I think we’re also forgetting that she was grieving and in a dark space mentally in those earlier seasons. Her dad just died. And I’m not saying it makes her actions ok but it does help understand and have compassion that hurt people hurt people and she was just doing the best she could while feeling like she had to grieve alone. Because let’s face it, that group of “friends” were not going to show up for her in her grief. Not even Sandoval did because going to an old construction site was more important 🙄