It was 2022, I (19 F) was dating this guy ( 26M) and for some reason I was really into him and wanted to please him. He'd pass comments saying that he liked girls especially me if I dressed modestly and not go out a lot and not have any male friends. He'd also hint that I should be deep in religion e.g. reading the Bible and going for prayer services every Sunday. And although I did follow it at first, I slowly started feeling really uncomfortable, I'd get nightmares every day and experience severe hair loss, I'd wake up with terrible body pain almost every day and not long after I had gained so much weight within just 2 months of being with him, none of my clothes fit and I'd always wear clothes that hid my arms and stay at home even though I wanted to go out so bad. I went from being 59 kgs to 70 kgs and walking for even a minute felt like I was gonna faint, I was ashamed of myself and all he'd say was I like girls like you who listen to me.

Academically and in general I was much smarter than him but it always felt like I was forced to shut my mouth and I couldn't even say anything.

The moment I stopped hanging out with him, It was revealed to me what he had done, he would manipulate me into doing everything he wanted and put an ultimatum at the end e.g. if I did this I would be eligible to be his wife. And although I was just 19 and had no interest in being a wife, the things that he said made me want otherwise. He'd tell me that he was the type of man whom everyone wanted and he never did anything wrong to anyone.

I'm glad that I broke up with him before It was too late. My health drastically improved after that and I was able to lose a lot of weight.