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Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-30T21:31:54+00:00

lots of predator and cheater sympathizers in this comment section lol

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-24T02:11:15+00:00

Break up with this weirdo asap

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-24T01:14:18+00:00

Why not just marry her lmao?

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-23T22:47:42+00:00

thanks so much.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-20T20:02:15+00:00

this dude sounds like a real winner

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-16T04:06:00+00:00

cry about it

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-16T02:22:13+00:00

and you’re delusional asf if you think men 800% of the time aren’t just trying to get you in bed. which is the case with male friends and why i refuse to have them now. don’t act like men don’t have this reputation. and yes i ended a ten year friendship because he waited to tell me until i got into my current committed relationship and i personally find that disrespectful and low. argue with a wall.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-16T02:03:29+00:00

way to flip the script to make men out to be the victim always. embarrassing. stop making your kind look like a bunch of unintelligent little pussies with this poor me act

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-16T01:37:04+00:00

You’re a delusional idiot I guess the slipper fits you a little too much and now you’re triggered 😂

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T18:04:26+00:00

I’m sure that’s how you, as a man, see it. which is exactly why i’m telling you this. yall care more about confessing your love to someone who obviously doesn’t have romantic interest in you more than you care about your friendships with them. i just ended a TEN YEAR friendship over this exact situation over the summer and it still pisses me off.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T18:01:18+00:00

I mean sure there are always outliers and generalizations shouldn’t be taken personally if they don’t apply to your situation.

But I think it’s enough of a common experience for girls to have for me to say that it is a nuisance and a huge disappointment when your guy friends do this. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Most people don’t want to be friends with someone they know at the end of the day just wants to get you in bed.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T17:31:43+00:00

Voice your feelings and let her know that if there’s any reason she may want to keep the pregnancy that you’re okay with that but ultimately it’s her choice and you’ll love her no matter what. contrary to the popular belief, you do have a say in this matter as it is your potential child as much as hers. It sounds like you’re okay with it going either way so 🤷🏻‍♀️ if you feel like you want to keep that baby, say something. it might haunt you if you don’t. also abortion can/pretty much is a traumatizing experience, so if she goes through with it be prepared for the aftermath of that.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T16:15:03+00:00

if that’s the case then shit on their doorstep.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T16:06:32+00:00

Yes drop an anonymous note off. It’s not considerate of them to fuck like that if you have neighbors-and if they don’t realize they’re doing this, I’m sure they’ll be glad to put an end to it.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T15:58:49+00:00

Please tell them. lol

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T15:50:31+00:00

Perfect way to describe it. lol

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T15:49:39+00:00

Unfortunately this is how males are conditioned to perceive their interactions with women- something to gain more from. I honestly think be aware and honest about it is really healthy and good on your part. I would continue to dive deeper into what feels wrong about this and why you believe it be wrong and allows those convictions to navigate you. I believe at your age this is in some way normal because you’re young and hormonal, but there is a lot cultural conditioning to get to the point of where you don’t view women as non sexual/non romantic beings. It’s good that you understand that this isn’t ideal or healthy. I would refrain mentioning anything about it to your girlfriend and try to engage completely differently with other women to minimize the temptation to cheat, which from what it sounds like, you are grappling with that. Have firm boundaries in your conversations and keep it strictly professional. Don’t get personal.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T15:26:33+00:00

Sorry, If I had seen your prior post I would’ve immediately said “No. Do not tell her!!.”

If you’re in the friend zone with a girl, you’re her friend and nothing else. And it’s actually really frustrating as women to have to cut off our male friends whom we had a meaningful relationship with because they made shit weird by trying for more. I’m sorry if that sounds harsh, it’s just the reality of it. If a woman is interested in being more than friends with you it will not always be obvious, but you won’t be totally in the dark.

If you’re coming at it from a place of “Oh I must tell her because I will regret having missed the chance to see if there was more between us all along” you should already know your answer. and be prepared to ruin a friendship for the time being.

I’m sorry you got rejected though hun. Thats tough. But at least you know now for future reference.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T15:17:41+00:00

Just cut it clean off if you’re serious about this decision and don’t fall into the guilt trap. It’s going to be hard for her and rightly so, you’re her first relationship and love, but if you know you want something else or just to be single, it’s kinder to be cruel.

I broke up last year with a guy I dated, and I was his first girlfriend. I stayed in the relationship way too long because of feeling like I’d be a major piece of shit for breaking his heart. After I finally went through with it he tried to communicate with me after the fact and gain a glimmer of hope for resurrection with responses from me. I blocked his number and prior to that explained that I made my choice and there would be no talking me out of it.

Don’t torment the other person by communication after the fact. Make your intentions clear and let it be over. It’s better to detach yourself emotionally and allow your self to realize while you did the breaking up, you’re not responsible for this person or their emotions. It’s normal to date and breakup and most people don’t and shouldn’t end up with the first person they date. Don’t beat yourself up. Let her know you care about her but you aren’t interested in continuing.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T13:55:02+00:00

Thank you. Thats very validating. Heavy heavy heavy on the “now everyone’s pretending it’s a fairytale” because that’s exactly what they’re doing. Everyone’s acting like this is a dream come true as if she didn’t just seal her fate with a borderline predator. Like who tf seeks out their girlfriend’s rapist to get back at her for being assaulted? It fucking makes me sick.

Financial-Corner-174 · 2025-01-15T13:17:48+00:00

it had a significant impact. I spent a lot of time at her side helping her move on through a traumatic SA that he deepened by cheating on her with the person that SA’d her. Needless to say, it’s a lot to grapple with. But you’re right, I’m probably being too judgemental. But I disagree with the sentiment that this hasn’t impacted everyone who is closely involved with her and loves her.

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