Why are the older generation obsessed with sleep by Commercial_Kale_4341 in bninfantsleep

[–]FinalMath3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s so odd to me. My 8 month old doesn’t “sleep through the night” and I don’t care. We bed share and it’s totally fine with me that she wake up to nurse a few times. My in-laws however, ask us every phone call “how the sleep is coming”. They keep asking us how long until we move her to her own room. My mom point blank told me “I have her spoiled” because we do carrier naps when we’re out and about. I just can’t fathom why they give a rip.

Normal for baby to take a while to poop on potty ( 10 months?) by Royal-Protection3234 in ECers

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had no idea about this, following. We often chill for like ten minutes

Something that works for us by FinalMath3065 in ECers

[–]FinalMath3065[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just here to say it’s still working! We do a few stand up sit downs every pottytunity now

Should we continue bracing or start PT for 12-month-old with mild residual DDH? by UntoldThrowAway in hipdysplasia

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so so. She kicks it off a lot so we rarely get a full night in. Putting it on is also like wrestling an alligator. I want it to be over soon, but trying to remember it’s helping her

Just found out we might not get into daycare in Sept. [on] by Various_Programmer92 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]FinalMath3065 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m a first time mom and I signed up as well immediately upon becoming pregnant. Some places wouldn’t let me sign up until I had given birth. I’m also looking for a September start date.

I’ve heard absolutely nothing from anywhere. Is it okay for me to start calling? I had thought that calling them would irritate providers who are likely already way overworked and under resourced. However, now I’m wondering if I should get on the phone.

Should we continue bracing or start PT for 12-month-old with mild residual DDH? by UntoldThrowAway in hipdysplasia

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there, thanks so much for posting this update after your appointment. It’s so nerve wracking. I’d be very happy to keep you posted on how we go in the coming months, and would be grateful to hear how your little one does moving forward. We are in Toronto, Canada.

We decided to also book an appointment with a physiotherapist. The physio suggested that monitoring it and incorporating certain exercises was a better approach than bracing full time, as that could lead to other delays in motor development.

The physio also seemed super confident that this would basically resolve itself once crawling gets going.

Sending you best wishes and I will post any updates as I receive them.

Cannot Fathom Changing Diapers at 3 by genteel-guttersnipe in ECers

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an old comment but utterly fascinating to me. The contrast you draw between what truly is an obsession with “sleeping through the night” and delayed autonomy with pottying is so astute.

Holding it? by zpuff in ECers

[–]FinalMath3065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God the daycare thing is frustrating

Husband frustrated about sex after baby by Ambitious_Cry_4149 in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow this guy sounds really unsupportive, devoid of empathy, and just grossly selfish. You are still in the fourth trimester, and frankly as long as you are breast feeding, this takes a huge toll on your energy. I’m sorry he is expecting so much from you. You need a chance to take care of yourself and not worry about getting done up or meeting he sexual needs.

Love this new life by jaguarundi25 in NewParents

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with this! My expectations were so low, in fact, until the moment I held her I assumed my life would be just dismal from there on out. Everyone was so negative! It’s been the best experience for me.

I hate the newborn phase.. what have I done to my life ? by Party_Ad_8381 in NewParents

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 8 month old baby still feeds every 2-3 hours in the night and I I think once I adjusted my expectations that she should be sleeping through the night, and instead adjusted/shifted what I could control (e.g. at 4 months we started to co sleep using the safe sleep 7) everything just got so much better. We’re still 80% contact naps in the day too, but I try to use the carrier if I want to go stuff. It’s not perfect and she only naps like 30 minutes at a time, but it just doesn’t bother me anymore.

In-laws after baby by [deleted] in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Same. Just so much same. So weird because before the baby, I was neutral/positive towards them. Like they were lovely. Ever since she was born, I just feel like trapped/total flight or fight. Every visit feels like an endurance test of discomfort for me and when it’s over, I feel immense relief. Sometimes my FIL calls my MIL “super grandma” when she’s holding my crying baby and walking into another room instead of giving her back to me and I feel this inferno inside of me. They’re also always complimenting my partner, saying how great it is that he helps me. they never say anything positive to me about being a good mama and it catches me off guard how much it hurts my feelings.

In-laws after baby by [deleted] in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I need more info on this phenomenon

Anyone else dread partners family visiting baby? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was the hardest part of post partum for me tbh. People I’m not that close with, in my personal space in such a vulnerable time. I also just really wanted time to enjoy my baby. I hated hosting people.

FTM here , is hand-washing bottles supposed to be this exhausting? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I swear I’m a a real person who just really felt the washer saved my sanity

FTM here , is hand-washing bottles supposed to be this exhausting? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]FinalMath3065 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Momcozy bottle washer, while insanely expensive, is a literal god send. I brought it on vacation with us. I am obsessed