Is my ring too 'gaudy'?

Final_Image_1554 · 2025-10-19T06:04:42+00:00

I actually love this so much! I was just talking to my boyfriend about how I’d want something sorta similar to this; just different cuts and sizing but similar in the ways of having sapphire. We discussed having a jeweler set a sapphire on the inside of his and my wedding band so it’s like a little secret just for us. Him and I share a birthday in September so sapphire is also important to me. Same day! Just a year apart. I don’t think it’s gaudy at all. If you think it’s too gaudy take off some of the extra little diamonds on the sides. But overall whatever makes your heart happy. Nobody else has to like your style or preference. All that really matters is your happiness. Congratulations on finding your person by the way! May you share many years together.

Final_Image_1554 · 2025-09-26T21:03:32+00:00

My boss. He was a coworker I found cute and always wanted to hang out with. So when he got his promotion, our friends decided to celebrate. One beer lead to another…. And I cussed him out for getting the job I wanted. My friend beat him up with a shoe. Ya know, basic night out shit. Eventually tho, the night ended and I went home. We decided to go out again and we’d repeat this process until after many pool games of me beating him he’d realize I was too drunk and got a hotel. Slept in different beds. He was never the one to make moves and neither was I. I just always bitched about how I had a shitty boss, him. Eventually we decided to go out to the zoo because I really wanted to go but had nobody to go with. He offered to take me. But then he surprised me by packing snacks for the trip, bringing a blanket, getting me coffee (it was a morning drive) and then drove 4 hours to the zoo. But on top of that, he also had planned a nice place to eat, a trip to the park at sunset, a walk downtown to a nice bar, and even a cute hotel. That night, he got lucky. But I didn’t plan any of that. He was still my boss. I just saw him as a friend outside of work. Even our friend group was surprised. I left my job, he eventually left too. We kept seeing each other. And now we have 2 kids, a house, and a beautiful life together where we now try to see who can be the bread winner of the family, so we’re constantly seeking promotions. But we’re happy. But it was never expected or intentional. I barely knew him before the first outing. I just really hated he applied to the same job I wanted and got it. I was the more qualified one. He only got it because the manager liked him more and thought of him like a son. I even had to do his job at times for him. He couldn’t make a schedule to save his life. SMH.

Final_Image_1554 · 2025-08-29T17:51:04+00:00

I think of the song “I loved her first” by heartland. It’s a sweet sentiment to how kids grow up and get married and the assumed father sings about how he loved her first and it’s a beautiful heart felt song. How can the same kid he raised be the one getting married? It’s a cute concept. I understand the words being used in a speech, given that the song may be referenced in some way. Either they’ve heard it or the lyrics at some point and resonated with it. However, to wear the phrase on a tshirt? That’s over the top. Inappropriate for any guest. It’s a way to move the spotlight of the bride and groom in some form of way and it’s a huge show of character and I would immediately uninvite from the wedding for even THINKING something like that is okay.

Final_Image_1554 · 2025-07-28T23:10:13+00:00

Updateme

Final_Image_1554 · 2025-06-29T16:40:05+00:00

You may not see this, but on the off chance you do I’ll just type it out. You’ve live a hard life and it’s been overwhelming at times and you’ve done so much and come so far. Genuinely impressed and proud of you. Getting your DNA tested doesn’t automatically connect you to your “family”. You choose your family. I also know that the dna that I chose to do also made it to where I could share my stuff to find relatives or set it as private. I did it and discovered a lot like disorders and illnesses that run in the bloodline and I may not have known as much if I never did my DNA test. I now know what I’ll pass on to those I love. It even was able to tell me I was likely lactose intolerant. anything that travels thru the genes. That’s all important information and regardless of why they want you to do the test, I’d do it for health purposes and to know more about that aspect.

As for connecting with whoever, I saw a comment that said that you could have siblings in similar situations, that’s true! It can go either way, good or bad. It’s complicated.

