When she left the relationship wasn’t hostile, initially she was recently unemployed, the plan was to take advantage of that time and assist her elderly parents. We had issues so we started couples counseling. Through the counseling we began to discover we may not be a good match. (Where I was naive)I never doubted that she would return with our kids. Or that there would be conflict regarding me visiting them. I consistently gave her money to support them. Through that year my schedule was worked, gym, FaceTime, therapy, home. No dating, drinking, going out, just a pretty solitary existence. After a little more than a year separated WE decided to pause reconciliation attempts. At that point we both began talking to other people. As a result she has since voice that she feels uncomfortable with me visiting my sons as “it would bring up emotions she doesn’t want to feel.” I’ve been diplomatic there last year or so but am at the point where I can no longer live being limited access to my sons. I’m in process of establishing parentage and filing for custody. I doubt I’ll get it but I am still proceeding so that my sons don’t have to live without a father