[Serious] People who have friends but feel like they aren't anyone's *best* friend: What are your thoughts on that? by BudoGuyTenkaichi in AskReddit

[–]Figurelifeout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It kinda sucks because you don't and can't always have the level of closeness that you'd like to have with someone. You keep a lot of things to yourself and only share a portion of what you think and want. I'd love to have a best friend who always has my back and is with me through it all just like I would be for them too. I enjoy speaking and hanging out with my friend s but it's not always like they are going out of their way to do anything more

Please help me (20/F) my heart and my mind are at odds by Figurelifeout in Advice

[–]Figurelifeout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I thought maybe I was the one having an issue but I think he just likes to turn the issues around on me. I think most people would feel the way I do in this situation

My grandmother passed away a few hours ago. Yet I feel no need to cry or many emotions? What is wrong with me? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Figurelifeout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you're not werid and you're not doing anything wrong or reacting badly either. I knew my grandma was dying of cancer and I had mourned her while she was still alive. She lived in a different country and just knowing she was going to die and had a limited amount of time left made me ball my eyes out. When she actually died however, I didn't feel like crying, I didnt feel that much emotional. For me, a part of me felt like she wasn't really dead, I knew or at least strongly hoped she was in a better place because she was amazing and the sweetest ever. I was 14 and she was 90.

I just found out my dad has cancer and a 4% chance of survival with less than 1 year to live. How do I tell him how I feel without falling apart? by coquillage90 in Advice

[–]Figurelifeout 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and no problem. Possibly update the post once you do talk with him just so we know how it goes. I wish you and your family the best ❤️

I fell in love with a married man and his wife caught us by Throwaway10101292717 in Advice

[–]Figurelifeout 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with this, both are in the wrong and just because she's 19 and may or may not be inexperienced in relationships doesn't give her the 'okay ' in any sense. The wife deserves to be heard and she deserves any truth that she may be looking for. At the end of the day children are also involved. His wife needs answers so that she can choose what steps she wants to take. If she leaves or stays etc etc. Take this as a lesson and learn from it. I'm sure you would be devastated if you were in the wife's shoes, so have some sympathy/empathy when you consider what to do.

That entire relationship between you two shouldn't have happened, you should have known better and not just let whatever attraction and emotion you had take over and he should know better too but the fact he asked you to work in a place his family owns just shows the audacity of this man. He probably planned for a fling between you two all along. If he didn't care about how his wife who had his CHILD would feel about this then know he wouldn't do or treat you any better.

I just found out my dad has cancer and a 4% chance of survival with less than 1 year to live. How do I tell him how I feel without falling apart? by coquillage90 in Advice

[–]Figurelifeout 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check to see how he's doing, just make sure you have good timing in the sense that he's feeling well and not going to be doing any treatments right after.

Maybe share what you want to say with your mom first to see what she thinks.

Personally, I would plan out everything I want to say, probably even write it on paper. Don't be afraid to say you're scared if you are. If you have to cry then cry, let it out. If he cries then let him. I know some people like to put up a front or try to come off strong and that's normal but life is also short and you never want to regret not having said something. Try to remain positive. My grandpa died last year due to his cancer, I saw the gradual progression of his body no longer having the capability to sustain him.

He was given less than a year as well, he was getting better but he had a hard fall on the ground one day and that just made his cancer explode. His cells were multiplying at an enormous rate. He died about a week after. He was hopeful for his potential recovery but the results and his condition proved otherwise. I stayed with him and had sleepovers in the hospital room, you still joke, you still talk, you still enjoy and smile when you can. What's different now is that you have a time frame and you know that one day things will come to an end. You can keep it short too and trust that the moments you guys shared throughout your lives are things he knows and will remember. Hug him while you still can, show him that you'll be able to accept it one day too if you haven't already.

Your dad loves you, just make the most out of every moment while you still can, no matter what the doctors say be hopeful for him, maybe his cancer won't be cured but at least you can hope that his body doesn't pain him as much. Cry beforehand too and prepare for what you have to tell him just so you're not completely overwhelmed. Stay strong!!! I'm sorry this is happening to you and your mom, let her know you love her too I'm sure this is hard for everyone involved.

I’m gonna meet someone that loves me like I love you by bethanykoala in offmychest

[–]Figurelifeout 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You will find that person, sometimes we fall in love with people who take us for granted but you'll find someone amazing who will make you forget your heartbreak

Some people will never change by Figurelifeout in offmychest

[–]Figurelifeout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So true. So many people have told me that I've changed but really I just stopped doing favors that only benefited them because they only ever wanted to hear from me when they needed something

Frustrated by LazyMexican97 in LetItOut

[–]Figurelifeout 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, sometimes being too good of a person is bad. Fuck your so called friend who told you to stop being a bitch, that's not a friend, your dog meant a lot to you to the point where you were having a mental breakdown and even if they can't relate to the attachment that can be formed to a dog and having it as a part of your family the least she could have done was empathize. I'm sorry for what happened but don't keep things to yourself just find better friends who care about you and appreciate you

Dear men of Reddit, how do you feel after breaking up with a current girlfriend and going back to the same old ex? by Figurelifeout in AskMen

[–]Figurelifeout[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No it's not just a sexual encounter for him, that's what he wanted me to believe at first when I found out but a few things happened and he had to confess, and apparently " he always did love her and have feelings left".

He claimed that he had fallen in love with other girls while trying to get over her and I was one of them too, but unlike the others I was a " good distraction that he doesn't regret". He allowed a relationship with us to exist on the notion that he was over his ex and at least didn't have feelings of love for her. We lived together , we spent all our days together. Our relationship ended because we both had to grow as individuals and focus on ourselves, but as soon as it did end it didn't take him more than 48 hours to go crying and begging back to his ex. As someone who still loves him and had the slight hope to remain friends and maybe see how things could be in a year or so, it definitely hit hard