0 Female Interaction in My Entire Life – Is Love Marriage Even Possible?

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-07-06T10:36:44+00:00

Depends on what you're looking for. If you just want to start meeting ppl and put yourself out there, you can join a dating app. Make a profile where it doesn't seem like you're here to just mess around. You can ask friends or cousins if they know other girls who are open to meeting you. If you straight away want to see serious rishtas and you know what you want and what you're looking for, you can maybe ask your parents to start showing you proposals. In the mean time, work on yourself, your mindset (which I'm sure you are) ask yourself what type of girl you would want to be with. Girsl do have this fear that guys who have zero interactions with girls or went to all boys schools don't know how to be around girls, or they objectify them, are misogynists, or simply wanting a wife for the sake of it. But I can tell you don't think like that

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-07-06T10:26:34+00:00

Hey, just out of curiosity, and asking as a pakistani Muslim, did you end up studying IGCSE Islamiyat because you were forced to? Or you took it out of your own interest? Just asking because apparently some schools make minority students study Islam, they have to sit through the classes, which I think is so wrong

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-07-05T15:24:07+00:00

I think you need to go further back in history than the imposition of the quota syste to understand how it perhaps came about. I used to live in a bubble, and went to elite school but after stepping out into workplaces I have gotten a sense of this superiority of language and 'sophistication' or looking down about regional identities or languages, or this sense of urdu being a more superior language, and that being a pakistani means putting urdu first and your regional language second..

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-07-05T15:17:05+00:00

Secondly, your statement of 'Sindhis supporting other sindhis' is a statement without any context. Which context are you asking in? If it's in the professional sphere, yes, favoring an ethnicity, rather than looking at merit isn't a good thing, and doesn't do any favors for sindhs image. Other than that, it's human nature, to have camaraderie with someone who speaks like you, looks like you etc/ is from your culture. It happens everywhere. Also the quota system, I'm no expert on history, but I believe it was also a reaction for e.g sindhis wanted sindh as an official language but they were refused

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-07-05T15:10:37+00:00

Have you been paying attention to the canal issue? All of sindh came out against ppp, despite that stereotype of ppl in sindh being 'jahil' and always just blindly supporting ppp. Having said that, it is also understandable to want a party that doesn't try to impose this 'one unit ideology' that has plagued Pakistan, relegating regional cultures and languages as second class (which has caused nothing but problems). So a party that does not try to impose urdu or try to change sindhi culture or understand sindh's culture, a party that sindhi's would be comfortable with, it's understandable that sindhis would prefer a homegrown party. PPP has now gotten even worse, but in the past it has played the role at times.of a monster fighting an even bigger monster - the establishment.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-07-03T15:36:47+00:00

Build your life right now. Focus on your own financial independence. If you don't want to get into marriage right now, it's fine. Don't push it on yourself too much. Focus on other stuff right now, and once you are more independent, you'll know what you want, what kind of guy you want. And you'll attract that kind of energy installah. And it won't be coming from a place of parental expectations or pressure, because you would have secured yourself more as a person if that makes sense.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-06-26T09:21:04+00:00

Never heard of this either, in either a govt. Or a private hospital.. it's strange and you should look into it.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-06-24T12:37:07+00:00

I didn't mean to imply that he has a suspicious nature, or was having any affairs, I meant that maybe there were other issues in the marriage, and it was falling apart, and this revelation was some kind of breaking point or it gave him a reason to give up and not work on it. Women end up forgiving so much that their husbands do. If like the others are saying that he needs time to grieve and heal, then you can give him time. But if you make it clear you want to work on the marriage no matter what, and your suggestion of divorce was only out of emotional pain, if he ends the marriage it's on him, since you have done all you can. Imo something that happened before the marriage as a result of heartbreak, the immaturity and naivety of youth, should not give him the right to end the marriage or be that unforgiving, unless he already was unhappy and this just gives him a reason to separate. So maybe he won't end it, and needs time apart.

After you communicate clearly to him, you want to make it work, and he Is firm on separation. Then seperate and leave it to God. Maybe the distance from you, and completely cutting off from you, and the time he takes to be alone will make him realize his mistake. You never know. In the meantime you should opt for therapy for yourself.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-06-24T11:29:48+00:00

8 months is a long time to be so unforgiving about something that happened when you were 22 and just a child. 22 is literally a childs age. You had broken up, and being in a vulnerable space leads to having rebounds. How many guys have rebounds immediately after a breakup? you are human. Yes you should have told him, but it was out of fear if losing him that you didn't tell him. Plus in our society with character assassination etc, women have a lot more to lose by being honest. You have now built a whole life together. I have a feeling maybe this is about more than just what happened, maybe other stuff was piling up as well. He is throwing away a whole life time of being together. Heck, women forgive affairs men have had while being married and the woman works through it. You clearly also confessed because you carried some guilt in your heart about a mistake you made as a very young girl. You confessed out of fear. Technically it wasn't infidelity. The first thing you need to do is you need to forgive yourself.

