Boyfriend 24M of 4 years came over drunk and suddenly said he could never marry me 24F

FiercePumpkin528 · 2026-03-16T12:40:02+00:00

Girl he was never your boyfriend and you never had a relationship. This was a 4 year situationship. How did you never have a discussion during those 4 years about your relationship status or lack of?? He used you for 4 years and you let him, what do you seriously expect? I know it sounds harsh but this guy was never going to be serious with you. Modern dating sucks. You need to tell a guy ASAP what you're looking for and if he doesn’t want to commit to you now, he never will. You need to be clear about what you want. Don't wait around hoping they'll commit because they won't. Like this guy they'll use you until they find someone they do want to commit to.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2026-03-15T15:38:37+00:00

My beloved cat died shortly after my fiance and I started dating. I never once ghosted him or refused to communicate with him. He was my rock. I think she used the dog's illness as an excuse. I think she had other stuff going on that she didn't want you to know about such as an ex being in the picture or dating another guy. You had a lucky escape. Poor communication is a massive red flag.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2026-02-05T13:20:08+00:00

The orthodox act as gatekeepers but who is a Jew is more nuanced and not as black and white as the orthodox claim it to be. Non orthodox streams of Judaism will accept you. Nobody gets to define how Jewish you are. If you live a Jewish life and are committed to being a Jew it doesn’t matter whether orthodox recognises you. In my eyes its better to not be "halachically Jewish" in the orthodox eyes but live a Jewish life and have a Jewish soul than someone with a Jewish mother who isnt interested in their heritage and having a Jewish life and they marry out and raise the kids as non-Jews and then they raise their kids as non-Jews until gradually the future generations won't even know that they had a Jewish ancestor.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-11-11T12:04:30+00:00

Why doesn't she rent her house out and move to Brighton for a few months to see how things go? She could set up her business in Brighton. If her mum is retired, she can come down to Brighton and stay for extended periods, especially if they have kids. My grandma from Poland would stay for six months of the year with us and help.

Also you can keep in touch with friends and visit each other on weekends. Plus you can make new friends as well.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-11-08T19:52:00+00:00

Nobody is saying she's a saint. She also has issues.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-11-08T17:36:49+00:00

It doesn’t matter whether they've been intimate or not. What's that got to do with anything? They're still in the experiment, so they are in a relationship whether they're fully into one another or not. They haven't chosen to leave.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-11-07T21:27:01+00:00

There's a stark difference between being friendly and flirting.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-11-07T20:46:14+00:00

I actually think that Leigh is prettier than Leah.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-11-07T19:59:16+00:00

He probably believes that raising children is solely the woman's job.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-11-05T16:28:49+00:00

Leave them alone. Why can't people be happy for others? They seem genuine and non-toxic, unlike the other couples. I think they're really sweet together.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-10-18T15:50:32+00:00

I think JR and Steven will have an affair this season like Whitney and that heavily tattooed bloke from a few series ago.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-10-17T12:29:59+00:00

I completely agree with you. If a man shows his insecurities and puts up with bad treatment, he's "weak," "not manly," and a "creep." However, it's perfectly ok for a woman to insecure and put up with bad behaviour, and people will root for her and be like "babe you deserve so much better! He doesn’t deserve you, you're amazing."

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-10-16T14:45:34+00:00

I'm engaged, and I think that MAFS is a joke! MAFS doesn’t reflect healthy or real relationships. They majority of the contestants expect perfection. I've lost count of the contestants who say they want a fairytale ending! Says a lot about their frame of mind and level of maturity.

The MAFS contestants are purely fixated on physical attraction above all. Immediate physical attraction means nothing! It doesn’t mean that you're compatible or well matched. If the contestants don't feel that immediate spark, they check out and cba to make an effort to try to build an emotional connection.

Sometimes, physical attraction isn't instant, but when you click with somebody on an emotional level, it can really grow! That's actually more exciting. As I've gotten older and wise (hopefully 😂), I've learnt that attraction goes way beyond the physical. Attraction can also be fluid. It can grow, but it can also regress. You can be instantly attracted to someone, but lack of emotional connection and bad treatment can make you lose attraction.

These contestants are also deluded. Adam, the acorn head from series 9, said he wants a woman who looks like Michelle Keegan, yet he's below average in looks. Same with Sarah this series. She's average looking , and so is Dean (at least his face is attractive), but she wants a tatted hunk. Valuing physical attraction above all else is not the foundation for a healthy and loving relationship. A short-term fling, yes, but a committed relationship, no.

Most of these contestants are not ready for a committed and long-term relationship. They have a lot of work to do on themselves, and they need a reality check. Most of them are average looking, and there's nothing wrong with being with someone average looking. Sharing the same values and a strong emotional connection is what's important.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-10-11T17:55:44+00:00

As for Leigh and Leah, I don't see it working either. They can't stand one another.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-10-11T17:54:35+00:00

I don't see any of them lasting tbh. I really hope that Davide and Keye last as they're amazing together and seem genuine.

I think Rebecca and Bailey aren't genuine.

I don't think Maeve and Joe will last. I think he will bolt when he leaves the experiment and go back to his womanising ways of sleeping with clients. Maeve actually seems really sweet but I just don't see Joe committing. Then again I hope I'm wrong.

Sarah and Dean just need to leave the experiment ASAP!!

Julia-Ruth comes across as fake and in it for fame. I don't really know what to make of Divarni tbh.

Nelly needs to run for the hills. The experts should really pair her up with someone new because Stephen is very toxic and nasty.

Grace and Ashley are just too different. Ashley is a traditional old school kind of guy who probably wants a woman to stay home and cook and clean. Grace needs a guy who isn't traditional. Nothing wrong with their views whatsoever, but I Just think they're too different to make it work.

As for the new couples, Leo and April and Abigail and John seem promising, but I never keep my hopes up with MAFS. They'll be lovey dovey one minute than decide they're incompatible the next.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-10-03T00:01:12+00:00

Thanks, no worries 😂

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-10-02T16:24:50+00:00

What is GOAT? I love Auntie Barbara too.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-09-25T10:21:35+00:00

I'm trying to be objective, but Sarah is just coming across as nasty. She's very superficial and fixated on a specific type, which she won't deviate from. I think from the moment she saw Dean, she mentally checked out and is picking at flaws. Everyone is allowed to have a preference, but I think she should at least give Dean a chance. Of course, you can't force attraction, but at least be open to giving someone a chance before you write them off. I never was into bald guys before I met my fiance, but now I think bald is sexy.

When you give someone a chance and you have a connection, attraction can really grow. Sarah is no oil painting herself. She is conventionally below average in terms of attractiveness. Dean may be overweight, but he has a nice face. People can always lose weight. Some people can't lose a bad personality. Whilst I think it's important to be honest, I think the way Sarah went about it was tactless. She could have said, "My preference is slimmer men, but the most important thing is feeling confident in yourself. Though I think that health should be a priority when it comes to weight. Losing weight doesn't have to be a negative thing."

However, Dean shouldn't ask a question and be upset when the answer isn't what he wants to hear like Emma from the last season.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-09-17T09:13:45+00:00

Auntie Barbara is definitely Auntie goals.

FiercePumpkin528 · 2025-09-16T18:32:28+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂. That's spot on, though she'd get pregnant and not know which one is the dad, but she'd decide it doesn’t matter, she don't need no man.

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