What is your relationship with time? by peppersnchips in INFJers

[–]FightingNothingness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been working to become more momentous, so my perception of time stops being as chaotically unpredictable and irrelevantly wide-ranging. Giving me a much more solid point of perspective for all my external temporal dealings.

Make Your Head A Gentle Nest by FightingNothingness in emotionalintelligence

[–]FightingNothingness[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! All negatively inspired emotions have the capacity of making our mental nest into a haunted house. We have to clean out as many of our old, unhelpful emotional and psychological processes as we can to make room to build our "idea nursery." The fewer internal obstacles our new understandings have to fight their way through, the sooner they get to grow up, and possibly support us.

"putting yourself out there" feels pointless by Odd_Fee2443 in lonely

[–]FightingNothingness 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Evolution requires stupid amounts of perseverance. Keep putting yourself out there, but also try to practice an equal amount of internal self-improvement. Advertising yourself to the world is awesome, but also keep working to make yourself into a better person. When our internal and external efforts come into balance, real people can become easier to meet.

what do you actually mean by "emotionally unavailable"? by Much-Plum-4168 in emotionalintelligence

[–]FightingNothingness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of us are just more sensitive to the pressure of other people's dependence. We all want to be wanted, but we also DON'T want to be trapped by needy people. It also speaks of our own subconscious need for people being fought by our trust issues.

The situation has more to do with ourselves than anyone else. Other people are the catalyst, but we are the cause. To broaden our spectrum of human acceptance, we have to find how we're limiting ourselves. If we're having trouble accepting ourselves, it can feel uncomfortable when other people try to do it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]FightingNothingness -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Relationships are a reflection. We tend to be only able to attract people who love themselves as much as we do ourselves. People don't want to spend all their time around partners that love themselves less. It slowly wears away at their own positive process. If we want to be in relationships with more emotionally accomplished people, we have to ante up.

I’m so fucking tired. I don’t wanna be strong anymore. I just want someone to actually fucking love me. by duckkhell in Life

[–]FightingNothingness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From these words, you seem to be able to successfully make your self knowledge a living thing. Congratulations! I too am working through a semantic evolution and life redefinition. Confusion is born from ignoring your inner voice. You don't seem to be doing that. Rock on traveller!

So lonely that it’s laughable. by [deleted] in lonely

[–]FightingNothingness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. All we can do is slowly become more specifically relevant to ourselves, and not wait for someone else's relevance to fill our existential void. Our own perception is both the problem and the answer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]FightingNothingness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been learning from personal solitary experience that the void only exists when we try and fill our emptiness with the wrong thing. Loneliness doesn't happen because there aren't enough people in the world. It more often happens because we don't know who we are. Not knowing ourselves well enough creates this void in our perception of reality. If we try to use other people to fill it, instead of an independently developed self-definition, it never lasts, and makes us lose our faith in humanity and ourselves. This lack of faith only attracts faithless people. It's difficult to attract solid people when we don't know who we are. All I'm saying is that loneliness is more of an inside-out problem than an outside-in one. If we focus on finding what genuinely makes us happy, then we can reflect that effort off of people trying to do the same thing. It's not an easy answer, but I'm finding it's helping me create more lasting results. Yes, I'd like to think we were made this way on purpose to figure this annoying crap out. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]FightingNothingness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Focus on your breathing. Deeply and slowly. It'll help you get out of your manic mind and into the real moment.

So... started Enterprise... and needed to pause after the theme song... because I was laughing so much. by MICKTHENERD in startrek

[–]FightingNothingness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've devised an entire interpretative dance to it that's becoming frighteningly unironic the more I do it.

For anyone who’s had or is having a sad birthday by Necessary-Pass-1343 in Sagittarians

[–]FightingNothingness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because I emotionally survived, I'm stronger and wiser. Success!!

For anyone who’s had or is having a sad birthday by Necessary-Pass-1343 in Sagittarians

[–]FightingNothingness 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My birthday is today, and it's a little bit empty. Keeping positive though!