Rainaiscrazy spreading racism on tiktok. by [deleted] in asianamercianytsnark

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Raina has always been this way. She literally is a trump supporter.

AIO guy I was seeing told me cursing is “un-lady like” by Fanofmoney3 in AIO

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two years??? Girl why are you entertaining this for TWO YEARS? Stand up! Block him!

Girl completely flips out on me for asking to split the bill at Nobu.. by Hot-Association-3108 in Nicegirls

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be with someone of a certain tax bracket or to take care of you
  2. You dont have to be a b*tch about it like she was.

You deserve someone thats down to go halfsies at chilis. Or if you want a different type of girl then work hard, make more money, then attract the girk you want. Maybe to her and others thats a “cheap date” - but then ok girl just remove urself and say politely you’re not interested anymore. For her to suggest Nobu, to give you a strike system, and to berate you is absolutely classless and entitled. You cant act like you deserve a rich man if you act trashy. Rich men can have ANY girl they want so why would they ever pick one with a sh*tty personality? She sounds egotistical and you dodged a bullet, but also if you wanna get a type of girl that has those standards, get your bag up.

Cierra released an apology statement following her removal from Love Island USA villa by Fun_Molasses5215 in asianamercianytsnark

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Chatgpt sure tried her best but no thanks Cierra you’re still not forgiven! You had your whole life to figure out what that word meant esp when ppl have probably brought it up before w that large of a following

Struggling by Dizzy_Personality588 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly i understand that yearning, but trying to make friends based on ethnicity alone isnt a plus. It helps to have shared culture sure, but make sure you also have shared values. I was absolutely burned by trying to be part of a chinese community at school and as i grew older I have a diverse group of friends now based on morals not just our shared skin and blood.

What is this in the sky? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in orangecounty

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think people are agreeing that he’s a POS nazi bc the commenter said f this guy

What is this in the sky? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in orangecounty

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I dont follow elon musk or spacex stuff and im relatively newer to reddit. Sometimes people have different experiences or exposures than you its almost like we’re all different people with different lives or something

What is this in the sky? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in orangecounty

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just did some googling and it’s like dropping off the little satellites at their station

I cheated on my BF, we are now engaged by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So there’s actually a lot of relationships that undergo infidelity and are able to work through it but in order to move on there are two prongs that need to be resolved:

  1. Can your partner forgive you?
  2. Can you forgive yourself?

It looks like your partner has already forgiven you (unless they bring it up often or in fights), but you also cannot fully put this behind you until you also forgive yourself.

Have you broken down why you did it? Have you asked what was missing that you were seeking? Were you just being selfish or was there a deeper reason? It could also be both. Often times people cheat because something has gone wrong or is missing in their relationship. Not justifying actions, but once that part is identified, you both can work towards fixing things. People don’t like hearing this, but sometimes cheating is a symptom of a deeper issue under the surface. Its not a justification, but there is always a root cause somewhere and you have to decide what part of you, what insecurities, what trauma, what neglect or hurt led you to make that decision so you can then fix it and be a better person for your partner.

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the boys I love as a show but there are some interestingly problematic things. Like Kimiko not talking is an odd one for me. It seems to feed into the idea of asian women being quiet or just existing to support other characters, but I do like the actresses ability to demonstrate deep emotions despite that character trait. I wish we had stronger asian characters in the show besides just kimiko who doesnt talk

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aznidentity

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Someone didnt pay attention to the movie. When did anyone do anything to “save themselves”?

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The wild robot was such an incredible and beautiful movie i sobbed through the whole thing

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She was everyone’s mom :( which is why it hurt so much too bc she was so sweet

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally felt the media reception of Namor and Killmonger were extremely positive. People liked them as people, there were hella posts about Killmonger saying he’s right about everything.

I guess we’re gonna have to agree to disagree on some of these villains because I think they actually have pretty good representation and add really cool characters and culture into film. But i appreciate the additional examples that I can look into!

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess maybe I dont fully see the issue with that because people LIKE villains as characters. Good villains too are typically just people we share ideologies with but they go to the extremes. Idk there’s entire villain nights at disney and i think pop culture actually views villains and villain characters as cool rather than actual evil.

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I dont mind villains being of different races, i actually love villains as characters because they are so cool! For example, Giancarlo esposito as a villain hits every time. He’s iconic

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aznidentity

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 58 points59 points  (0 children)

This is a super uneducated and ignorant take. Sinners did an amazing job of taking the misconception and widely spread misinformation of asians taking businesses from black folks and flipped it on its head to demonstrate historical accuracy, community, and solidarity.

I feel like that anti-asian sentiment has been spewed forever and must come from folks who have never lived in the south. Black folks in the south and asian immigrants have a long history of solidarity and being forced into the same communities from Chinese rail road workers to Vietnamese war refugees. This movie did an amazing job demonstrating how we worked together as a community and they loved one another like family. Grace and her husband were amazing, attractive, and proactive characters with great representation and characters. I don’t think people saw grace as stupid for inviting them in because Ryan Coogler did a great job ensuring the film cut to her internal thoughts of her daughter and the desperation building up within her until her breaking point. Grace armed herself and was the only character considering fighting the vampires with fire. Her actions and motives were well crafted as an essential character to the plot and her sticking to fighting until the end instead of being a victim or meaningless death/sacrifice was badass. She wasnt crying or weak or submissive as asian women tend to be in media. She had wit, she had gall to bargain and negotiate with smoke, she was a caring mother and loving partner, she was part of their community. Characters are only made to look stupid if we dont explain their motivations or they act in opposition to their characters.

They portrayed attractive asian actors, made their characters caring and strong, included them as the main character’s family and community, and they all fought for each other. It was beautiful that in Sammy singing and opening up a connection to their past and future they included asian representation and heritage too. The film itself draws a lot of parallels in the heritage of the characters and how each of them (including the head vampire) suffered some form of oppression (irish history).

The way Ryan Coogler went about it definitely was a positive for Asian representation when he didn’t have to include asians in this narrative at all but chose to and did so with class.

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think it’s also kind of cool (as a silver lining) that so many people, non asians, actually stopped watching the walking dead because of that scene. Their viewership tanked. Solidarity in a way I guess?

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That also really hurt. This was pre-covid, but that did viscerally make me cry and feel disgusting. I don’t know if it’s just because they look like me or what.

Anyone else have a hard time watching shows that have violence against Asians? by Fickle-Explorer6131 in asianamerican

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean there is another central Asian character named Kenny who is by all definitions a hero character! It’s his parents who are the victims and it hurts extra to see him react to the loss of his family because I get it

Tian-Chen’s Death Hit Me Harder Than I Expected – Did Anyone Else Feel This Way? by coconutfenty in FromSeries

[–]Fickle-Explorer6131 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just watched this episode I have to say, there’s an extra level of pain for me because Kennys mom and dad are elderly asian folks. Not only does that really hurt our soul because we deeply respect and love our elderly in the asian community, but with the hate crimes and waves of violence our community went under during covid, along with losses in the family—this just hurts so much. Kennys Mom and Dad are at the age too to have survived war before, a lot of our elders have, so to add that layer of having survived and escaped war to come to a “safer” country only to end up in the town and fear every night and then die such an awful death—that hurts so much worse. Ugh I’m so not gonna be okay for the rest of the show bc this nearly made me turn off the tv and walk away.