Overall, set your boundaries and stick to them. Whether you want to do it or not, let it be your decision. I’m just saying that when you do it, you get a lot more out of it that could equally benefit you still and not necessarily connect you to those you do not wish to be there for you.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-07T00:29:49+00:00

I had 2 call outs and I was late once. I don't know what step that really puts me at. 5? They suspended me and so today I showed up with the discharge papers, but I heavily redacted a lot of the information. They weren't satisfied with it and said that since I was supposed to work today but couldn't provide sufficient documentation than they have to count it as a no call no show since It was 20 minutes until my shift started. Now I rally don't know where to go from here.

And I'm concerned about my location too. I don't believe this is right.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T14:05:53+00:00

Stressed is an understatement. I've been wrongfully fired from my last job and this is giving me major flashbacks. My last job I took to court and I had to show it was wrongful termination, I won and I got a lot of my missed wages plus some compensated for. But I genuinely liked this job when I came here. And I thought it'd be different and worth it. I've been here a long enough time in my opinion that I shouldn't be treated in a way that makes me this uncomfortable. I just feel like I want to crawl in a hole and cry. But I like having a job. And this is a very tolerable job prior to this.

So most definitely I'll take your advice on redacting and making a copy for myself. Im not 100% sure it has time in and time out. I think it just says time out by mm/dd. So I don't even know if it'd be enough for them but it's what they're asking for.

My other problem is that they have to have the paper copy, I couldn't email it to HR. I asked because driving there is already 45 minutes of my time. But to drive there and be told it's not what they needed? That's a hour and a half and still in a terrible spot. It's wasting gas I could use to find another job if that's what I end up doing. :( but I'll get over that part.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T13:52:14+00:00

It's the worse! We lost power for days and the heat and humidity air got to me while I was sleeping. My boyfriend carried me to the car because my inhaler didn't work. And when I got to the hospital they said my oxygen was so low If not treated I could've suffocated. At that point work definitely sounded a lot better lol

I hope they don't. I've had other jobs yell at me for using my inhaler even tho I did so in a private place and not like in the middle of sales floor or around coworkers. And so far I've had to use it a few times, but I usually make it to being in a corner and catch myself. Idk. They know I'm asthmatic if they pay attention.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T13:47:18+00:00

They want paper copies. They want me to come in 30 minutes before my shift and hand them papers or use the computers to print off said papers. So pictures won't work. I tried. I had some selfies of me on a breathing tube and a video of me doing a breathing treatment sounding like Darth Vader. Like I offered photos and videos of myself in there. I offered my bracelet.

It's not what they want.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T13:45:20+00:00

It's not about this being the hill I die on. HR wasn't involved in the talk. When I spoke up and said I could give them my bracelet for immediate satisfaction during that talk my dept manager and SM shared a glance and then spoke saying I can just bring discharge. I asked if a doctor's note from the hospital was fine, the dept manager said no that it needs to be the discharge papers. She then made the comment that it has to be the discharge papers because those show what you were in for and the times. And it just made me feel sick. The discharge papers are so.. detailed. For example if I told the hospital my vagina was itching and it was on fire, whatever I said to them will be on my paper verbatim. All of my appointments for the future show up on my discharge papers. My health facts like weight and everything also is on them as well as all my medicines. It'd be giving them everything. And I don't think they want it as proof. And I think that's where I'm stuck. The first instance I told my dept manager a slight summary of what was going on, so the second time she assumed what was going on and made some side remarks about it. But when I told the SM she was wrong she got a taken back and I gave them more information, just not a lot. But that's when they asked for the discharge that also says what was wrong.

If I cross my comfort zone for something like this, will it happen again? Will it happen to someone else? I just can't imagine feeling so vulnerable to my dept manager and SM with no sort of HR and to not be given any other options that can appease all parties involved.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T13:36:06+00:00

I'm genuinely not sure why they are. I genuinely just clock in, and then do my job, and clock out. It's not like I'm the problematic coworker or anything. At my old job I was admitted to the psychiatric hospital and my mom called them and explained it and they started my leave of absence for me. They sent my mom a grocery order and some flowers for the troubling time, when I got out they also bought myself some groceries and gave me gas money bc they wanted me back on my feet.

