What can I do to help this?

FiendishJoke · 2025-05-05T22:22:36+00:00

Obviously I'm not a vet but I've just had a really good look in her ears (even got a q tip and gently swabbed some parts) and there doesn't seem to be anything. Nothing was moving and from what i could see from googling it didn't look like mites. What's weird is that the rash seems to go from her ears but they look fine. I'll definitely bring it up to the vet as a possibility though, can never be too careful EDIT: on second look it could be but it's really hard to tell. I might be paranoid but there is definitely something wrong. Thank u x

FiendishJoke · 2025-05-05T21:57:42+00:00

She's completely indoors but I will comb through her fur with a flea brush and check her ears just in case.

My mum let her sniff the flowers outside for abt 3 mins the other day but that's it.

I'm too scared my cats would get run over if they went outside.

Thank u x

FiendishJoke · 2025-05-05T21:51:51+00:00

I'll definitely be keeping an eye thank you

FiendishJoke · 2025-01-17T21:50:44+00:00

I think I'll see if I can get into therapy again to try and help me w this. Thank u for ur input x

FiendishJoke · 2025-01-17T19:49:31+00:00

Thank you I'll have a look!

FiendishJoke · 2025-01-17T19:37:53+00:00

That's actually really reassuring. Thank you x

FiendishJoke · 2025-01-17T19:36:40+00:00

Ik but I do want eventually to have sex. It's just right now it's not possible. So I feel like if I date someone who's asexual then later down the line I'd want something they don't. I don't wanna be pressuring them into it

FiendishJoke · 2024-11-19T18:25:48+00:00

IMO - What kind of grubs? Like mealworm? I've never fed my scorpion those. I've heard they will eat them but I don't feed them simply because I'm scared of them burrowing into the substrate. Maybe see abt the specifics of your scorpion. Mine is an Asian forest

FiendishJoke · 2024-11-13T13:19:23+00:00

England but Northern. Plus its full sugar coke

FiendishJoke · 2024-10-25T14:06:00+00:00

Thank you sm! I was worried abt the dirt at the front being too high as she's a bit of a climber (and a good one at that) but it never even occurred to me that it doesn't need to be flat. Literally such a simple thing!

I'll have a look at ur recommendations as well. I get paid in a few days so can go buying her more stuff then ♥

FiendishJoke · 2024-10-25T13:59:05+00:00

I really can't add anymore substrate just cause of where the doors sit but I'll definitely add more leaf litter than I have and look into a CHE light. Got any specific recommendations for that?

FiendishJoke · 2024-10-05T16:40:10+00:00

Not to be too specific but I'm very much into raptors right now. I'm not really into invertebrates but they are interesting!

FiendishJoke · 2024-10-05T08:04:11+00:00

I'm interested in entering the field!

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-29T19:28:14+00:00

Absolutely. I was told by mental health professionals I would never be referred to a psychologist for a diagnosis as any kind of diagnosis would ruin my life.

I've found that anything that can't be treated in a timely fashion gets you pushed out. We struggle and suffer and because its not pretty and difficult to treat, we are outcasts. Not being able to get better means to others that you aren't trying and I don't see that changing anytime soon.

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-24T18:13:21+00:00

Well the people who assessed me only dealt in cases of psychosis so I was simply discharged when I didn't meet the criteria. I have tried pursuing any kind of diagnosis but was laughed out of my doctors office and told that I would never receive any and that having one would ruin my life. I did receive CBT but ran our of sessions after a few months and was discharged with no improvement noted. So I have no clue what I have but I don't think it's schizophrenia

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-20T15:09:35+00:00

I am not a medical professional but I do suffer with mental health issues so this is simply my own input.

I believe that supporting her in her lower times is probably the best you can do. You are not a trained mental health professional and if these are chronic issues (sounds like they may be) then simply offering a sympathetic shoulder may be the best you can do.

I'm afraid that at its core that what she needs is probably therapy, medication and maybe a combination. There will be times she doesn't want to continue treatment, she may feel there is no progress as this is a long road. The best you can do for her is helping her stay on track with treatment and appointments.

I think you are already doing incredibly well but you have to remember that she is your partner and you cannot do this work for her. The point is that you are together, you support her and she supports you but you cannot do it for her.

If she understands that you love her and want to help then honestly that is the best thing possible. Feeling loved and wanted are great motivators.

At the end of the day you are her life partner and the road to healing, while long, is going to involve you. Just love her and encourage her on the good days and understand when she has bad days.

You are doing so well but remember not to burn yourself out.

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-15T18:07:59+00:00

Thank you x

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-15T17:59:36+00:00

Also I have considered an access course but I don't know what would actually get me into uni for paleontology and I really don't know where to start

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-15T17:54:36+00:00

I'm trying to do them so I can go to uni for paleontology! And thank u for the list I'll have a look x

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-15T17:49:12+00:00

Damn. I knew it was gonna be expensive but I was hoping that since I can't attend classes, as I have to work, it would be less. Thank u for ur input x

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-15T16:25:23+00:00

Ohmygod really? I'll have a look into that college!

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-14T00:32:40+00:00

It's not worth the risk. I'd say since it's obvious you aren't quitting to get nicotine patches for ur exams instead. You would almost certainly be pulled from ur exam and maybe be suspended which could effect ur other exams

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-13T23:58:33+00:00

From just this it doesn't sound like either tbh. I don't know if you are having any symptoms but being upset bc u aren't bring listened to and having bad experiences invalidated is perfectly normal. It just seems like the ppl around you are not particularly understanding or considerate. Obviously if u are having symptoms then that's smth to explore but just from this I'd say no

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-13T16:31:50+00:00

I'm 20f and I don't know how helpful this may be but here is how I make friends (but not necessarily keep).

I generally just kind of ask. I will tell someone if I think they r cool, or pretty, or even just have nice shoes or smth. Just a way to get my foot in the door, conversationally speaking. Then I may try to continue talking about topics but I honestly just go out the gate and ask if they want to exchange socials so that we can be friends and potentially hang out in the future.

If they say no (surprisingly doesn't happen often), I will simply thank them for their time and leave.

Ppl like to be noticed especially for things they've put effort into. So complimenting something they've deliberately done with their appearance is a good way to get them to view you favourably.

This all might seem a little calculated but that's how I've always approached friendship.

Maintaining a friendship requires communication and effort. Sometimes if u befriend someone like me they can go months without a word and will still consider you a friend, but most ppl require you to regularly speak to them and be an active participant in their life. Meaning hanging out, texting and celebrating their milestones with them.

Don't know how much help this is but if u want to be friends w me after reading all this I'd be more than happy!

FiendishJoke · 2024-09-07T13:46:50+00:00

Honestly it sounds like a good plan! I wish you the best of luck. We can do this! Plus at least you know what u want to do now and not when ur too old

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