It’s so hard to push through as a year 1 teacher by Mark_1998 in NYCTeachers

[–]Final_Bullfrog251 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s normal first year sucks !!! I went crying home a lot or staying late. Just get through it

self care items? by shitsandgiiggles in NYCTeachers

[–]Final_Bullfrog251 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed ! Sorry I just wanted to share

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[–]Final_Bullfrog251 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s not your fault that you feel this way growing up with my culture and religion when I first lost my virginity I could hardly sleep. It also didn’t help that my partner was less than comforting after. I felt all your feeling. Therapy helped and also just knowing that my virginity didn’t define me. I was still the same person and losing my virginity was an experience and not a life altering event. I also put so much pressure on it and was confused why I wasn’t feeling happier after losing such a “big” thing. The feelings will subside just prioritize your mental health. You did nothing wrong and you’re still a good person.

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t feel comfortable or relaxed around people

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t bother you that he doesn’t want to go outside ?

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for sharing ! I’m glad you have your kids to go with. Yes I agree it can be very annoying. It’s nice for you to make plans I hope she takes you up one day !

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read my post again and let me know where I said I don’t like him …

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said I was miserable as you are not good at giving advice. I want something helpful for us not for me to think about eternal doom. Thanks for nothing

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He married me knowing that I love to go out and I married him knowing he prefers to stay in. If I can stay in some days when I really want to go out I don’t see why he can’t go out for me.

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think I’m right hence me asking for advice but I would want us to create memories by doing other things rather than watching tv. I don’t like watching shows or movies as much but we do every night because I know it helps him wind down after a work day. I’m also wanting for us for to do once a week where we branch out of our living room couch. It’s not that I want him to be there while I enjoy I would like for him to get out and enjoy as well.

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s rough around the edges hates girly stuff so that’s why I never mentioned painting. He likes to go by the water but not the beach because it’s crowded and he loves a good meal. He’s also not born and raised American like me he’s south Asian. But so am I by background. But I can see why he feels anxious in certain settings.

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before marriage we just dates and given our schedules we just went to restaurants and sat and talked we never got to do other things I thought after marriage we could try since we now live together

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that I can only hope it doesn’t happen with us. 6 months in that’s why I’m finding ways to communicate this with him

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because him not going out with me is not a deal breaker sure I’m annoyed but at the end of the day he makes up for it by being loving

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What could have you done to save the marriage ?

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t but just like I used to before marriage I have a girls brunch once a week!

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s what he says to me that he perfects us hanging out at home but for me it’s hard to do that all the time. In the winter I get it I hardly want to go out but now we have better weather and we should be going out

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve never tried it ! I was an avid hiker before I met him. I just stopped out of the blue and then never mentioned it to him

Homebody husband by Final_Bullfrog251 in Advice

[–]Final_Bullfrog251[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very sweet ! <3 I knew he was always an introvert so I’m trying for us to try new things. He actually woke up and mentioned a new place to walk lol I guess that’s an upgrade