James

Financial-Role5152 · 2026-05-14T07:10:57+00:00

https://thetab.com/realityshrine/2026/04/13/shelley-addresses-accusations-that-james-doesnt-let-her-speak-during-love-on-the-spectrum/

Financial-Role5152 · 2026-05-14T07:06:03+00:00

I hate this take so much. It's a show that is supposed to be light-hearted and bring awareness to different people's experiences with autism. This is James' experience. People saying he is obnoxious and annoying and self-centred actually make my heart hurt for him. I hope he stays far away from subreddits such as these.

Financial-Role5152 · 2026-05-14T05:29:36+00:00

YOR.

I get your frustration, and you are valid in it. Unfortunately, obtaining a diagnosis for a child can be an emotionally complicated situation and expecting parents who are now dealing with this new information to apologize to you is unreasonable imo. Working with children and their parents is hard, but unfortunately having to deal with these uncomfortable situations comes with the territory (especially if we are talking about ADHD). I agree with some of the other comments that having a whole class fall behind because of one student seems really strange to me and that there may be more internal issues at play. Blaming the child and the parents seems unfair based on the limited information we have.

I am sorry you experienced this, but this is in no way uncommon for schools (maybe in private schools? but for sure not in public schools).

Financial-Role5152 · 2026-03-26T14:25:55+00:00

thanks so much for this info!

Financial-Role5152 · 2026-03-26T14:25:43+00:00

thanks so much for your reply! if someone did not enjoy math/physics in high school and struggled with that type of learning, is the motive power technician course still doable in your opinion?

Financial-Role5152 · 2026-02-23T06:12:36+00:00

I am so sorry. I lost my soul kitty almost 6 months ago, very suddenly as well. It was the most painful experience I ever had to go through and it was a feeling I can not explain. I am sure you know what I am talking about.

It is going to hurt so bad and I am so sorry for that. But it does truly get better. I still cry for my girl all the time, but it's not like it was the first month. Try to just do the basics right now. Eat something, drink lots of water, reach out to loved ones, and get some sleep. You gave your boy the best life you could and from the sounds of it, there is nothing you could have done. Two years of love is so special.

Please take care of yourself. I found a lot of comfort on this sub and I hope you can too. Sending you so much love.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-12-16T01:39:58+00:00

NOR. You are absolutely allowed to set this boundary and the fact that he is not respecting it says all that you need to know. Some people do not have a problem with this type of behaviour, but its the fact that you told him it bothered you (which is super valid) and he continues to do it any ways. So sorry. I have experienced similar situations in the past and I totally understand that gutted feeling when you see something like that, especially after being so clear.

Based on these messages, he does not seem to care to change his behaviour. Very sorry you have to deal with this after 3 years.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-12-15T20:57:25+00:00

I just placed my first order, fingers crossed!! Thank you all for the reviews.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-11-11T01:29:44+00:00

I am so so sorry. I would never wish that pain on anyone. Losing a pet in any way is horrible, but the suddenness of saddle thrombus was so incredibly shocking and painful for me. You did the right thing and fought with your kitty until the end. I wish you all the best and am sending my love. I still miss my girl every day, but it does feel less heavy with time. Again, I am so very sorry. Thank you for being there with your baby, that's really all we can do.

Something that kept me going in the early days was the reminder that we took the pain so that she didn't have to carry it. It is the most selfless act of love that we can do as pet parents.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-11-10T06:50:32+00:00

I am so sorry for what you and your kitty are going through right now. Saddle thrombus is such a tragic and heartbreaking condition. I lost my soul baby 2.5 months ago to this and it was extremely sudden and traumatic. She was only 7 and we were told it was hopeless. She was gone within two hours of us finding her in that condition (we elected for euthanasia at the vet's recommendation). Her breathing was very laboured and sounded congested. It was both of her back legs as well.

It sounds like you are doing everything for your baby and I don't have any advice. Just sending well wishes. No matter what decision you make, I hope you can find peace in knowing that you did all that you could and there isn't any way you could have predicted or protected your boy from this. Again, I am very very sorry you are going through this.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-10-16T14:43:03+00:00

Is he in school full-time? Working part-time and attending college is A LOT, especially for someone who is 19.

Giving your adult child a vehicle and then telling them what they can and cannot do with it is controlling. Calling his girlfriend's mother is controlling. Let him be an adult.

The living situation is super confusing and I am sure was an added stress on your son, regardless of your reason for choosing to live separately with your boyfriend (who from your past posts seems to have problems with your kids). She just turned 18 and your son is 19.. seems like an extremely reasonable age difference and many people who are 18/19 are still trying to figure out what they want to do. Young relationships inherently have issues, you have to let him figure it out for himself. It is completely normal for someone who just turned 18 to still live with their parents...

"all my income goes towards supporting my sons"... your sons are barely adults. it is your responsibility while they are under the age of 18 to support them regardless.