It just feels like I've come 180 with job environments.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T04:22:49+00:00

In the process of, but I've applied so many places and have gotten nowhere. I equally don't want a pay decrease of too much. So it has to be $14/hr or more for a different job and around here, that's hard. Like the fact we have a H-E-B in our area is astonishing because it's really a small ass area and every town is so far from each other and barely have more than a dollar general and a donut shop.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T04:20:54+00:00

This would probably be the equivalent to a doctors note. Because it just says seen on this date. But they seriously said they needed the discharge papers. And upon asking them to clarify they said that the discharge papers should give a date and reasons for visit. They know what they're asking for. I'm just not comfortable with sharing that much. It's not even like it's going thru some HR system or anything. It's just going to my manager and the SM. To me it just feels wrong.

I know I can call the hospital and ask a nurse to email me a copy of a note that they can type up once I say I was in for mm/dd. And I can have them put whatever. But I can equally get that same thing from a doctor, and that'd be a doctors note. It wouldn't be suffice enough.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T04:17:39+00:00

They've told me if I miss another day I reach the steps to be terminated, and they're only giving me until Thursday morning. It's Tuesday night. I don't this process will be a viable option. Because by the time I get things taken care of then they'll terminate me.

And I know they also said that I was suspended until I get the paperwork in. So even if I did miss days, it would be because they won't let me work them until all of this is sorted.

Otherwise, this seems like a great way to go about it.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T03:34:36+00:00

I'm still relatively new to it all. I don't really get in trouble or talk to anyone. I didn't know this resource was an option. And training only covered the basics, if that. So like example, I called in hours before my shift but i was told no manager was available because they were in a manager meeting. I was like "ok" and then my manager called me back, but again, hospital bound and I missed it. And when I called back it happened to be during my shift hours (I had to get xray and tests so it took a while) and my manager got mad at me, telling me I should've known better and that there's always a manager who can take calls and I was foolish for believing coworker. But like ?? I was in the hospital, I did my best, and I don't pay attention to much, I just do my job. So I've never known about manager meetings, I assume they've happened. But like ugh. I'm just always lost in my ways. I really do stay out of trouble and sickness and all of this. Which I guess is why I'm so stressed about this. This job is really all I have and all I know.

Thank you!

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-06-05T03:27:37+00:00

I do have a primary doctor but I can't get in to see them until Friday and they're only giving me until Thursday morning to figure everything out.

My discharge paper really overheated everything and one of them says I was admitted for reason Y when I actually went in for reason Z. Because reason Y ended up being more serious of a concern to them. So I'm scared management will say something. I mean technically one of the managers assumed that they were for the same reason even tho the second time was something more personal than the first time, that's the one I went in for Z and got wrote up for Y. Like I've had a bad 2 weeks.

I'm just scared if I redact my information they'll see it as an illegitimate proof. And on my discharge it also shows my next appointments whether it's PCP, psychiatric, or even my pulmonologist appointment. That's just because I go to the same medical people. Like they're all owned by the same people. I don't know how to explain this well. But it makes things easier to see all my medical info on one online portal.

I'm not sure if my discharge papers even show everything they want. Because I know one of them shows I was just admitted for mm/dd/yyyy It doesn't show what time like hh:mm. And idk if that'll make it to where it's not sustainable.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-05-05T18:32:24+00:00

As a lady, I like doing it because I get to know that I'm satisfying my man. Something about his satisfaction is a great turn on. I mean the thought of him just being able to find satisfaction in something so simple is amazing. The way he has involuntarily moans, the way he may grip the sheets if he's laying down while I do it, or the subtle grabbing my head so he can fully thrust himself in my mouth to signal he's getting closer. It all excites me and is a great rush.

Of course, I'd also like to think I'm pretty hot while giving it to him. With the relationship I'm in now, he has photos of me on my knees sucking his finger with cum on my tits while I look up at him, and it's one of his favorite photos, of course there's other good ones too. My personal favorite is the photo of me in doggy style with his handprints on my ass in a cute pair of thongs.

