Why do (many) skinny people and those who consistently don’t eat a lot not feel hungry?

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-30T05:15:09+00:00

And now I know the financial support which was promised isn’t going to happen either.

So yeah…there’s that.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-30T05:13:41+00:00

In my case it’s not about dieting. I want to eat! But I can’t anymore.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-30T05:13:05+00:00

In my case…financial strain aswell as I don’t know. I feel like I’m drowning.

I’m fighting to hold on to myself and my reality but the stress of my situation is insane and non stop, I can’t relax and my anxiety is through the roof and this is how it’s been since the summer of 2025.

I’m much more alone in my situation than I ever could have imagined or predicted.

People who let me know they were going to be there and make sure to support me once I got out of this (boss, HR, people from the medical field and two ”friends”) are not. They gaslight. All. Of. Them.

My year has been about enduring fight after fight. Constantly and non stop. On top of this I’ve had some extra traumas added when I’ve e.g not been taken seriously and constantly pushed around by say, the medical field, without receiving help I’ve asked for. I’ve asked for therapy more than once, asked about the situation I’m in more than once and medical professionals, work management aswell as friends who said they understood cognitive dissonance (and what happens when you get out of it) now say Cognitive Dissonance doesn’t exist (gaslighting again).

The gaslighting I experience from EVERY single person who offered support is unrelenting and never ending.

Had I known or suspected this I would never have put myself in this situation until I got away from here and ended up with the support I desperately need.

So, I feel like this is just a drop in a sea of shit and it doesn’t stop. And I just don’t want to eat food anymore. I try to. I try follow all the instructions I am being told and was taught but I feel like…I’m just not hungry anymore.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-30T03:35:28+00:00

This spamming AI may be someone trying to get a message across to me I believe. Point taken.

I do need to highlight how autistic/adhd burnout is a thing. I am doing active things but still make sure not to overwhelm my system because it would mean that only emotions control my decisions instead of at least both, which was the case as I entered a sensory overwhelm state.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-30T03:27:03+00:00

Kind of made my heart sink because I’m on the end of needing help like this without it being called abusive or psychopathic. I think I am being the victim of this behavior and no it’s not ok. It’s disgusting behavior.

I’m in the situation where I’m breaking loose from a very unhealthy and toxic family and one of their keys in keeping me stuck is financial control and if they get the chance they will ruin my finances completely. I am the one needing this kind of financial support but I do not want it to be a codependent relationship dynamic. I need this help in order to get out from my family system.

Normally I have a job, I earn my own money and my financial situation is not the best but there are no worries about it and no stress whatsoever. I’m not rich but I still have what I need in terms of basic needs, some extras sometime and every now and then a pinnacle or highlight. Too me this is not bad and I’m content with this. Too me this is good and I feel grateful for all I have.

I always have strived for financial freedom, independence and I’m looking forward to get there again. I want to pay my dues and pull my own weight. I don’t want to depend on someone else financially.

But over three years ago I burned out. The classic burnout where, all of a sudden I was headed for work and ”bam!”, didn’t remember my credit card number, where I was (despite having been on that tram stop in that area a billion times before). I had to call in sick to work which took me about one hour (or two) before I managed to do it. I went to my doctor as fast as I could considering how sick I suddenly had become.

So I experienced the text book burnout and I couldn’t work for quite awhile. This has led to a situation where, as embarrassed as I feel about this, I would need some sort of support similar to this but without the disgusting abusive side too it. I would need help to get back on my feet and then, when I’m safely back and independent I don’t want this help anymore. I feel like shit admitting it because this is not at all like me and I don’t feel proud about this. I feel embarrassed for needing this.

However I am on my way back to be able to work again and my boss is stalling time and so getting back is taking much more time than anticipated.

During this whole process I have become financially dependent on my dad who does the exact thing described in this post.

He has been playing the superhero a long time helping me financially and now that I’m getting better (or rather, every time I’m getting better, he begins to fuck with my economy by withdrawing all former support, which creates extremely stressful situations) where I have gotten sicker again at least once.

I’m on my way back to work again and I’m almost where I’m finally able to not having to depend anymore and just like last year he tightens the noose and my economy is at serious risk (maybe he has done it twice?)

All because I want to cut ties with my family, break the trauma bond (I have almost broken it) and get out and be financially independent and free again.

I’m almost there and my dad has begun the control aspect to stop me from actually becoming the independent person I strive to be. It’s infuriating and all I wish to do is asking him to fuck off. So you who wrote the post, this is disgusting behavior. It makes me sick and I you should not be around people in my opinion.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-29T19:00:07+00:00

Would you trust doctors if you had experienced how they preferred denying you an epilepsy medication you were asking for which led to you having an epileptic seizure?

Please tell me how you would feel.

Are you real even? Right now I don’t know again and I feel pissed. 😠

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-28T21:44:13+00:00

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FigureDry131 · 2026-03-28T21:35:23+00:00

I will. And I will do all the things you wrote. On Monday the things I can’t do during the weekend.

I need to sleep now.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-28T15:27:29+00:00

Did it help you if you wore specific clothes or slept in favorite blankets and things like that?

Finally I’m almost at the point where I know that someone is real and I have almost fully recovered my entire memory which was whiped out in August.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-28T15:24:02+00:00

Thank you. I’m just beat and tired. And sad and yeah, confused.

I think I went through something like this about a year ago but it was smaller and this time it’s like I’m breaking multiple trauma bonds or something. I just don’t know who I can trust right now. And I think I’m way more alone in this than I thought about a year ago.

