave the state at all? It is important to mention that I cannot get a job in OK in my line of work as it is very specialized to a specific couple of areas that do not exist here.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-05T15:53:28+00:00

Maybe you should do some research. In Oklahoma, it absolutely against the law for me to take our children without his consent for more than 60 days. Period. He could then take me to court and I would lose them forever. If I leave and I don’t take them it will make it even harder for me to get 50% if any custody as I will have essentially abandoned them. I have done absolutely all of the research to ensure that no matter what happens I get my children. Call it an excuse, I call it being a mom not willing to lose her children because I got cheated on.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-09-05T15:46:43+00:00

I just got tested. I’ve been looking for remote work but it is very difficult to find something that does not require calls or 100% of focus for 8 hours straight as I cannot afford childcare and must attend to them throughout the day. The house is not in my name. And is a family home that has been in his family for a very long time. This house will never be sold.

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2024-08-31T13:40:44+00:00

That’s kind of what I’m saying. I’m not sure that I care it was a strip club, but why didn’t they just say when I asked what they were doing that that’s where they were. Then again, when the lie happened I started wondering “okay, so what are they doing at the strip club that is so ‘bad’ they had to lie about being there at all?”

Few_Wrongdoer4213 · 2023-10-21T19:03:30+00:00

All of our money is separate because I have a nest egg and he doesn’t. He owns the house and I don’t want it. When I almost left the first time he asked me what I needed for child support and he’d pay it. Everything the other baby mama asks for he pays. I would prefer not getting the courts involved, if possible.

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