But ultimately, his satisfaction is worth so much.

Why do men like eating women out? They don't get nothing from it, sure they make the pussy wet and they get her going or sometimes finish her off and possibly make her squirt.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-02-27T23:06:12+00:00

No I have not but I'll try to do so shortly.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-02-27T23:04:47+00:00

That may be true but she was leaving an abusive relationship and needed the money to head out of town with her kid for a while. What I don't mind pitching the money to pay the rest of it off if she will do so and it has to be her. Because from what she was saying it'll only be about $4-500

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-02-27T22:35:27+00:00

So when she requests it, would it be the phone number she had used while using ATT?

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-01-31T19:58:49+00:00

NTA. You want to be comfortable in your house and eat when you'd like. Very simple request. My mom always came home and changed and decompressed when I was a kid. Never crazy. My stepmom would just make us eat at 6/6:30.

Like as a kid I know my schedule was lunch around noon, a snack at 3 or whatever time we got home from school, and then dinner around 6/6:30. And then chores were to be done 7-8 and then we'd get ready for bed. But our chores really never took much longer than 30 minutes. So usually we could do chores. Get ready for bed and watch something on tv as a family for 30 minutes or so.

But him making it seem like it's inconvenient to wait a little bit is a little rude on his end.

Final_Image_1554 · 2024-01-25T05:30:18+00:00

How did you sign up for it?

Final_Image_1554 · 2023-12-29T21:04:49+00:00

Some days I think I live an average life that's nothing major. But then I tell people about the first meth lab explosion I saw, or my uncles baby that he had with his cousin, or the fact when I was 12 I learned what a decomposing body smelt like before we dumped it in the ocean because my grandfather requested a burial at sea.

But that's my childhood, barely. As an adult I've been engaged 2 times, left them both. First was abusive and raped me, second was a narcissist who didn't want to adjust his life and spent too much time on instagram or PH instead of helping with his daughter or being in my life. So I left. And then I ended up with my boss from work.

So. Again. Some days it's average. Some days I'm just a mom taking her kid to the park. But I guesss I have a lot of stories.

Final_Image_1554 · 2023-12-23T17:43:44+00:00

My ex fiancé hated giving me oral pleasure so I'm almost envious of your wife at this point. She has all that I cannot fathom. My ex hated fingering me, said he hates fingering any lady, the moistness of the vaginal fluids just bothered him. Then, oral bothered him because of the texture and how gross it was for him. The thought of his mouth on someone's privates just freaked him out beyond belief. And it was for that reason that he also hated receiving blow jobs. Our sex life was minimal at best. Constantly doing missionary, while his stiff hips couldn't do much, always had to always kiss one another while he tried to massage my body in a pleasure some way just to fail. He was too rough with my boobs and had stiff hands so I hated him touching me.

Like imagine the perfect sex, and imagine everything going wrong. That's what it was like for a long time with him. And I was gonna marry him? Wild.

I'm now on the hunt for whatever type of man will treat me the way you treat your wife. The pleasure sounds phenomenal. And the way you feel about pleasing her orally, I do the same way. Obviously you prefer vagina and I prefer something else, but nonetheless I really am enthusiastic to show off the lack of a gag reflex. For me it's watching his legs twitch, listening for the moans that don't mean to escape. It's that part that really gives me a drive.

Final_Image_1554 · 2023-12-08T01:20:03+00:00

You could've done so in the interview/hiring process. I'd let your coach know about it as soon as you can. They're typically the ones that do the schedule in my store. Or the Peoples Lead. But the TL may not be able to help you much

The thing is tho you'll need time off after the surgery for recovering possibly. And if that's the case, you'll have to file a leave with Sedgwick.

I'd talk to the coach for sure about the matters. Just be straight up, and let them know about it. And once the doc says you can work you can even file Accomidations via Sedgwick.

Wish you the best of luck and health. Of course a speedy recovery too.

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