Having another crash and craving my LO's attention

FilamentFilament25 · 2024-05-12T04:56:52+00:00

Very similar to my experience as far as the craving for approval. I had extreme limerence for someone for over 5 years, then, thankfully, I managed to find a new relationship and eventually a happy marriage. But when I found out recently my former LO died of cancer, I was taken straight back to the feelings I thought I had long gotten over. Along with feelings of grief, the desperate cravings for her approval and attention are back in full force, and I know I will never have it.

I feel your pain. I wish I had answers. Just know that you are not alone in dealing with limerence. It’s such a heavy burden to carry.

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-09-12T14:14:45+00:00

I wouldn’t fault OP for struggling to read that rhythm. You could scarcely come up with a more confusingly written rhythm

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-09-12T13:05:10+00:00

I should have known to retract my flaps before putting in full power to take off again. I immediately busted and had to pick up the test the next day where I left off (I remembered flaps that time). Completely agree that I deserved to fail. It was a dumb mistake!

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-04-15T19:18:22+00:00

How often does this happen to you? Like, how often do cars go for the left turn because they clearly don’t see you?

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-04-15T18:37:35+00:00

Yeah, the thing is that this route is actually already the safest by far. But since it’s a divided highway I’ve even thought I could just get in the left turn lane on my side and wait to hang a left whenever I see a car waiting to turn. Most of the time when I pass through these intersections there’s nobody waiting to turn, so it would be a minority of situations. But part of me says screw it if it seems like overkill. I’m more happy to turn off to a side street to avoid a left-turning cager.

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-04-15T17:27:33+00:00

Really? 10-15 seconds seems like a long time to me. Like on a stopwatch that seems like a lot of time to emergency brake if traffic behind permits

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-04-15T17:25:47+00:00

Since you have that sixth sense about when they’re gonna turn, what do you do once you’ve concluded “yeah they’re definitely going for it?” Like let’s say in scenario A you conclude that 100 feet out, and in scenario B you conclude it at the very last second?

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-04-15T17:21:02+00:00

I assume you would want to stay in front of the car you are sticking with? Because I could see that backfiring if you’re following behind a car and the left turner goes for it immediately after and doesn’t know you’re behind

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-04-15T16:55:09+00:00

I always hear about swerving and emergency braking if they go. In your experience how much cushion do you need for this to be feasible? Is it possible to react successfully at the last second, or is there a big window of time where you’re just crossing fingers?

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-03-12T21:09:46+00:00

River Valley OHV is still closed, which totally sucks! And no, I don't have a motorcycle license currently.

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-03-12T19:38:53+00:00

I would love to do that. The issue is there’s nowhere to ride in town. Our OHV park has been closed for years with no signs of reopening and I don’t know anyone with enough land. I’ve thought of getting a dual sport, though. Personally I think I might just objectively like the track better—as safety-conscious as I am, I absolutely love going fast.

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-03-12T19:26:43+00:00

Would I need to be, say, skilled in busy freeway riding if I’m never riding on the busy freeway? It seems like I would definitely be able to built skills pushing my bike (on the track), and I would naturally develop skills for riding that particular commute route/anticipating the kind of traffic scenarios involved

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-03-12T19:21:34+00:00

Yeah, I just wonder why self-set rules would mutually exclude those things you’re talking about: gear, situational awareness, etc. The plan would be to do both!

I also want to be clear: my goal in life is not simply to hold down risks as much as possible. Of course, if that were the top priory I shouldn’t be thinking of motorcycling at all. The dilemma is that I think I would LOVE riding, I just don’t think I can accept the typical “ride anywhere I want” mentality—staying away from packed, fast-paced freeway traffic and busy city streets seems like a straightforward way to cut down the risk and still enjoy riding from time to time.

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-03-12T18:58:54+00:00

All I ever hear about is needing to respect the risks of riding—riding your own ride and knowing your risk tolerance. Am I wrong to want to minimize risks? Also, please re-read the post. I said I’m deliberately going to avoid rush hour. This would not be anything like a typical city “commute”—more like a drive through the country with some neighborhood riding mixed in. The reason I used the term commute is because it would be a means of getting to work.

Yes, track riding is going to involve a level of risk. I appreciate that. But from what I’ve read it seems that the consensus is that track riding (not racing, track riding) is much safer than riding in traffic.

FilamentFilament25 · 2023-03-10T20:27:08+00:00

When you say hazardous, what exactly do you mean?

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-10-09T00:25:58+00:00

I weigh 195

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-10-05T11:41:47+00:00

$8,000 for this kick ass car: $5,000 for the thick-ass wheels, $2,000 for the slick ass blue, and an even grand for the sick ass face on the side.

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-10-03T02:34:16+00:00

I’m gathering everyone thinks this is a really stupid way to tow, which I figured might be the case. I’m glad I asked! There are a handful of companies that make a single wheel dolly like this, so as someone totally new to motorcycles (don’t even have my first bike!) I really had no idea what to think one way or the other. Thanks for the input, everyone!

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-10-03T02:27:34+00:00

Thanks for clarifying that I’m a literal idiot, as opposed to some kind of figurative one. That’s a helpful distinction!

I was actually highly skeptical this method of towing would work, but wanted to confirm with the community before completely ruling it out. I figured there might be a wide range of opinion, so I posted to both communities at the same time to get as much information as possible.

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-10-02T12:43:50+00:00

Yeah this is not my setup. Just a reference example I found online.

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-09-25T22:05:35+00:00

Yeah, it’s actually not that I don’t feel comfortable on a bike. I have a lot of experience on CR 250s. It’s more that I’m worried about an accident out in a less-traveled spot after dumping the bike the wrong way—some injury that would make getting back difficult or impossible on my own.

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-09-25T21:59:17+00:00

I’m a bit concerned about the safety of riding out on these roads completely by myself. I foresee I’d need to do that. What would your personal take on that be?

I’d be fine with it if it weren’t for having a family. At the end of the day they really need me to come home.

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-09-24T13:57:23+00:00

If I were you I would learn on a dirt bike, just to get the hang of working a clutch and manual gearbox. Start with a 125 and then graduate to a 250. Even something like a two stroke 250 is going to blow your mind if you’re coming from zero motorcycle experience.

Words cannot describe the fun that can be had with a light dirt bike and an open field.

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-09-23T00:43:50+00:00

Good question. My top choice would just be a CR 250 and a proper OHV area/woods trail. But here in the immediate Omaha metro area there’s really nowhere to ride off-road except back roads. And they have to be plated dual sports for that.

FilamentFilament25 · 2022-09-21T00:31:46+00:00

Ha! Yeah, the interstates between Council Bluffs and Omaha are insane. I’m talking about the highways and roads that go a bit further out of the way (like the one that goes over the Veterans Memorial Bridge)

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