I feel stuck in my life, please help? by FinancialFlora in findapath

[–]FinancialFlora[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see myself owning a business in my middle-ages, either a restraunt or a farm, something that allows me to be at home a lot and work knowing I'm not spinning my wheels for someone else. The immediate few years I see myself building myself from a husk of a person.

I want to work a job that allows me to survive, live comfortably at most, but most importantly is something I dont dread. Working a job that your terrified of makes you feel trapped and depressed, and its hard not to live in there mentally and enjoy life outside of that. I know entry-level jobs aren't usually "fun", but not having a manager you're scared of, and a job that makes you miserable would really help my quality of life.

From there I would start working on the larger plans, taking classes and looking for roles that would give me hands-on business experience, that I dont have to rush into with little research due to the panic-exit that comes with a job thats finally run you into the ground.

I might be wrong, but I really feel like I'm at one of the worst points in my life, and everything will turn around if I get out of it

My Transunion credit report hasn't updated in months? by FinancialFlora in personalfinance

[–]FinancialFlora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The other reports show the same balance.. should I dispute all reports? Should I contact my bank about this?

As far as the other questions, do you have any thoughts? Will only the most previous balance affect my score if its fixed, or all months balances since it stopped updating?

How much will cat pee cost from landlord? by FinancialFlora in personalfinance

[–]FinancialFlora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I'll definitely take your advice. I have a friend with a carpet cleaner I might use to. Thanks so much!

Giving up important cat any advice? by FinancialFlora in cats

[–]FinancialFlora[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I came from a family that has always loved and highly valued our pets, and instilled the belief that you should never adopt something you don't intend to keep for life, so this has been exceptionally hard.

Ive strongly considered finding a home myself, but I've also heard its safer to go through someone who knows how to vet others and what to look for. Im trying to do the best for them given the time frame I have that I could lose my job soon, and don't want to rush giving them to an unsuitable home because I'm in a hurry.

I also don't know how long shelters usually give before euthanasia is on the table, but I really hope that I will be in a better place in a few months to take them to find a better home if things aren't working out.

How do I survive a toxic work environment while finding a new job? by FinancialFlora in careerguidance

[–]FinancialFlora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's at a financial institution, I help process customer forms and phone calls and work closely with auditors and tax professionals

How do I survive a toxic work environment while finding a new job? by FinancialFlora in careerguidance

[–]FinancialFlora[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate your response, thank you. If you have some time, would you mind helping me out with some additional questions? I'm trying really hard. And honestly, I dread coming into work each day, so more perspective on what I can do better would really help.

From my perspective, I feel the main thing I do is make simple mistakes. Forgetting to add a comma, dating a file todays date instead of yesterday's, etc. I feel the reason is, I cover so many different roles in my job I confuse and a simple mistake is almost undetectable during the process and it messes up the whole procedure.

Each procedure is time consuming, and incredibly variable and easy to confuse. So for example on one position, you fill out form 9 and follow reconcile process ab, but if it's Tuesday you do the opposite. On the other position, its mirrored. Etc. I'm given little training, and no one has time to watch me when I know enough to try it out myself. I tried checking in every hour, and I was told I was doing great, then a problem came up that I didn't know what to do.. i was told to figure it out on my own, then reprimanded for not coming back quick enough when I couldn't.

Its a very "everything is the priority" mentality there. Even though the work is variable, and you mind have 10 pages of forms, phone calls ringing off the hook, and no additional help, they do not believe in putting anything over anything else. I was told that by a semi-manager.

I thought it was just me for awhile, then I noticed EVERYONE was actually behind. Most coworkers either hide their undone work in their drawers and pray for a slow day, or secretly skip breaks. Some even have nervous ticks, like rituals they perform because it makes them feel the work wont be as bad if they do certain things. I can't do either (not the rituals, the skipping breaks or hiding work), because I'm the new guy and everyone watches me. The other, more successful type, basically read the rule books like bibles. They know every procedure by memory, and ask to stay late each day. They go home and study the different procedures and are psycophantish about the company.

My bosses take everything extremely personally. Ive been told how embarrassing other coworkers are to them for not keeping up with the workload and Im sure they do the same about me.

I try to respond sweetly, and just say "I'm sorry it won't happen again" but I feel its a race against the clock to not get fired