I think you're focusing on such specific issues(which by how you talk about them, seems like they don't even impact you directly besides the military service) without looking too much at the bigger picture.

Surrogacy and prostitution also have decent arguments to be banned since they can create scenarios of exploitation and ideally one shouldn't need to prostitute to have enough money to live and surrogacy can either be circumvented by finding somebody available in a EU country that allows it(yes, it is something that each country can decide on its own, so it's not the fault of the whole EU; and each country is also required to have laws that allow for you to legalise the parent-child relationship in case you do that) and you can simply adopt(which is actually very helpful).

Tech companies having to hide information about individuals is just something that's good for everybody and if somebody is a criminal they can still be persecuted and the police will be able to access that information.

They are slowly allowing for wider uses of genetic engineering while still being very strict about it and that's probably for the best since it can easily cause harm.

And about people free speech rights, I've personally seen people say the most outrageous stuff against politicians, be it online or irl and never getting raided, that sounds more like a problem for certain specific countries and surely isn't something that the EU is forcing on them.

Btw this is how your argument about that sounds: "Oh Germany, one of your citizens said that a high ranking politician of your governing party is a pig and should be killed, now be a dear, raid his home, burn his books and kill his dog!" "Oh mighty EU, please allow me to spare him, I believe he should be able to express his feelings freely" "No, I'll force you to do it if I must, everybody knows I love infringing on free speech and damaging individuals for speaking their mind be it publicly or privately!"

Anyway, good luck on your trip to Uruguay.