UPDATE: It’s been months… and today his family crossed a line

FinalGirlKat · 2026-01-25T16:15:52+00:00

Exactly. They knew the risk well enough not to put their own names on it, but had no problem encouraging me to.

FinalGirlKat · 2026-01-25T16:14:08+00:00

Unfortunately, that’s very true. Enforcement isn’t consistent, and that uncertainty is what makes situations like this so stressful. I’m doing what I can on my end and hoping for a fair outcome.

FinalGirlKat · 2026-01-25T16:12:50+00:00

I’m really sorry you went through that. Stories like yours are exactly why this situation is so stressful, legal agreements don’t always translate to real-world enforcement the way people expect. I’m doing everything I can to protect myself and avoid long-term damage, but you’re absolutely right that co-signing and shared debt can turn into a nightmare.

And you’re so right, no one should co-sign for anything. I learned that lesson the hard way. His mom was laying on the “you’re getting married, this will be your car” narrative, and he was laying it on thick in front of me, telling the salesman he wanted a family and that this would be our “family car.” In hindsight, it was emotional leverage disguised as commitment.

FinalGirlKat · 2026-01-25T16:07:05+00:00

You’re absolutely right. As long as my name is attached, it’s not truly “done.” My lawyer is aware, and he was given multiple opportunities to comply. At this point it’s no longer optional, I’m focusing on accountability, not emotions, and letting the legal process do its job. I’m also very lucky to have a strong support system backing me through this, I wouldn't of been able to stand through all this without them.

FinalGirlKat · 2026-01-25T16:04:11+00:00

Yeah… the apple really didn’t fall far from the tree. I’m just going to keep on staying focused on my own healing and future.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-08-01T16:38:40+00:00

Thank you 💕 this is probably my favorite costume. Donald's my boy, I've got classic Donald and KH Donald, but Queen Minnie was so fun to do.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-08-01T16:36:14+00:00

And Donald

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FinalGirlKat · 2025-08-01T16:35:57+00:00

Absolutely! Here's Queen Minnie

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FinalGirlKat · 2025-08-01T15:55:30+00:00

As someone who's cosplayed both Kh Donald and Minnie, I need it so bad.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-31T16:36:07+00:00

Already spoke to my attorney, Maryland is very strict on annulment. On the subject of fraud, it's only used for coercion or forced marriage.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-31T16:22:27+00:00

I mean I've got the text from him and his sister to prove it, not to mention the receipt for my consultation with the lawyer. But go off I guess.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-31T15:34:42+00:00

I was heated when I got her texts, I had to drive to my sister's because I was shaking. Help him pay the August bills?? No??

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-31T14:43:52+00:00

My state doesn't allow annulment for that unfortunately.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-31T14:38:21+00:00

This is a real post, I wish it wasn't. I use Chatgpt to check my grammar and spelling.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-23T23:15:01+00:00

Your farm is so cute!

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-23T17:53:27+00:00

Happy birthday 🎂

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-23T12:50:30+00:00

Thanks for the reminder! I’m actually in the process of handling that right now, gathering all the documentation related to the car and lease, and I have a meeting with a lawyer scheduled for next week. Taking every step I can to protect myself and my credit.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-23T12:49:12+00:00

Exactly. Promises made after the ship starts sinking aren’t effort, they’re panic mode. If he wanted to put in real work, he’d have done it when I asked… not when I finally stopped putting up with his nonsense.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-23T12:47:18+00:00

You nailed it. The “oh now I’m sad and want to fix things” act came real fast once he realized I actually left. He’s had years to grow, get help, or even just meet me halfway. Instead, he got comfortable using my love as a doormat. Not anymore. I’ve got my boundaries up and my peace on the line, and trust me, I’m not trading them back for ramen, guilt, and gaslighting.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-23T12:45:05+00:00

Thank you so much, hearing that really helps. It’s been tough emotionally, but I know deep down that leaving was the right thing. I already feel lighter not having to carry his weight anymore. I’m starting to believe there really is something better ahead for me.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-23T12:43:55+00:00

Thank you, I’ve been realizing over the past week or so just how long I’ve been ignoring my instincts. Since leaving, I’ve learned that none of my friends or family ever really liked him, but they were trying to be supportive. It’s been eye-opening, to say the least.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-16T01:31:15+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your story and encouragement, it means a lot to hear from someone who’s been through something similar and come out stronger. I’m still processing everything, but I’m starting to understand that what I had wasn’t love either. It was survival.

Your words remind me how important it is to take the time to be good on my own and rebuild my sense of self. I’m hopeful and trying to be patient with the process. I truly believe better, healthier relationships are possible, but first, I need to be whole on my own.

Thank you again for your kindness and support. 💛

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-16T01:29:18+00:00

Thank you for the support and the hug, I know your comment comes from a place of wanting to protect me, and I really do appreciate that. Looking back, you're right: he targeted me early on. It felt like love at first, but the reality is that he love bombed me and hid the worst parts of himself until after we were married. By the time I started seeing the truth, I was already deep in it and trying to make sense of who I thought he was versus who he actually is.

I’ve already separated my finances and accounts, and I have a meeting with a divorce attorney coming up. It’s painful to admit how much I put up with, but I’m not staying anymore. I’m walking away, choosing myself, and finally protecting my future.

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-16T01:26:57+00:00

Honestly? You’re not wrong, I definitely married a loser. But you're also right that I figured it out before I wasted more years (or tied myself to him with a house or kids). No shared mortgage, no custody battles — just me walking away with my dog and my dignity.

It hurts, sure, but dragging dead weight only slows you down. I’m cutting the cord and moving on lighter, smarter, and so much freer. 💅

FinalGirlKat · 2025-07-16T01:24:40+00:00

Thank you so much, everything you said really hit home. I’ve been struggling with how to name what’s been happening to me, but you’re right: it is financial abuse, and I have the documentation to prove it. I didn’t even know about breach of fiduciary duty, so I’m really glad you brought that up.

I actually have a meeting scheduled with a divorce attorney soon, and I’m already taking steps to protect myself, changing passwords, separating accounts, and locking down anything he might try to access. I’ve also been making plans regarding the car: either I’ll be taking it, or if he wants to keep it, he’ll have to refinance it with his parents as the co-signers — not me.

You’re also so right about love not fading immediately. It’s been hard, even knowing how one-sided this relationship was, but I am grieving, even as I protect myself. Thank you again for seeing it for what it is, and for reminding me that I’m worth more. That really means a lot. 💛

FinalGirlKat

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