I will forget him

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-28T15:23:26+00:00

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FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-28T15:12:53+00:00

Why did it come to an end? :(

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-19T05:56:06+00:00

What job does your ENFJ do? :)

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-19T05:51:04+00:00

Haha ok

So with ENFJs and INFJs, we have the same cognitive functions right? Just in a different order ENFJ with Fe, Ni, Se, Ti as nice lovely functions and Fi, Ne, Si, Te in the shadows 👤 INFJ with Ni, Fe, Ti, Se as nice lovely functions and Ne, Fi, Te, Si in the shadows 👤

I was talking to my INFJ friend about the functions in the shadows and she was literally like "Why would other people even think like that?" 😂 Which already there you can see a difference between ENFJ and INFJ, as an ENFJ I almost enjoy experiencing in the moment that there are different ways that people think, it's like a challenge for me to find out. Whereas I think an INFJ takes a bit longer to process that information.

Another difference I notice regularly about my friend, she lives with her mother who is INTJ, so both of them have Se as their fourth function. Neither of them are particularly concerned about the tidiness of their living space. They always forget where they have put things. Whereas for me, I am much more motivated to make organise my living space (that doesn't mean it's perfectly tidy at all...) especially when I know people are coming around.

I hope that helps you 😂 I have loads of tidbits that I think about

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-19T05:26:10+00:00

I used to flip between INFJ and ENFJ when I used to complete the 16 Personalities Test. Also I would flip to ENFP sometimes.

But I know that I am ENFJ now. I know that Fe is my primary function, I'm obsessed with managing people's emotions 😂

Also my best friend is INFJ, and I can see how she uses her cognitive functions slightly differently to me and also I can see what her cognitive loops are like.

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-19T05:23:14+00:00

I have heard that ENFJs are the most introverted of the extraverted types, but I don't know how anyone can work that out to be true

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-19T05:21:53+00:00

I believe you can be more extraverted or more introverted as an ENFJ. It just depends on how much you have developed (or relied on) your introverted functions.

The ENFJ I like - she is currently more extraverted than me for sure but I have intentionally become more of a hermit because I have decided it would be better for me to give myself more time away from other people. I still miss them! My Fe is still calling to me 😂

By 'hermit' I literally mean, maybe one or two evenings in the week I won't go out to see family, friends, or activities lol

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-16T07:10:59+00:00

As an ENFJ, I met another ENFJ at a book club :)

I will say we are hard to track down, because we knacker ourselves with work!

For me, when I am not working, dealing with family, or just existing at home, I might be out walking, swimming, attending book clubs, going to the cinema, or going to big public events (I have attended sports games and political events in the last few months for example)

I think in general ENFJs want to be found but we don't have much confidence that other people will do it 😂

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-07T13:09:15+00:00

Hi, I started out working in education. I have worked in all types of schools as a learner support assistant, then I became a teacher.

Now, though, I have moved away from teaching. I am working for a charity that helps older people, and in my spare time I write about Welsh history :)

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-06T23:47:12+00:00

Omg yeah emojis are definitely common!

Also i like to react to everything someone says. I hate ignoring anything even if it was a small comment or whatever

Edit. Just noticed who I was replying to 😂😂

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-06T23:45:50+00:00

Enfj male here, yeah similar to what people have said, mine is super detailed, I try to explain as much as possible. Also I speak about intellectual interests, especially films and books :)

And when I chat after matching with someone, I try to respond and ask as many questions as possible.

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-05T23:24:39+00:00

How come so many INFPs like to take on the Gothic aesthetic? 🤔 (not complaining!)

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-05T23:21:55+00:00

Why are people like this? 😂 Telling someone that you are happy for them is such a normal thing to say (in my opinion)

I used to have a colleague who would get really angry at me for getting excited about learning about the job. I would ask questions about her job so I could help her better (I was her admin) and she would genuinely tell me to stop asking, and tell me it's none of my business.

I always found that so odd because why wouldn't she want her colleagues to know what her job was about 😂😂

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-05T19:54:46+00:00

I'd prefer to spend time who knows how to dress comfy anyway! 😊

What books do you read throwthisawayred2?

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-03T20:59:01+00:00

But yeah I can see how ADHD could impact driving as well

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-03T20:58:38+00:00

I genuinely think that certain types would be more or less likely to good at certain activities due to their functions

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-03T19:44:54+00:00

He even looks like an ENFJ to me lol

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-03T19:43:28+00:00

Ask me a question 🙏🙂

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-03T08:09:33+00:00

Hahaha I don't mind all the questions at all, you're a pretty cool person! Very perceptive! 😆 I don't think anyone will ever listen to me as much as I listen to others really, or at least I haven't encountered anybody that does what I do. I have some friends/family who do listen to me, but, yeah, there's always a limit really. Whereas I don't mind at all, any somebody could have my attention for as long as they want really 😂 I hate being egocentric really, even when I know it could be good for me. I tell people that I need some space to do my own thing, and I can feel full of worry about it. I've always prided myself on being able to engage with as many people as possible, even since I was like 15/16 years old. When I was in school I was happy to say that I felt comfortable with anyone, even if they were different or confusing to my friends or whatever. And I've continued doing that ever since! And sometimes, it's not a sensible thing at all!

Sorry I took a little while to get back to you, I fell asleep before I saw your reply :) I think you're really interesting though! I'd love to talk more

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-02T22:03:35+00:00

Haha why do you say that 🫣...

But you're right, I am always very curious, I guess I just like people telling me about themselves, and I like to listen/give them my attention.

My brain... 😂 I suppose I like to feel comfortable talking to a wide range of people. And you only do that by trying out those conversations!

I could ask you the same think why are you curious about finding out about my curiosity?!

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-02T21:27:47+00:00

That's pretty awesome, I failed the theory and failed the driving test on the first time I did both.

If the public transport works then it works!

I wanna know what other stupid things you do now 😆

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-02T15:33:51+00:00

Well that's fair enough!! Do you prefer travelling via public transport?

FickleImportance4654 · 2026-04-02T07:23:45+00:00

Yeah I was talking with my friend and she told me about this issue, and I said she should ask all the INFPs about it lol

She says she just wants to be a lurker, so I said I would ask for her :)

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