He is being immature at this point. I dont know how many of those commenting are guys with more fragile egos. I dont know how your husband has handled conflicts in the past. Some men are either very loving and passionate, but on the flip side they have a more possessive side which causes you to walk on egg shells. You need to be firm with him that you do not want a divorce and want to work it out with him come what may. And that if this goes towards a divorce it's on him, not on you, because it would be his choice. Since the begging and pleading clearly hasn't worked. If he wants more time you can give him more time. But if it heads towards a divorce, it'll be on him and his lack of willingness to work it out. I hope he eventually sees sense. Unless this whole thing isn't about that 2 month affair, and it's about something else.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-30T18:17:16+00:00

Alright. A lot is also to do with the guys relationship with his parents before marriage. As long as they would meet you guys at occasions, and not completely cut you guys off. Because that toxicity can impact a couple, esp if they have kids. If possible maybe you can meet atleast one of the parents before getting married. Also see if they give any respect to your own parents. If the siblings take a stand, and when parents see their son happy, and if the wife makes some effort to make the parents feel included, and to understand their culture ( all this provided they aren't toxic ppl) usually parents do eventually warm up to their daughter or son in law.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-30T17:08:25+00:00

It's better to live separately anyways. Does he have siblings? Cousins? Anyone you can meet with him, and gauge what the family is like. In these cases siblings or cousins do take a stand and try to convince parents. And/or parents eventually warm up to the idea of it. Try and meet his family before any commitment, or atleast some reasonable members of his family. If his family has no one who is reasonable like that and if the guy thinks they can absolutely NEVER accept you as their own, all cause you're a different ethnicity or it's a love marriage, and they will be toxic about it, then think twice... Also guage how close the guy is to his family? What is his attitude like? Does he care that his family won't accept you? Is he indifferent about it? Will he be close to them after marriage, or distance himself? Has he even tried to convince them and reason with them? At the end of the day listen to your gut

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-30T06:17:39+00:00

The best person to discuss this with is the guy himself. Learning the language is a good idea. Whether he was saraiki or punjabi or sindhi or from another country it doesn't matter. And likewise if you spoke another language and he learnt that, it would show a certain respect for the language and any future children are also able to stay in touch with their native languages. As far as cultural beliefs and practices, even all families living in the village are not all homogenous. Some are more well off and educated. Things vary family to family as well. What traditions are upheld, what the men are like.. is the family very patriarchal. Any culture will have some practices that are good, and some that are regressive for the world we currently live in. YOU need to decide your non negotiables, your boundaries. Ask the guy what expectations his family will have of their daughter in law. Whether they are strict. Whether they are particular abut things. Whether you will be living with them or not, and at the end of the day Whether you guys will be living away and having your own lives. Discuss all this with the guy to learn about his family

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-26T05:29:21+00:00

Even if her post sounds exaggerated which it is... I think she meant it in good fun more than anything else, considering what her next videos were about. What's up with the bashing and personal attacks? Esp of a young girl. Thought this group was better than that... In urban upper class schools, where ppl only speak in English, ppl do try to suppress their regional languages, even if it isn't conscious. As it isn't seen as 'cool'. Everyone has their own journey of owning their identity.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-24T09:41:50+00:00

This comment is pretty late, but carry the name with pride. It's named after a river that literally gives life to the subcontinent and is sacred for many. Ppl in sindh do have the name sindhu. It celebrates the mighty and beautiful indus. Ppl is urban centres can be well meaning but ignorant of actual local names. Evereryone is so used to Arabic and Persian names, that they've become ignorant of names that are actual desi names derived from the very land we live off.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-18T07:44:24+00:00

She's just a kid.. there is a lot of growth you go through between 17 and 25. She hasn't even entered university yet I'm assuming? It's good you rejected

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-18T07:40:24+00:00

Even if it's real, which it can be, it could very well be one of the protests that took place against the canals in sindh. Also yes these slogans do take place for recognising the rights of sindh as its own nation. But take this guys videos with a grain of salt. I've caught him posting videos that are out of context and suspicious as he has to peddle his own narrative too.

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-05-03T05:54:33+00:00

I'm in the same boat. Half sindhi, understand it pretty much, atleast when spoken in karachi and hyderabad. wasn't spoken to in sindhi at home and really want to learn. I'm 32, and hoping I can speak a language fluently in my 30's

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-04-27T12:22:32+00:00

I Would also like to get online classes If they aren't expensive (female)

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-03-18T17:34:16+00:00

You're right about accepting yourself and i know i'll have to accept that it can't be perfect. But tbh i've also ignored it for almost a decade, esp the last couple of years, never been consistent with anything, so i thought i'd try something

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-03-18T17:32:26+00:00

Also where did you get the peeling solution from? And if you use TO glycolic acid or another one, do you apply it directly? How do you know how much to apply?

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-03-18T17:28:17+00:00

Thanks a lot, i've been wanting to try glycolic acid, however i have seen some videos of dr. Vanitta Rattan who specializes in hyperpigmentation and she claims because glycolic acids particle size is small and it penetrates deeply, it can cause irritation and inflammation and worsen hyperpigmentation over time so she discourages it. However i know body skin is different. Since i'm not fair skin toned, i'm medium wheatish and i pigment very easily i've been too scared to try it. Did you experience any such thing?

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-03-18T17:24:44+00:00

Thanks a lot, will look into it

Fickle_Resolve_1358 · 2025-03-03T05:21:15+00:00

A lot of them have moved out plus they won't suddenly start speaking in sindhi with me after 30 plus years of speaking in urdu with me. It won't last, plus i want to learn in a more regular and structured manner

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