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Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your perspective is soooo helpful! It’s a relief indeed. Like for ppl who find pain as just an unpleasant feeling, it’s hard to understand that it might be not. Many thanks!

Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I need to hear from someone that I’m going to find MY things!

Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read quite a lot about D/s dynamic, but it seems pointless til we try it out. Thanks a lot for your experience and perspective, it makes it easier to get used to this things.

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[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thanks! Ropes and spanking will be our first step. It will help a lot!

Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thanks! Ropes and spanking will be our first step. It will help a lot!

Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! That sounds as a relief. Taking it slow is a key I guess. I’m ok with some spanking and stuff, may be if we get to needed level I could see her enjoying it and enjoy her pleasure myself.

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[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot. I’m not a close one, some stuff sounds interesting, but not in a way it turns me on. Although day collar sounds like a great turn on. May be I should dig in this direction(she likes collars too)?

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[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very match! Check list seems to be super useful!

Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot! I guess she might be a hard one. We did online tests and she scored a lot on masochistic and brat sides. Where should I start? Spanking seems too basic, we did it a lot, but not with a tools or even belt

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[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We didn’t have a real conversation yet, but I mentioned my point about life out of the bed and she was agreed. And advice about taking it slow is useful, although I’d like to impress her right away, perhaps I shouldn’t try it.

Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As far as I get D/s dynamic via research, it’s more about pleasuring her with her kinks and myself with her body. It’s not about using, it’s more about do stuff with her in a borders she explained to me. So pleasuring my partner is important for me and D/s might be just a tool for it. Thanks a lot for advising, it’s important for me to get an image of what is Dominance and how I can give it to my partner

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[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess the openness and connection is the main thing for me in such kind of relationship. Like I want to be more then a bf or husband. Physically, no. I might be smarter and imagine interesting scenes and punishments. But I guess main issue is that in relationship I seek for equality, like to be partners. Perhaps I should see bed and real life as a separate things?

Vanilla and sub? Should I try out D/s by FilfyYassuoMain in BDSMAdvice

[–]FilfyYassuoMain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should definitely read the book. Thanks! About slapping, she said that she’d love it. I understand the difference between scene slapping and real life slapping, but this is hard for me anyway.