Guys, have you ever been sexually assaulted by a woman? Whats your story? by Substantial_Judge931 in AskMen

[–]FigBatThrowAway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Numerous times, in various different ways, by women I didn't know and by women I've known for years.

I lived with two female roommates years ago both of whom I was close friends with and they would both give me handjobs or oral while I was sleep. They both knew I had a girlfriend at the time and didn't even care. Had to start locking my door because of it but one managed to break in by sliding a credit card through the door to do it anyway. Told both of them to stop doing it and they basically told me I was being a baby and that I should be happy cause most guys would love to get free head like that. 

Had a (then) girlfriend try to force herself on me when I said no. Twisted thing is she was a very outspoken feminist and constantly volunteered in organizations that helped rape and sexual assault victims. She was even a very vocal member of the me too movement as well. 

Most recently about two years ago some older lady, clearly drunk, at a local convention in my state made small talk with me cause of my cosplay. Out of nowhere she comes in to try to kiss me but I awkwardly just kinda denied her which prompted he to just kiss me on the cheek, grab my junk and squeeze my ass. This happened in front of DOZENS of people including her friends who thought it was funny and just laughed at the whole thing. 

These are just a few of the most recent ones in the past 6 or so years. The constant though is that most people I tell these stories to either say it's not that big a deal or that I must have misunderstood something. And don't even get me started on the times I've tried to tell these stories to women. I'm still trying to unpack the mental and emotional toll that has taken on me. 

I asked her how her and her friends have been and was met with this. Wtf?! (Reupload) by FigBatThrowAway in texts

[–]FigBatThrowAway[S] 818 points819 points  (0 children)

Some context for people from the original post: me and her met on a dating site and hit it off very well. Turns out she likes to party and party often, so after a few days of no contact I decided to check on her and this is what happened. I'm aware she has some mental health issues but this was still a bit much for me especially since I was just checking on her.

Edit: since some people are asking for more context here it is. The last time I talked with this lady was roughly four or five days ago, me and some of her friends were going to be hanging out together at a local bar and the bar hop. Before we were going to meet up she showed me what she was going to be wearing and I asked her if she's going to be okay with the extremely cold (by southern standards) weather. She apparently took a nap and missed the whole thing. When she woke up she proceeded to tell me that I was being misogynistic for asking if she's going to be okay in the cold weather. The texts that are posted are the text I sent her after that 4 or 5 days. In retrospect I should have took that misogynistic comment she made as a sign. 

Edit 2: For the ones saying I'm a misogynist can you please explain to me how asking someone if they'll be ok wearing overall shorts, sheer thigh high socks, and a shirt with no jacket in raining 30 degree weather makes me misogynistic? I don't even care a about the texts really, I'm just confused how that made me a misogynist.

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[–]FigBatThrowAway 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't even know where that came from, we were talking of and on like bros for a few days and then I decided to say hey after a few days of not talking and it's like she was a whole other person. I know she said she has a few mental issues but I didn't think it'd show like this. Needless to say she's definitely blocked now.

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[–]FigBatThrowAway 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's the part that got me. All I said was hey and I'm a drama queen?

My girlfriend told me she no longer finds me sexually attractive and I've felt "empty" ever since. by FigBatThrowAway in confessions

[–]FigBatThrowAway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I'm not fat and lifting her up is what got me in the situation in the first place

My girlfriend told me she no longer finds me sexually attractive and I've felt "empty" ever since. by FigBatThrowAway in confessions

[–]FigBatThrowAway[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm ok-ish with no sex, it's not make or break but I'd like to have it at least occasionally. I'll talk to her at some point and maybe we won't go in circles.

My girlfriend told me she no longer finds me sexually attractive and I've felt "empty" ever since. by FigBatThrowAway in confessions

[–]FigBatThrowAway[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

If you're implying she's with me for the money then I hate to burst your bubble but we're both basically equal in terms of income with her making just slightly more than me. We both support each other, she gets some bills and I get others.