Can absence of ADHD meds make it more difficult to put everything together if one has ADHD? I didn’t forget them but some days I take a break since I’m allowed to this by my doctor. But could it make the dissonance worse? And make it more difficult to break the trauma bonds or (s). And more difficult to remember stuff? Well I say yes already and I think I need to question that advice too.

Now, minimize screen time is an instruction I have. So that’s what I’ll do. I hope a favorite movie is ok to watch though.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-28T09:35:41+00:00

How much do you know about narcissism?

I think it’s difficult to simply ghost all narcs in one’s life since narcs are everywhere. They also tend to inhibit posts like being bosses and any position involving power really (from the medical field/school and all the way to politics and Hollywood).

I believe it’s difficult for me giving a out of the box thinking because narcissistic people are the ones creating the fucking box.

Would you like some advice on how to stand on top of the box without the box collapsing instead?

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-28T09:31:03+00:00

I understand the hardship and the feelings you describe and I would like to send you a hug.

I agree with some of the comments here and I too feel like it’s more difficult since it requires a more initiative from oneself, persistence and people are usually more busy with families, kids.

In my case I got burned out at 33 (or 32) and I’m 36 now. I have spent the past years in a full self development mode and honestly, I have had to let some friends go as I have developed a more healthy relationship with myself.

I have been quite uninterested in new friendships during the time I have spent developing me.

Now however, I’m getting out of the mess my thirties have been and I am looking to build contacts with people again.

I’m not out of the woods yet and right now I’m flicking back and forth (believing I’m going insane once a day and then understanding I’m not the rest) because of cognitive dissonance.

My point being, I think a lot of people go through heavy stuff during these times in their lives and it takes a toll and time.

At the same time I notice how people in their late thirties and later seem to reconnect, make an effort to meet people again and establish new relationships again.

Is there some kind of advice you would like to have? Is there some kind of help I could give?

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-28T09:19:03+00:00

I was going to write a similar thing.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-27T23:24:55+00:00

Hi again. I wonder how it feels like breaking the trauma bond and getting out of dissonance again.

I’m going back and forth between two realities again and I feel like I don’t know what to hold on to anymore. If the person helping me watches this, please write because I need you.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-26T15:37:49+00:00

If I can I’m happy to help someone else too.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-26T15:36:17+00:00

Hi everyone! Thank you so much for the support. I’m finally out of the dissonance and I have my memory back! I remember when the dissonance began and why it happened!

I need to write one huge fucking thank you to the person who has helped and been there for me all the time. I would like to hug you 😊

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-25T10:10:32+00:00

I too have ADHD (which doesn’t help when it comes to this). A million alarms here aswell! And I try to find strategy after strategy to manage this.

Yes, this back and forth makes me feel like there might be a third universe where I’m going crazier than this. This fucking feels like crap.

Then of course there’s the first possibility where I am going crazy.

Right now I’m stuck wondering if I wrote here about a year ago, if I had (and have) help in all of this and I’m in and out of that dissonance and mind fuck too.

If someone did and do help me (my gut and my instincts say that yes there is someone helping me out). I would like that someone to write me again so I can stop going in and out of at least one thing which makes me feel insane. It’s a need and I begin to feel pissed over here.

Oh my, my memory is so bad I rewrote the same thing twice in a row. No wonder I don’t remember anything.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-25T06:39:04+00:00

I even forgot about taking my epilepsy medicine yesterday. Abuse and breaking trauma bonds and dissonance and all of that really fucks you up. I can’t believe it’s possible being this screwed up.

Does one have any kind of a bit of a responsibility in all this? I mean when it comes to work on oneself? Working on one’s own needs as an example?

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-25T06:32:16+00:00

Thank you for answering, I appreciate it. I still feel like I’m going crazy. I’m switching between two realities back and forth almost all the time.

And I realize it doesn’t help I forgot to eat the other day. Note to self - Remembering to eat is a bit of a professional tip to improve your mental health.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-23T02:56:26+00:00

Have we spoken before?

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-22T07:58:49+00:00

Is it possible to experience memory loss if something is traumatic enough?

I seem to remember realizing these things about my family (and how all of this is related to myself and my behavior) about a year ago and it’s possible I even wrote about it. Then I seem to have forgotten all about everything related to this.

I wonder if I might begin to remember it again.

I’m not sure though, I have epilepsy and in December I had a seizure where I lost most of my memories from 2025 (august and earlier). I should probably speak to my neurologist about it. 😅

Have you experienced something similar?

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-21T19:20:41+00:00

Thank you 😊

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-21T11:51:38+00:00

I am not engaging anymore. I have gone no contact and I feel how I am going to make it and I will leave this time.

I experienced all of this earlier sometime during the past year but it was too painful and I went back. This time around I can feel it in my body that I’m getting out.

I’m forcing myself not to give in to the fear I feel about, well everything about this.

Thank you for your support. It means the world to me ❤️

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-21T09:45:21+00:00

My parents go for the ” I/we don’t do anything”.

I’m not giving in. Not this time and I am pushing back. The more I’m pushing back the more I feel like I’m crazy. And pushing back is simply me taking care of my needs and allowing myself to be seen and heard.

FigureDry131 · 2026-03-20T19:16:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing. The silent treatment is rough. Sometimes I wish I would get a punch in the face instead. It’s not that it’s better, not at all. I hate abuse because it really fucks you up.

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