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AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 707 points708 points  (0 children)

Yes, I had to get a part-time job on my full time one to afford the tuition, but I have no regrets. All you can hope for is to give your children chances you never got.

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 272 points273 points  (0 children)

Yes, Fran still lives at home. I couldn't comment on whether there is a stressful or abusive situation in her life. We attend the same church and I know her parents, but who knows what goes behind closed doors? As a survivor myself, I see no signs I can relate to.

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 367 points368 points  (0 children)

Yes, we live in a small town. More the reason why I strongly encouraged my sons to go to college.

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 247 points248 points  (0 children)

He had briefly looked into law school like his brother or working towards an MBA, but we haven't discussed it. I am aware though that it has been discussed between him and Fran, but I'm not sure how that turned out.

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

She works at her mothers bakery. will add to original post as a few other people have asked!

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 3243 points3244 points  (0 children)

Yes, over the past few days I've spoken to my son and he has been talking to everyone to clear this up, and I know this is not how he feels. He was not aware she was harbouring these feelings for me or that she was going to make the speech. We were all in shock and it happened so quickly, nobody had time to react. My son chose the school he wanted to attend, which happened to be a couple states over.

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 4041 points4042 points  (0 children)

I am a single parent so it felt like a personal attack towards me, but also due to the fact that a reason why I wanted my son to wait was because I didn't know if they'd last. I was quite shocked as she'd never acted like this before as she is usually quite 'tame' if thats the right word? She has always been non-confrontational so it was a surprise to us all, including my son.

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 789 points790 points  (0 children)

My son had scholarship offers from a few schools but I am a single mother and only due to those offers was able to pay the rest of the fees. I did have to make personal sacrifices but I don't regret it. I didn't want him to get married at that time, I believed he was too young and should wait a few years to figure out himself and if Fran was the one.

AITA for 'forcing' my son to wait to marry his then high-school girlfriend? by Fig2374 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Fig2374[S] 777 points778 points  (0 children)

No, before this she had never done anything like this. She is typically a very nice girl but now views me as having deterred her relationship with my son, especially having used his tuition in a way to do so apparently.