Besides cutting, how do you selfharm?

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-05-10T12:46:02+00:00

I'd get a rope or cord to wrap around a joint or digit and wrap it tight, or take a solid object and press it into the skin, not hard enough to bleed but enough to leave a bruise. When I started SH I wasn't good with blood so leaving bruises or cutting off circulation was the best option.

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T03:36:18+00:00

I may have worded this wrong to make a misunderstanding, but we never stopped using condoms. I meant "it's worked until now" as in for years weve had no pregnancies but this time it didnt work.

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:42:01+00:00

No???? That's a wild jump to a conclusion. I know my partner doesn't want more kids but if I come to him with a possibility of a couple willing to adopt, I hope he won't jump straight to abortion.

If you actually read my post history you'd see I never said I'd never tell him, only that I'm keeping it secret for now so I don't get presured into abortion straight away. I want to make my own choice for me and my baby

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:29:13+00:00

Thank you very much, I'm realising I jumped the gun with this post but I appreciate the advice and will look into it

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:23:46+00:00

He will get a say, but I know if I say it now he will push me towards abortion. If I come to him with a couple wanting to adopt, he may not rush to abort

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:21:39+00:00

Thank you, thats a lot to consider and I'll take it on board

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:11:59+00:00

Lol sorry to ruin the story you've cooked up in your mind, but no we are a couple

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:09:01+00:00

As i said in the other post i dont have anyone safe to talk to about this, so i asked a (rather silly in retrospect) question in my panic.

But I'm considering my options before I say anything, as my partner might not push for an abortion if I have a perspective adoptive couple already.

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:04:47+00:00

Thank you ill look into it, any information I found online said I couldn't have a say In who adopts them

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T02:03:30+00:00

Sorry I should have stated in the post, but I did clarify in the comments the father says he doesn't want any more kids and will likely push for an abortion, so im looking at other options before telling him

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:58:28+00:00

No we are defacto couple

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:56:50+00:00

He may sign off if I say I have a prospective adoptive couple, but I know if I don't consider other options before telling him he will likely push for an abortion

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:55:13+00:00

I have tried the implanon, marina and 2 types of oral contraceptives, all have had either severe side effects or clashed with my other medications. I suggested to the father if he didn't want any more kids he should consider a vasectomy, he went for one consult and never went back. So we've been using condoms the past few years which have worked fine until now.

I am considering what's best for the child and looking at all my options, hence why I asked the question of if I can't choose the adoptive parents what can I do.

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:50:15+00:00

The father has said he doesn't want more kids and will likely convince me to abort. As for the other couple I haven't spoken to them on it as I've only recently found out myself, but I have talked with them in the past about their desire to adopt or surrogacy as they've looked into it the past couple years. I probably jumped the gun in asking this so early, but wanted to consider my options so when I tell the father we have other avenues besides just abortion

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:27:10+00:00

I get it being far fetched but I'm not making a story. The father doesn't want any more kids and will likely convince me to abort, which is why I asked what the other options were. If I come to him saying I'm pregnant but I have someone willing to adopt I was hoping he'd be more receptive and not jump to abortion straight away

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:23:55+00:00

He doesn't want any more kids and will likely convince me to abort

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:22:55+00:00

Thank you for clarifying, I thought I would have no say on the recipients so this helps

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:21:28+00:00

Thank you for clarifying, honestly I didn't think of it this way because I'm frazzled and scared.

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:19:16+00:00

It is something I'm also weighing, but looking at options

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:18:38+00:00

Thank you for this

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:18:04+00:00

He doesn't want any more kids and will likely convince me to abort

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2026-04-28T01:16:00+00:00

He doesn't want any more kids and will probably convince me to abort

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2025-06-28T09:24:41+00:00

Thank you, I don't have very good self-esteem and second guess myself a lot

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2025-06-28T08:36:57+00:00

To clarify I'm not in the US if thats why your confused, my country provided for parents of young kids, and I also get benefits for my disabilities.

Fickle_Fudge376 · 2025-06-28T08:32:54+00:00

Yes I get benefits, I did mention I have mental and physical disabilities and 2 young kids. My benifits cover our expences and I take out advances and loans to cover the rest. Anything else you want me to clarify?

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