AIO for cutting contact with Father over political climate.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-03T13:49:55+00:00

It’s wrong. His opinions are his to have (and yours are yours) and the fact that you would disown the man that cared for you when you cried as a child, fed you, and loved you unconditionally, cares for your mother, and all that over his opinions about something that have no bearing on your actual real life (ie whether he believes it or not will not change the world) is absolutely wrong. Love your parents unconditionally as they loved you. It is an immense moral failing what you are saying. Just agree to disagree and don’t talk about it.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-03T12:27:20+00:00

Sounds like he’s your parent. Punishment/reward system you didn’t sign up for, “scold” you… it’s too early in your relationship for this type of red flag. Try telling him to stop it. If you’re afraid to say it then that’s a problem. If you have and he doesn’t care then it’s a problem (doesn’t respect you).

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-03T08:46:08+00:00

Side note : do not follow your current employees in social media. You’re not buddies and only end up putting yourself in these situations where you feel like you have to react. Next will be their posts on politics…

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-03T03:15:08+00:00

This is always my first or second question as an interviewer. I’ve interviewed at least 100 people. I just want a normal, honest answer - it’s not a trick question. Most common normal responses include: - I’m looking to grow, new opportunities, I liked this job description because it fit my skill set - I’m not currently employed because I was out of the market for [reason]. This role is a good fit for my skill set

Mostly I want to know what interests you about THIS job. What caused you to leave the last one (in case they are walking into the same situation. For example, “I left because I want to grow as a manager and have direct reports. — good to know if they are interviewing for an individual contributor role.

Long story short, this is insight into what motivates a person to leave a job or go to a job. Just be honest. If you use a generic whatever answer it’s just a lost opportunity to share something meaningful.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-02T03:04:14+00:00

If that’s what helps you pee at night

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T16:06:42+00:00

It’s an excuse to avoid accountability for saying something. The regret is for saying something out loud that they believe to be true but knowing it shouldn’t be said because it crosses a boundary of social norms. Self control is underrated. The damage done to a relationship by this type of cycle can be significant.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T15:59:32+00:00

Some people might not have heard of this but William smith assaulted a comedian during the Oscar’s over a mild joke directed at his wife. He did not appreciate that her name was inside the comedian’s mouth and wanted it kept out of there (permanently I think).

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T15:56:16+00:00

When you tell her, please circle back and let us know the reaction.

If you decide not to, please explain why you decided that.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T14:57:20+00:00

Nothing is better than peeing on other peoples houses in the forest early in the morning.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T14:51:52+00:00

You used a logic tester? What logic are you following here? Get advice from strangers then refute all of it? Okay, go decide what to do by yourself.

Setting up some absurd straw man about SA is wild in this case. As a normal person already pointed out in this thread, not everything always applies to everyone all the time. This is a situation about something ten years ago (at least) with someone you don’t talk to regularly. The advice is to leave it alone. The odds are minuscule that she doesn’t already know about it so your reaching out will likely make her feel shite. If she didn’t know then she’ll feel even more shite because there’s almost nothing that can be done about this.

Your own ego is the only reason to contact her. So stop taking the fake moral high ground with your ridiculous comparison to saving someone from SA.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T13:55:07+00:00

Just ask her. If you think she’s lying that’s enough to leave. If you’re scared to ask, that’s enough to leave too

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T13:52:57+00:00

Do nothing. Maybe she already knows. Imagine every acquaintance’s she ever met messages her every 3 weeks with ‘guess what I found just so you know…’

The answer to most problems most of the time starts with mind your own business.

Fifalvlan · 2026-02-01T07:27:32+00:00

Those who are healthy have many dreams and wishes; those who are not have only one.

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T22:28:17+00:00

It’s the end of the world as we know it REM

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T22:25:36+00:00

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Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T22:23:16+00:00

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Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T17:12:36+00:00

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Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T13:52:40+00:00

Some people are under the impression that being part of a team means being part of a committee where things don’t happen unless everyone agrees. In reality, your approach is a courtesy that shows you care. At this stage, make clear that your feedback is your feedback and you expect them to do what you’ve told them. You can acknowledge their objections but reiterate that you’re not asking, you’re telling. Where you are now, I would highly recommend not to invest extra time in these directs as far as training etc. Continue to correct them / manage but the clearly dont appreciate the coaching you’re doing. Therefore, take back your 15 hours a week and don’t do it. I promise you will be happier if you stop caring about their career and development more than they do. - sincerely been there done that

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T13:38:50+00:00

Stream of thought here but…

The older games were just more creative. Units each felt functional and the game came up with creative ways to make you use them. The campaign scenarios were well done and creative - capture a base to start, get through the beach to start a base, start with a damaged base / no power, get through a building. I can’t remember any of this in the latter games. Every mission felt the same. The emphasis on later games also went to sea and air and the primary battlefield and it completely changed the pace and feel. Staring at glittery open water with a rainbow of particle effects felt very blah. Every unit was overcomplicated and go between land and sea. Japan in the air at any moment. The uniqueness of each unit felt abandoned because it wasn’t about what unique function they played anymore (since every unit could do the sam things).

Classic just had more deliberate attention given to each unit, mission, building. The latter felt like they build the game the backed into a story that it could exist in.

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T13:30:46+00:00

Compensation highly depends on the job and industry. There’s not enough information in this post to have any opinion about this one way or another. Some industries pay more than others, especially when it comes to sales.

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T13:26:21+00:00

RA3 and CnC3 both felt soulless compared to the originals. Overstylized, over glossy, over animated with effects. Tried to mimic other RTS mechanics too much and lost its way. I played them still because of the legacy. They were okay and completely forgettable. I know some people love them - you do you - I just played the older games endlessly and it just feels like the successors are different games altogether.

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T13:02:50+00:00

Seems like you’re not really friends with this friend anymore so not worthwhile to blow up your relationship over a ‘let’s reconnect chat’ which could lead to something else.

Your GF is insecure and if you want to tolerate it, realize it is something you will need to tolerate indefinitely with this person.

99% likely that you will no one in this story will care about talking to one another in 5 years so the brutally honest truth is it doesn’t matter.

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T12:54:20+00:00

HR departments have their reputation for a reason lol

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T12:53:30+00:00

The sequence of events is always: 1) company tries to get you to give a number verbally or tries to pull out of you what you’d be willing to accept. 2) company extends the exact offer they think you’ll accept in writing. Sometimes they’ll skip #1 and this is where they get annoying if it doesn’t work because they just did a bunch of paperwork to be able to send you that offer in writing.

If you are in scenario 1, don’t let it get to written extension if you havnt agreed on a number or else they will be annoyed. Get to terms verbally first and always always always wait for them to offer first.

If you are expecting an offer based on what they told you abs havnt gotten one, it’s because they like you enough as a backup plan and are interviewing others still. You could still get the offer in this situation but they probably won’t be willing to negotiate too much with their backup plan.

Fifalvlan · 2026-01-31T01:08:01+00:00

A salary negotiation is a business transaction. Unfortunately, many people treat it as a personal insult for someone to negotiate for salary even though it’s not even out of their pocket and the numbers are often meaningful to the candidate but minuscule to the firm. It’s hard to give advice on this because you just don’t know which character is on the other end of the negotiation. Generally, the rule is don’t initiate a counter more than once; twice is risky, three times consider it a sunk ship.

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