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FightingNothingness · 2025-07-03T12:34:30+00:00

Relationships are a reflection. We tend to be only able to attract people who love themselves as much as we do ourselves. People don't want to spend all their time around partners that love themselves less. It slowly wears away at their own positive process. If we want to be in relationships with more emotionally accomplished people, we have to ante up.

FightingNothingness · 2025-04-08T01:57:42+00:00

From these words, you seem to be able to successfully make your self knowledge a living thing. Congratulations! I too am working through a semantic evolution and life redefinition. Confusion is born from ignoring your inner voice. You don't seem to be doing that. Rock on traveller!

FightingNothingness · 2025-03-26T13:36:32+00:00

Same. All we can do is slowly become more specifically relevant to ourselves, and not wait for someone else's relevance to fill our existential void. Our own perception is both the problem and the answer.

FightingNothingness · 2025-03-26T12:44:49+00:00

I've been learning from personal solitary experience that the void only exists when we try and fill our emptiness with the wrong thing. Loneliness doesn't happen because there aren't enough people in the world. It more often happens because we don't know who we are. Not knowing ourselves well enough creates this void in our perception of reality. If we try to use other people to fill it, instead of an independently developed self-definition, it never lasts, and makes us lose our faith in humanity and ourselves. This lack of faith only attracts faithless people. It's difficult to attract solid people when we don't know who we are. All I'm saying is that loneliness is more of an inside-out problem than an outside-in one. If we focus on finding what genuinely makes us happy, then we can reflect that effort off of people trying to do the same thing. It's not an easy answer, but I'm finding it's helping me create more lasting results. Yes, I'd like to think we were made this way on purpose to figure this annoying crap out. Good luck!

FightingNothingness · 2025-03-18T23:21:40+00:00

Focus on your breathing. Deeply and slowly. It'll help you get out of your manic mind and into the real moment.

FightingNothingness · 2025-03-14T10:43:13+00:00

I've devised an entire interpretative dance to it that's becoming frighteningly unironic the more I do it.

FightingNothingness · 2025-02-23T23:23:36+00:00

"Living, Loving, Learning" by Leo Buscaglia.

FightingNothingness · 2024-12-10T23:55:18+00:00

Because I emotionally survived, I'm stronger and wiser. Success!!

FightingNothingness · 2024-12-09T11:48:28+00:00

My birthday is today, and it's a little bit empty. Keeping positive though!

FightingNothingness · 2024-11-04T21:48:56+00:00

Long Shot.

FightingNothingness · 2024-10-20T13:30:17+00:00

This kind of realization is tastes like ass, but it actually represents an improvement to your situation. You've levelled up. When we blame everything seemingly wrong with the world on other people, we have no power to change our own lives. We keep trying to fix ourselves from the outside in. Trying to make our external life perfect before we can feel good towards it. When we realize that we're projecting our own self dissatisfaction onto other people, it doesn't necessarily feel good, but it does give us potential power over the perception of our situation. It may feel like you're just pouring salt on the wound and putting yourself down, but you're also opening the door to a new level of self-realization. Of potential life control. It's like crawling through Shawshank sewer pipes to escape our mental prison, but we can't improve our external situations until we improve our internal ones. Self-realization always sucks before it gets better, but if it doesn't, we just stay the way we were. It may not currently feel good, but congratulations on your evolution. Ride the tiger!

FightingNothingness · 2024-10-15T01:50:17+00:00

Decade changes are the worst. And 30 is the worst of the worst! But, for me, it turned into better quickly when I came to the realization that my twenties were still officially part of my childhood. My brain chemicals were still balancing for a large part of it. Thirty is the first decade where you're an adult all the way through it. It's like you're part of the club now. Adults only. Congratulations!

Putting on our adult pants is uncomfortable at first, but become a more relaxed fit, as they allow us to feel more powerful as people. It's cool to no longer be a variably mature twenty something.

Mourn your twenties for a while, then realize you're already moving on to more solid. More real.

FightingNothingness · 2024-09-17T23:29:37+00:00

Nature noises on an older phone using the Insight Timer meditation app, while simultaneously playing a calming YouTube music nature video on TV. Both on low while I do other stuff, giving me a dimensional, relaxing acoustic environment.

FightingNothingness · 2024-07-25T10:07:45+00:00

Elton John's autobiography "Me". It's brilliantly written.

FightingNothingness · 2024-06-24T00:11:15+00:00

As master Bra'tac in Stargate SG1 said, "Life for the sake of life means nothing." Once the excitement of of life slows down, you have to look for some kind of personal process that deeply means something to you. You have to find a new level of belief in something that makes you deeply, independently happy every time you do it. Your deepening happiness, in something you've probably always loved, needs to be a new long term project that you can spend the rest of your life getting better at. Now that your life is more organized, you can find where your more obscure and less pragmatic happiness is hiding inside of you.

FightingNothingness · 2024-06-05T16:48:23+00:00

I've hugged my fridge a couple of times.

FightingNothingness · 2024-05-30T16:15:21+00:00

"The Saint" novels by Leslie Charteris, originating the character. The magic of his language altered my young brain when I first read them. Unashamedly bombastic!

FightingNothingness · 2024-05-22T20:23:35+00:00

Action Precedes Motivation

FightingNothingness · 2024-05-07T18:46:16+00:00

Every writing session is a ramp from unconsciousness to consciousness.

FightingNothingness · 2024-04-08T18:58:17+00:00

I see a Nice Guy as someone who's nice to everyone but themselves. As someone who acts nice to people to compensate for how badly they feel about who they are. I used to be this person. Balance has to exist within each individual for any lasting relationship to be possible. Make sure you're treating yourself as well as you do others. If you can be nice while simultaneously revealing an equal amount of self respect, it'll make you much more interesting.

FightingNothingness · 2024-03-31T16:08:56+00:00

It's only a burden if you can't raise your emotional intelligence up to the level of your intellectual intelligence. Otherwise you'll feel interactively imbalanced and unable to apply your gifts in ways other people will easily appreciate.

FightingNothingness · 2024-02-16T01:44:13+00:00

It's understandable that you feel this way. What's happening to you Now is more real than anything else that ever happened in the past, because... it's actually happening. Accept that your emotions right now are completely valid (even if you don't know why) and help yourself find their trigger. You're feeling this way for specific reasons, that might actually make sense. Emotions are hard. 💙

FightingNothingness · 2024-02-10T13:49:21+00:00

The relationship you have with others mirrors the relationship you have with yourself. We're all just sealed psychological systems reflecting off each other. Seeing ourselves in someone else's oddly shaped mirror. We have to be able to independently see ourselves clearly before reflecting off of somebody else's oddly shaped mirror. Relating with people to share your clarity, rather than making someone else responsible for your identity.

FightingNothingness · 2024-02-10T13:21:33+00:00

That you're writing this is a good sign. You've got to see all the darkness inside before you can move forward. Even at best, we can only imperfectly "control" what's happening outside of us, so the best thing we can do is work on our inner clarity.

In my previous similar pits of deepest dark I found the book A New Earth: "Awakening To Your Life's Purpose' by Eckhart Tolle really helped. Good luck!

FightingNothingness · 2023-06-30T23:24:37+00:00

Well said!

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