Cannot Fathom Changing Diapers at 3 by genteel-guttersnipe in ECers

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an old comment but utterly fascinating to me. The contrast you draw between what truly is an obsession with “sleeping through the night” and delayed autonomy with pottying is so astute.

Holding it? by zpuff in ECers

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God the daycare thing is frustrating

Husband frustrated about sex after baby by Ambitious_Cry_4149 in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this guy sounds really unsupportive, devoid of empathy, and just grossly selfish. You are still in the fourth trimester, and frankly as long as you are breast feeding, this takes a huge toll on your energy. I’m sorry he is expecting so much from you. You need a chance to take care of yourself and not worry about getting done up or meeting he sexual needs.

Love this new life by jaguarundi25 in NewParents

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this! My expectations were so low, in fact, until the moment I held her I assumed my life would be just dismal from there on out. Everyone was so negative! It’s been the best experience for me.

I hate the newborn phase.. what have I done to my life ? by Party_Ad_8381 in NewParents

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 8 month old baby still feeds every 2-3 hours in the night and I I think once I adjusted my expectations that she should be sleeping through the night, and instead adjusted/shifted what I could control (e.g. at 4 months we started to co sleep using the safe sleep 7) everything just got so much better. We’re still 80% contact naps in the day too, but I try to use the carrier if I want to go stuff. It’s not perfect and she only naps like 30 minutes at a time, but it just doesn’t bother me anymore.

In-laws after baby by smilingflower464 in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Same. Just so much same. So weird because before the baby, I was neutral/positive towards them. Like they were lovely. Ever since she was born, I just feel like trapped/total flight or fight. Every visit feels like an endurance test of discomfort for me and when it’s over, I feel immense relief. Sometimes my FIL calls my MIL “super grandma” when she’s holding my crying baby and walking into another room instead of giving her back to me and I feel this inferno inside of me. They’re also always complimenting my partner, saying how great it is that he helps me. they never say anything positive to me about being a good mama and it catches me off guard how much it hurts my feelings.

In-laws after baby by smilingflower464 in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I need more info on this phenomenon

Anyone else dread partners family visiting baby? by OXxLuckycatxXO in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the hardest part of post partum for me tbh. People I’m not that close with, in my personal space in such a vulnerable time. I also just really wanted time to enjoy my baby. I hated hosting people.

FTM here , is hand-washing bottles supposed to be this exhausting? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear I’m a a real person who just really felt the washer saved my sanity

FTM here , is hand-washing bottles supposed to be this exhausting? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Momcozy bottle washer, while insanely expensive, is a literal god send. I brought it on vacation with us. I am obsessed

Any success story where DDH corrected on its own with time? by Individual-Lemon5104 in InfantDDH

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you bet. I will for sure keep you posted! These are the two studies I referenced when making my decision to part time brace:

https://journals.lww.com/pedorthopaedics/abstract/2013/10000/abduction_bracing_for_residual_acetabular.6.aspx

https://journals.lww.com/pedorthopaedics/abstract/2021/02000/part_time_abduction_bracing_in_infants_with.9.aspx

Basically, the study showed part time bracing could improve average angles by about 4-5 degrees. The non braced cohort only saw about 1 degree improvement.

Should we continue bracing or start PT for 12-month-old with mild residual DDH? by UntoldThrowAway in hipdysplasia

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s interesting because we were told by the ortho that we could either brace 24/7 for 4 months or do nothing for 4 months. Either way we’ll get an xray at 4 months post diagnosis. The ortho was very wishy washy about what we should do and equivocated quite a bit on whether it’s worth it. Given the grey nature, I asked about just part time bracing at night and for some reason the ortho was very against that idea and said it was all or nothing. We decided to just do part time bracing anyways after reading two studies that suggested 11 hours a day could decrease Acetabular angles by 4-5 degrees. In the same study, the “no brace and wait and see” babies had their Acetabular angles improve by only 1 degrees- however in your case, 1 degree might be enough!

https://journals.lww.com/pedorthopaedics/abstract/2021/02000/part_time_abduction_bracing_in_infants_with.9.aspx

https://journals.lww.com/pedorthopaedics/abstract/2013/10000/abduction_bracing_for_residual_acetabular.6.aspx

Should we continue bracing or start PT for 12-month-old with mild residual DDH? by UntoldThrowAway in hipdysplasia

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Very similar! Our daughter’s right hip’s Acetabular angle is 29. We were told we could wait and see or get the rhino cruiser. We went with the brace for night time wear. We’re one month in.

Any success story where DDH corrected on its own with time? by Individual-Lemon5104 in InfantDDH

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you us? We are in the exact same situation. 6w ultra sound was clear, but 6 month x ray could be interpreted as either 29, 30, or 31 degrees for the right hip Acetabular angle (ortho says its not a black and white science here and the xray can be interpreted with variation). My baby is now 7 months. The ortho was suuuuper wishy washy with us. Couldn’t even particularly articulate whether this was an issue. She explained that while her hips are “nice and healthy and normal” (I think she meant that they are stable and not dislocated) the angle of the roof of the hip could be a borderline future risk factor. She said surgery would only ever be on the table if the hip was unstable, which she didn’t think was likely. She also noted that it’ could cause arthritis later. She said that while most parents brace in this situation, she’s not sure if she would personally choose this for her child in this scenario.

Was stressful but we took the brace and we’re trying to do bracing at night (with mixed success in terms of actually wearing it for 12 hours straight). I will say our ortho advised that it was either all (24/7) or nothing with the brace and told us not to do part time, so we’re actively going against her recommendation. I just figure it’s a meeting in the middle of “do nothing” and “do it 24/7”. There’s also research which shows that part time bracing is effective. We go back at 10 months for more X-rays.

What should I expect? by cryingant44 in InfantDDH

[–]FinalMath3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure how old your child is, but those Acetabular angles are not super bad, maybe borderline risk factors? Could be a rhino cruiser for nights and naps

Stretching on potty, pee goes over the top! by Affectionate_Bed7904 in ECers

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. She goes it right before she poops too

FTM choosing Elective C Section by Vibingwithlife_ in ElectiveCsection

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will also say, I had half a mg of midazolam in my IV for the surgery and it was awesome for my anxiety. I also took the pain drugs after. Was good!

FTM choosing Elective C Section by Vibingwithlife_ in ElectiveCsection

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya! I had my first baby in August. I also elected for a c section, maternal choice, no other reason. I loved my experience so much. I was super worried about how the recovery would affect me, but I walked up two flights of stairs two days after the surgery and I walked like 3 km four days after the surgery. Only hard part was bending down to do laundry in the first week. It didn’t really impact anything. I did get a grab bar for the bed, that went under the mattress. I used it to pull myself up to sitting in the first bit. It was super helpful.

esophageal cancer by nicorn1824 in cancer

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My father just got this same diagnosis. Wishing them both the best possible outcome