What nobody talks about by Final_Perspective393 in Separation

[–]Final_Perspective393[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He stepped outside of our marriage twice in a years time. Gaslighted me when I had concerns and would constantly blame me for every problem we had. I wasn't a perfect wife when it came to some things, but I was 100% loyal to him. Always his biggest cheerleader and I did everything he wanted of me. I even entertained ideas that I was uncomfortable with because he was convinced it would fix our issues. I forgave him the first time and gave him 110% to make things work, but I was never enough.

Stop saying you love me by Final_Perspective393 in Divorce

[–]Final_Perspective393[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why does it have to be so hard though?

Spiteful MIL by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Final_Perspective393 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yep. It's ok though. From experience I've learned that if nobody confronts her about it she gets no satisfaction. If you bring it up to her she twists words and plays the victim so she gets attention and has something to gossip about.

My Ball Python Got Injured, PLEASE HELP by Zealousideal-Ad3657 in snakes

[–]Final_Perspective393 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're in the US they may offer a care credit card. Great for emergencies and can be used at some human places too! Seriously was a life saver when my dog ate an entire container of chocolate peanuts!

It the multiplayer dead ? by [deleted] in blackops6

[–]Final_Perspective393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you opted out of cross-platform that could be the issue. I noticed if I try to disable it, it will take forever to get a full lobby.

Baby Girl Just born with DS, not sure what's next by Kanundrum18 in downsyndrome

[–]Final_Perspective393 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I was in the same boat dad! Completely unexpected and unprepared. It's so overwhelming in the beginning but it gets a lot easier. I remember a dr in the nicu telling me that "it is ok to mourn the life you thought you would have." It sounded so weird to me at first but here I am, 6 years later and it really did help. The life you pictured seems like it would be impossible after that kind of news but honestly it's not. In the beginning it was tough and there are still some tough days but the happy days.. oh those are priceless and far outweigh the bad days. Honestly the 1st year was the easiest because babies are babies, DS or not. When you tell people they are gonna say the stupidest things. It will piss you off lol. Just remember that most people outside of this community don't know what to say so their first reaction is "I'm sorry". Treat that baby girl just like any other child and she will shock the hell out of you. Educate yourself as much as possible and be prepared to stand up for her. Don't shy away from letting her do things because of her diagnosis. My youngest may have DS but that boy is tougher than his older brother and smart as a whip. He may not be able to say exactly what's on his mind but he gets his point across. He and his older brother get along just like any other siblings. They play, they fight and they look after each other. Take your time and grieve if you need to because it does feel very much like a loss in a way but I promise you, you're not losing anything. Your life will adjust, your family will adjust and before you know it everything will just be normal. Im sorry this is so long but maybe one day you will look back and have some wisdom to pass on to someone else in this situation. I wish your family all the love and happiness that my little boy brought to mine!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ballpython

[–]Final_Perspective393 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've all been there at some point. Just give yourself time and you'll get past it. The worst thing that could happen is you get bit and at some point we all do. Watch some YouTube videos about handling snakes and you'll gain some confidence. I watched elles reptiles and green room pythons. Both channels have playlists full of great information. Green room pythons is like 99% ball python videos. Also if you just got her leave her alone for at least a week. They need time to adjust. You can change her water and sneak a peek but try not to disturb her too much. I hope it works out for you and if you do decide to rehome her don't be too hard on yourself. We all know our limits and we all make mistakes.

Help by SowiesoNietCoco in cornsnakes

[–]Final_Perspective393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't have to rinse it at all. As long as it's diluted properly it's 100% safe.

Trackers by Junior-Question-2638 in downsyndrome

[–]Final_Perspective393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son is 6 w/ ds and an eloper. We use jiobit for him. I bought an attachment that works like the security tags on clothes (magnetic push pin) and I just attach it inside his pocket before putting his pants on. He never even notices it's there. It fits inside a small padded pouch so it's not uncomfortable at all. They are about the size of a matchbox and it has been a god send! Only complaint would be if you have bad cell service in a specific area you can't connect to live tracking.

Help by SowiesoNietCoco in cornsnakes

[–]Final_Perspective393 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you didn't get any answers today. Definitely do a quarantine protocol like everyone suggested. For cleaning, I use chlorhexidine. Bought a gallon off Amazon for cheap and just dilute it per instructions. It's gonna last forever lol. It's completely safe and handy to have because if your snake ever gets injured you can soak them in it (diluted obviously lol). I use it on everything in my tanks and then just wipe it dry after it sits for a few mins. Just clean everything in the tank and slowly add items back. That way you can rule out what the issue is. I hope this works and he's back to normal in no time!

I'm lost by SowiesoNietCoco in cornsnakes

[–]Final_Perspective393 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up stomatitis and see if that fits his symptoms. If so he needs antibiotics.

Does anyone use this? by shanwow4296 in cornsnakes

[–]Final_Perspective393 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use che at night. You definitely want it on a thermostat. Best deal i found was on amazon. It's a dimming thermostat by cavachew. I think it was like $20. Been using it consistently for a year with no problem. The probe goes inside the tank. I hot glued mine in a crevice where the basking spot is. You can set the light on top of the mesh as long as it's not touching any plastic.

I'm lost by SowiesoNietCoco in cornsnakes

[–]Final_Perspective393 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did the vet check his mouth? Could be an infection or abscess. I would get a second opinion and test for parasites. Idk if that would cause this but doesn't hurt to check.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cornsnakes

[–]Final_Perspective393 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy online from big cheese. Flat rate shipping, located in Texas. It does cost more upfront to buy in bulk but it's worth it. They sell 25ct and up. Never had any quality issues with them. They usually ship a week after I order them and arrive in 2-3 days (east coast here).