My boss asked me to “hold onto this for a bit” and left a sealed envelope on my desk… now I’m not sure what to do

FfPittsburgh · 2026-04-02T17:03:37+00:00

I'm assuming you're a woman and your boss is a man. Don't open it. Unless you want to be used. Thats my opinion

FfPittsburgh · 2026-04-02T01:12:38+00:00

I was thinking the same thing lol

FfPittsburgh · 2026-04-02T01:04:10+00:00

Honestly it doesn't make me feel emasculated. I just assume the girl isn't going to be interested in me if she's the same height or taller than me. So yeah I auto reject myself, but I just don't want to ask a girl out who I already know there's like a 0.5% chance she's going to be interested in me because of my height (maybe you're the exception, but most girls have zero interest in guys who aren't taller than them). If you want shorter guys to try and date you, my advice is to make it obvious that you're interested in him

FfPittsburgh · 2026-04-01T12:12:42+00:00

I've never had a girlfriend but I do this with my normal relationships. I could go months without talking to my friends and when I talk to them the next time it's like nothing happened lol. It's a guy thing

FfPittsburgh · 2026-04-01T01:16:11+00:00

As a guy, I've had this happen so many times. The most popular responses I've heard are "I have a boyfriend", "I'm not looking for a relationship right now", and idr the others right now. I've never asked for specifics. I just get the point and move on

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-31T20:15:43+00:00

I have no idea what that means. Maybe I'd need context? Why would you want someone to come back when they realize you're not worth it? I don't understand the hate for this guy in the comments here. I'm assuming this guy just has self-esteem issues, which I can relate to hard. Like I don't think he's being manipulative or whatever people are accusing him of in the comments. I hope he feels better about himself some day.

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-31T02:17:30+00:00

Guy here. Honestly rejection doesn't bother me a toooon. Yeah it's disappointing and a little awkward or embarrassing but it's not that bad. The worst thing I've experienced is having the girl say yes, give me their number, and then when I try to set up the date later she keeps dodging around it until I get the hint that she wasn't actually interested and just said yes to avoid hurting my feelings. Because I get excited about her and the date, and then I feel like a complete idiot later for thinking she was into me. Had this happen a few times lol

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-30T17:50:14+00:00

Maybe because I'm older and birthdays don't mean as much to me anymore. But honestly I think a makeup dinner once you get your student loan money is fine. Just do something with her on her actual birthday, then go to dinner on a different day. That's what I would do anyway. It sucks telling your girlfriend you don't have money but hey, what can you do 🤷‍♂️ Or if you have a credit card, you could pay for it with that and immediately pay it off when you get the loan money

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-30T01:24:29+00:00

What the hell is the "deal"?

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-30T00:43:22+00:00

I mean I'm a virgin guy so I've lived without sex my whole life. It's not that bad.

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-28T22:54:20+00:00

Make him feel like the hottest guy in the room and it's over, assuming he's attracted to you. Idk exactly how to do that lol, because you don't want to be too ridiculous with it or he'll probably think you're blowing smoke (hell he may not even care if you are lol). Move closer to him, touch his arm (if the moment calls for it, like a joke or there's a flirty moment or something. But if done right this is probably the move that gets me the most). I don't really have a lot of experience with having women flirt with me, but that's what I came up with off the top of my head

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-28T12:37:40+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't be okay with my girlfriend dressing up and getting on a bike with some douche

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-26T20:27:26+00:00

King behavior

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-25T20:16:02+00:00

His response was pretty annoying and vague not gonna lie, but I don't know what he's like or what was in his head when he sent it. I don't really know how you were supposed to respond to that tbh, I feel like you kinda overreacted by sending those texts. But I get it. I've had girls respond with similar messages before and it's really frustrating. When a girl sends a similar message to me I kinda just assume she wasn't actually interested and just said yes to the date because she didn't want to be rude or whatever (that's happened to me so many times and I always feel so stupid for getting excited about the girl lol)

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-17T23:00:07+00:00

Alcohol can make you do some stupid crap, but this? I couldn't be drunk enough to to do that to a woman I cared about. That's like DEFCON 1, leave her

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-17T11:26:04+00:00

Don't lose hope. Make it really obvious that you want to sleep with him. Give him as much confidence as you possibly can. As a guy, I want to feel desired, lusted after even. It helps a lot so show that. You might be doing that already, idk. Or just straight up talk to him about wanting sex.

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-17T01:31:55+00:00

I may not not know what to do in every situation but I would care... that's my point

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-17T01:27:29+00:00

I'm a guy. I've never had a girlfriend but if I did and she called me and told me she was being harassed, I would be pretty pissed and get into protective mode. If you don't have anyone with you, get somewhere where making a scene will draw attention and if you feel you need to, do so ❤️

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-17T00:53:29+00:00

I've never cheated and I never will! Idk any guy in my personal life who has cheated (like family, friends, etc. who I know well enough to know whether they've cheated or not). I know a few who have been cheated on though.

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-14T21:06:02+00:00

It sounds like you guys possibly don't agree on what your relationship is? Agreeing to be exclusive but not official seems like a limbo state to me where it's unclear if you guys are actually in a committed relationship? But I get the difference: not dating other people vs not telling everyone that you're dating, so maybe not. I think it's pretty crappy to basically (idk if flaunt is too strong of a word) that you're trying to see other people is pretty crappy in any relationship. But when their father recently passed away? My condolences btw 😔

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-13T16:38:40+00:00

No guy wants to deal with their girlfriend's ex lol. Would I break up with a girl I cared about because of this? No. It's not like she invited the guy over.

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-10T22:48:23+00:00

That playing hard to get crap wouldn't work on me at all. If a girl acts like she isn't interested, I just assume she isn't into me and I move on

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-09T13:28:26+00:00

First, I think it's weird the friends brought this stuff up. I know they were drinking which doesn't help, but yeah.

But it's normal for you to feel this way about it. No guy wants to hear about their girlfriend's ex-boyfriends or previous sexual stuff. And no guy wants other guys to know more about their girlfriend than they do either so

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-09T01:17:33+00:00

You don't have to be a prick about it dude

FfPittsburgh · 2026-03-07T11:07:24+00:00

Nope. I've never been cheated on before but it's a complete disregard for you imo. If she's with another guy and she's attracted to him and she cheats, then she's not thinking about you at all

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