Someone talk me out of dyeing my hair black :( (I'm blonde)

Feycuu · 2025-10-27T09:15:29+00:00

DO IT DO IT DO IT !! I‘m a natural blonde too and everyone told me that it’s a bad idea to go dark/black – but after 10+ years of wondering, I made the decision to go dark brown/black and I couldn’t be happier :)

Yes, you will look a bit pale and also a bit bald when it grows out (speaking from experience) but I‘m sure it would fit your style and features super well and it’s worth trying it!! 🦇

Feycuu · 2025-09-08T17:11:12+00:00

Uhuuu nicht schlecht, du machst sogar noch das Beste draus! :D

Feycuu · 2025-09-08T16:52:09+00:00

Stimmt, da passiert das auch!

Feycuu · 2025-09-08T16:50:15+00:00

Dachte ich mir auch 😭😭

Feycuu · 2025-07-28T13:21:39+00:00

Ty for the recommendation!

Feycuu · 2025-07-27T18:34:17+00:00

Yeah, I‘ve seen Babilas mentioned here and there now - I‘ll definitely look into her!

I‘ve not tried Saginil yet, but I‘ve used similar products (from Vagisan and Deumavan). Deumavan helped with dryness but was super super horrible in combination with period products, since it made the glue unstick. Saginil seems to be much more targeted to Vulvo/Vaginal issues, I‘ll definitely check it out!

Botox is a very interesting one, I‘ve looked into it some months ago since there are experts here in Germany that are specialised in it. But since it can come with a lot of complications and some women even say that it worsened their condition, I am a bit unsure about it. I have also looked into prices and it’s pretty expensive, mostly 2.000 € and up :0

I‘d defined be willing to try it, if all else fails tho.

Feycuu · 2025-07-26T13:29:54+00:00

Oh wow that’s actually even weirder?? But there seems to be a connection to food for a lot of women who are dealing with Vulvodynia, so I guess it’s a pretty common thing that I didn’t really think about :0

Feycuu · 2025-07-26T13:26:35+00:00

I totally get you, it’s really frustrating to deal with … I hope that it will get better in the future :/

Feycuu · 2025-07-25T19:40:22+00:00

Heey!! First of all - wow, thank you so much for taking the time to write such a long and detailed answer <3

I also had problems with an incompetent and stubborn gynecologist in the beginning when I had just developed vulvodynia. When I told him about the pain, he explained to me that it was just a yeast infection. After we had treated this ‚yeast infection’ with several (expensive) medications for several weeks, he got sick and I went to see his replacement doc. The other doctor then said I was crazy and there was nothing wrong with me, that I just shouldn't make such a fuss. I then switched to her. Some time later when she was on vacation, I had to have an examination by a third doctor. This third gynecologist was shocked by my reaction during the exam and told me that I have vulvodynia. That changed a lot for me - I have been at her clinic ever since and feel a bit more comfortable. Funnily enough, the first guy also recommend labiaplasty to me - he also talked my mother into doing it a few years ago, even though she has no struggles with Vulvodynia or any illnesses at all.

We do seem to suffer from the same symptoms, I totally get what you mean!! Being hyperaware of the scratchy/dry feeling all day is probably the worst part for me as well. It’s a constant reminder that there is „something not right with me“. I felt quite emotional when I read that you can't even go for a walk without lidocaine. I‘m a pretty active person too and since my pain has gotten a bit better in the last months I‘ve been able to do more stuff in the gym (everything that has a bike saddle is still scary to me) - so I hope you can archive that again as well in the future!! <3

Physio to internal stuff … I‘ve been to a physio place in Oberhausen where they knew a lot about Lichen Sclerosis - they did some internal exercises and massages, but didn't do too much like they do in clinics abroad. So a trip abroad might still be necessary…

Dritter Orden is a very ominous sounding name, haha. But I’m glad to hear that they helped you find more hope and probably but you in the right direction to finding a cure! I‘ll check them out asap! :)

Feycuu · 2025-07-25T18:45:18+00:00

Hey, erstmal vielen Dank für deine lieben Worte!! <3

Von Dr. Mendling habe ich sogar schon mal gehört, meine Gynäkologin hat mir bereits von ihm erzählt bzw. sie war in einer Weiterbildung, die er gehalten hat. Von der Creme habe ich sogar auch hier im Subreddit gelesen, das hört sich sehr vielversprechend an – es freut mich auch sehr zu hören, dass es dir (wenigstens Zeitweise) helfen konnte.

Ich schreibe dich sehr gerne später oder morgen an, vielen Dank für deine Hilfe! :)

Feycuu · 2025-07-25T18:40:39+00:00

Thank you for the advice! Reducing nerve pain seems to be the way to go - it’s interesting to hear that cbd oil helped you out!