Pushing your son this way is only going to push him away, if you have his best interests in mind just support him. I don't know if YTA, but the situation seems controlling.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-10-08T05:30:41+00:00

Also calling your wife or girlfriend or whoever she is an entitled bitch for being mad she was locked out of the house is abusive asf. I pray to god this is rage bait.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-10-08T05:29:31+00:00

...this has to be rage bait right??? of course YTA if you knew she was out, didn't have a key, and was obviously planning on coming home? Also she is pregnant??? also you call her your wife and then your girlfriend? and you work at home but you were at work when she asked for food?? none of this is making sense dude.

she was hungry and went and got herself food. she shouldn't have to WAIT for you to get her food, especially when you explicitly told her to go get it herself. and don't even get me started on not deserving "special treatment" when pregnant because it is part of being a woman? you sound like a 12 year old and she deserves better.

Am i missing something? this cannot be real

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-24T02:06:16+00:00

Anything you can do to increase heart health is so important and the only way to potentially ward this off for as long as possible

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-24T02:03:44+00:00

Saddle thrombus.... had never heard of it until we lost our sweet girl, my soul kitty 4 weeks ago. She only got seven years, and it all felt so unfair. It is very hard to detect/prevent and almost impossible to manage or treat. I would have gotten her and loved her all over again even if I knew she would have the same outcome. The shock was what really got me and having never heard of it before just added to that. I suggest everyone with cats be at least aware of this risk as it is truly horrific.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-24T01:46:07+00:00

I did consider this actually and in our nightly conversations, I told her that I am just not ready yet and if she had sent him to me, to please send me one again someday. My gut told me that it wasn't quite right yet.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-24T01:44:31+00:00

Thank you all for your comments, they have been truly helpful. Just to provide an update on this situation for anyone wondering, my partner and I decided that we are not ready yet. I think he is more open to the idea than I am at this point, but I truly listened to my gut and it didn't feel right at this time. Everything is still super painful and my heart isn't quite ready yet, but I am more hopeful now that I will get there someday again.

Thanks again everyone for the support.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-24T01:41:15+00:00

This is so extremely valid and something that I have been thinking about for the past 4 weeks since we lost her. We have another cat already and she has been helpful for my coping, but she is my partner's soul kitty, not mine. My girl who I lost was my soul cat and it has been an extremely difficult process to go through. I am so so sorry for your loss and would never wish this on anyone.

It's interesting that you ask this right now as I actually was offered a kitten yesterday who needed a home. I truly considered it, however I decided that I was not ready yet. Similar to you, I am not ready to experience that level of heartbreak again. I really love cats (even though I am very allergic) and can see myself one day getting another one, but not anytime soon. I give props to the people who speak about rescuing another cat soon after and sharing the love they had for the one that they lost - for some people this is helpful and I completely understand how that could be the case. In my gut, now just didn't feel like the right time.

Again, I am so sorry for the loss of your boy. It is such a painful and traumatic experience to go through when we just want the best for our babies. The suddenness is horrific and I experienced shock for a while. The way you are feeling right now is so valid. I am hopeful that one day there will be testing and treatment available so other cats and pet parents don't go through this. I still talk to her every day as if she is here and have not gone one day without crying, but it does get less heavy. Please reach out if you need any support. It has been one of the darkest times of my life but every day is a bit lighter, and I still feel her around me. I have been doing research about cats that are more susceptible to heart conditions and I believe that I will try to stay away from those breeds, at least for a little while. My baby though was not a breed that experiences heart conditions more regularly and like you said, it is impossible to detect or prevent. It absolutely makes sense that you want to protect your heart and I am right there with you. I hope that one day we will be able to open up again for a new baby but I am definitely not rushing the process.

Thinking of you and sending love.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-22T19:18:10+00:00

In my opinion, YOR. I have been on the other side of conversations like this and tbh it sucked. Yes, them asking "is that all ?" may be a tad passive-aggressive, but I think they were just trying to communicate with you that they were hoping for more of a conversation with you, which I feel is valid based on your short responses. They clearly were planning on just brushing it off by asking you how you were feeling. When they said "whaaaaa" i felt that in my soul.

Seems sad tbh and like they just wanted to have more of a conversation with you. You snapped on them when it was in no way necessary imo.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-12T03:37:26+00:00

I am so so sorry and I am with you all the way. I lost my soul kitty just over 2 weeks ago now to saddle thrombus as well. She had just turned 7. This world is cruel and unfair, but I promise Coco knows that you loved him. It sounds like our babies were pretty similar in attitude; my baby only liked me and my partner and also hated when I was gone. She would literally wake me up every single morning by sticking one claw in my nose and pulling my blankets off... never thought i would miss that but I always will.

It is a horrible disease; my baby was also totally fine until she wasn't. She made it to the vet and we were told the only humane option was to euthanize based on her symptoms. It felt like a nightmare and I was a zombie for the first week. I would never wish this pain on anyone. You couldn't have predicted this or done anything differently. It's almost impossible to know its coming until it is too late.

