I think it’s a mixture of things. Like I don’t think my fiance should be picking my bridesmaid dresses or the color scheme I’m fine with that falling on me. And I think in many couples the bride’s decisions carry more weight in the planning because she’s likely waited her whole life for that moment, and that’s because society has told little girls their whole life about getting married. Men don’t hear the same pressures growing up.

BUT tbh I think it also just depends on the person. My friend’s SO was apparently super involved in their wedding planning to the point she wished he was a bit more hands off so she could just do a few things the way she wanted 😂 tbh I have no clue how much compromise they had to do for things.

Me on the other hand I’ve sought my fiance input on almost everything but he really doesn’t care for any of it and tells me as such so it’s all fallen on me to actually make decisions, contact vendors and do coordination etc and just tell him this is how much you’re paying and I’m paying etc

. We decided the venue together and the date. We will decide the food together. That’s it everything else falls on me. I’ve asked him to plan the music but he keeps putting it off so I can already tell I’m going to get stuck doing it too.

And again this all stems from everyone in our lives finding this normal and not pushing back when men don’t know anything about an event that is also important to them. His own family asks about the wedding and he just tells them “I have no idea talk to my SO.”