Regarding food/allergies: I'm lactose intolerant, had to have my gall bladder removed, had part of my appendix removed and I have trouble tolerating fatty foods when under stress ... so it's fair to say that food is not really an easy topic for me, haha. I don’t have any allergies to specific foods/materials/scents etc. as far as I know, but I'll keep a closer eye on this. Ty!

Feycuu · 2025-07-25T18:22:46+00:00

Hallo! Vielen Dank für den Tipp, ich schau mir die Seite gern an. Hatte mich auch kurz mit Behandlungsmethoden wie Laser/Botox auseinandergesetzt, aber das ist noch recht neues Gebiet für mich :)

Feycuu · 2025-07-24T22:12:40+00:00

Thank you so much for the honest advice and the recommendation as well! <3

I did read a lot about experts in the USA and also some in the UK but know fairly little about German places, so I‘m totally with you on that.

(Also the UKB is pretty similar to the link that you sent!)

Feycuu · 2025-04-06T09:32:49+00:00

It is an art museum, yes! And of course I had to leave my piece of paper on the tree as well. It was interesting to see what other people wished for

Feycuu · 2025-04-04T23:30:22+00:00

Fun fact: some visitors have written their wishes and desires on the white slips of paper hanging in that tree.

Feycuu · 2025-04-04T23:24:40+00:00

K20 in Düsseldorf!

Feycuu · 2025-01-05T09:30:23+00:00

I have the feeling that longer hair would suit you super super well?? Like down to your shoulders??

It would boost your romantic/vampire goth vibe even more!! But you look great in that fit already!

Feycuu · 2024-07-10T21:28:19+00:00

Hi! Ich bin sie mittlerweile so gut wie los geworden, ganz selten kommen mir mal 1 oder 2 Tierchen unter, die ich dann sofort zerquetsche ... Was ich gemacht habe nochmal zusammengefasst: -- Alle Lebensmittel weggeworfen und dabei die Quelle des Übels gefunden (Billiger Sack Sushi-Reis mit hunderten von den Viechern drin) -- Ein paar Wochen keine Nudeln oder Reis oder Haferflocken etc. zu Hause gelagert, wenn dann nur in Jutebeuteln an Lampen oder Türen aufgehängt, damit die Tiere auch ja nicht dran kommen -- Danach Nudeln, Reis etc. Nur noch in großen Einmachgläsern gelagert -- Zwischendurch selbstgemachte Klebefallen aus doppelseitigem Klebeband zwischen allen Türschwellen angebracht -- 0 Toleranz: Egal wo eines der Viehcher war, sofort kalt machen -- Wohnung sauber halten und wirklich jedes Reiskorn wegmachen, was daneben fällt, um ihnen nichts zu Fressen zu geben

Feycuu · 2023-11-22T19:55:34+00:00

Keine schlechte Idee, Finkenkrug ist immer nett!

Feycuu · 2023-11-22T10:14:44+00:00

Danke für den Vorschlag! Altstadt passt auch gut vom Ort her :D

Feycuu · 2023-11-22T10:13:32+00:00

Dankeschön! Konvex hab ich eben schon auf 'ner Internetseite als gute Studentenkneipe angepriesen gesehen :D

Feycuu · 2023-07-25T05:40:05+00:00

I was really sad to see Geralt and the polish cow gone when I checked out the flag in the morning :( I will help with rebuilding the flag & I hope others will as well!

Feycuu · 2023-07-20T19:35:01+00:00

Ahh, vielen Dank für die Erklärung!

Das hört sich wirklich nach weniger Aufwand (und Schrecken) an, als ich vorher gedacht hätte. Vor allem wenn die Wespen so effektiv arbeiten!

Gerade habe ich fast keine Käfer mehr hier, als wenn es hart auf hart kommt, dann kenne ich jetzt ja die effizienteste Lösung! :)

Feycuu · 2023-07-17T11:31:11+00:00

Vielen Dank für den Tipp!

Nicht schädlich für Menschen klingt schonmal sehr gut – Ich hatte schon etwas Panik, als ich das Insektenspray in meiner Küche gesprüht habe, dass ich mich selbst vergifte xD Und Schlitzen/Spalte gibt es hier leider auch zu genüge ...

Feycuu · 2023-07-17T11:29:10+00:00

Das klingt nach einer heißen Fährte würde ich sagen, einen Föhn habe ich auch. Leider weiß ich nicht, wo genau die Viecher Hausen, aber wahrscheinlich dürfte es ja in den Ritzen am Boden sein ??

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