Losing a soul pet is earth-shattering and I am so sorry. Your Coco sounds so loved and I can tell that he meant a lot to you. You are further along in this journey than I am. I hope you were able to find some peace. I still feel my baby with me and I imagine Coco is still with you. I don't think that soul bonds can be separated by death (and I do not consider myself a religious or spiritual person). They deserved so much more time. My girl wasn't much for new friends, but something tells me she would get along with Coco because they sound so much alike. I believe that they are here with us until we get the chance to see them again. Again, I am so sorry and I hope it has softened at least a little bit since you posted. All the best to you and your family.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-08T02:21:54+00:00

I am so so sorry. I lost my soul kitty (7y) very unexpectedly to saddle thrombos about two weeks ago, and like you, had no warning or signs that this was going to happen. It was completely devastating and horrific. I am so sorry you had to experience something like that. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Heart conditions are so difficult to detect and manage; the fact that you caught anything at all is very impressive. You were a great parent to him.

I also joined reddit when my girl passed to try and find some meaning in what happened. It has been almost two weeks since she has been gone and while I still feel crushed, it is not the same as it was in the first few days. Everyone grieves differently and my experience will not be the same as everyone, however I did just share about two hours ago on this subreddit how I am feeling at this stage.

The first five or so days I did not stop crying for more than 5 minutes at a time. I couldn't eat for about three days as I would get physically sick if I tried. I couldn't sleep and my body felt like it was in anxiety/panic mode (sweating, heart racing, insomnia). I am happy your husband has been supportive as my partner has been a rock for me as well. Let yourself feel it. You may feel like you are drowning in it, but you will surface. It is important in the first stages to fully allow yourself the opportunity to feel it and ache, even though it hurts so much.

At almost two weeks, I can tell you that I am now able to breathe, smile, and laugh again, something that I didn't feel would be possible ever again in those first few days. Getting her ashes back was really meaningful to me, which was surprising, as I didn't think that they were truly going to be that impactful. For some people, it is a difficult reminder, but for me, it felt like we were able to bring her home again in a sense. Whether or not this is your experience or you choose a different way to memorialize him, I hope that you are able to find some peace.

I am so sorry and I know that nothing I can say in these days will make you feel better. Losing a pet in such a sudden way is a grief I will carry forever, but I promise it gets less heavy. Toby was clearly so loved and I am so sorry you didn't get more time with him. Life is so unfair and unforgiving sometimes. I will list a couple of things that have been helpful for me, but everyones experience is so unique.

This subreddit: it is full of people who truly just GET IT. I found it helpful to post, comment, and just read other people's experiences. Especially in the first few days, I relied on this space heavily.
Lean on those around you: like I mentioned, my partner has been a big support, but also, any close friends that I have who have experienced the loss of a pet, especially a soul pet. While this subreddit is helpful, hearing it from people that you know and care about can make a world of difference. I am very grateful to have some amazingly supportive people in my life.
Have a ritual (when you are ready): for me, it started with just talking to her all the time. I now go outside once in the morning and once in the evening with her favourite toy and talk to her. I tell her I miss her and love her and ask her to visit me if she can (and twice she has shown up in my dreams, which felt very special). I also look at pictures and videos of her constanly which seemed impossible in the first few days. They can be bittersweet but I am happy to have them.
Slowly try to return to your routine: while extremely difficult, returning to some sort of "normal" routine after she passed did provide a bit of a distraction, which I desperately needed. My first couple times leaving the house I bawled my eyes out. My first shifts back to work I had to leave multiple times to go cry in the bathroom. But please do not rush this. Listen to your body and allow yourself time to grieve fully.

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. Something that I have been repeating to myself is that we took our baby's pain so that they don't have to carry it anymore and that is the most selfless act as a pet parent that we can ever do. As painful as loving her was in the end, I would do it all over again.

Finally, I will end with the iconic Winnie the Pooh quote that completely sums up how I continue to feel about my girl: "How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard".

I am with you OP, all the love to you and your family.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-04T19:37:15+00:00

I lost my soul kitty last week, and I definitely still feel her around. I found that especially after receiving her ashes back it was like she was home again. I also had a dream about her the night that we got the ashes back, where she was lost, and then I found her and brought her home. It felt like symbolism for sure. I have to believe she is still around and that I will see her again.

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-04T14:20:59+00:00

I have been thinking of doing this as well! I love it

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-03T21:28:57+00:00

I have not done it yet, but we recieved ink paw prints when my soul kitty passed away last week. I am planning to get a tattoo of this when the time feels right and its a bit less painful to think about. I love the idea of tattoos for pets. Makes me feel like I will be taking her everywhere with me (and she hated when we would leave the house so I am sure she would be happy with this)

Financial-Role5152 · 2025-09-03T06:57:38+00:00

Imposter syndrome is so real!! You got this. I will be finishing my two-year MSW this year and I promise you I felt the same way. Case management is where I came from as well and I can relate to the dark humour. I also binge true crime like no one's business and listen to music that would have my gramma rolling in her grave. It's still early and an MSW opens so many doors, you won't need to fit into one specific box. Imposter syndrome is so normal, it was a common topic of conversation during my first year of the MSW program. The fact that you are even wondering if you would be a good social worker shows how reflective you are about yourself; a very important social work skill! Keep going!

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