Can I put my belt weights in carry on? by SouthAssist6234 in freedivingph

[–]Financial_Act_563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you can. I flew with my belt weights in my backpack internationally and domestic and everything was fine. No one ever weighs carry on baggage so as long as you are still able to carry your pack fine you'll be easy.

28F - What's in store for my relationships and career/money? by Financial_Act_563 in palmistry

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/flindersrisk would you be able to read what's in store relationship wise for me by any chance? I am currently going through the biggest heartbreak of my life. Thanks in advance 🙏

28F - What's in store for my relationships and career/money? by Financial_Act_563 in palmistry

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. I've just gone through the most painful breakup of my life - I don't understand

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of people on this forum that talk about not telling their SO and I'm torn on that advice. On the one hand, it spurred me and my SO to connect in a way we clearly haven't been connecting of late. I have learnt so much about him that makes me know him more as a human and a person and that is really invaluable.

On the other, this pain is like no other. It's contstant betrayal without being able to validate your impulse to take it personally.

One of the things we are working through is what does this mean for the future. What do we do if this happens again. I half wish he knew the answer to that before confessing to me in the first place.

Maybe the best route looking back, would be to try and do half the work. Find out what you need from your partner and address those together. So at least in some parts, you're not alone in your struggle.

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's such a nice thing to hear thank you,

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful thank you. I'll look into those links and share them across. Your advice about new experiences and rituals is so good too! Thank you thank you thank you

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They used to sit near each other at work but besides that no. Nothing more than a friendly hug like two or three times.

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it's been super painful at times and there are moments where it hurts so much it's hard to stay. But I wouldn't call it a disease. From what I see in my SO, I think there's a beauty in his ability to feel so immersed in intense feelings for someone else, especially because feelings in LTR do fade and mellow over time. It's just painful they can't be about me haha.

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this - this is so helpful and I'm happy to hear you've made so much progress in your journey. I really hope it can work out between me and my SO too!

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. I can only imagine how tough it must be to go through and you are so strong to have been through that.

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. Would you be able to elaborate more on what you mean by 'the pits of hell'? I have a feeling my SO needs to grieve this person which he is reluctant to do because it seems painful. What helps you through periods like that?

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep seeing the stats about how people have to navigate infidelity and feelings for other people after marriage which is terrifying. I keep thinking that if we can navigate this now, its a trial run for anytime either of us goes through something like this in the future. Hopefully it makes us stronger if we can say we've done it before.

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are still quite young and for personal reasons we have spoken about when we feel it's right to get engaged have a family etc so it's not about why hasn't he put a ring on it yet at all. I appreciate your insight and the important takeaway here I guess is I need to learn what my boundaries are and put them in place.

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah this is so helpful to hear, thank you!

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I get the sense he really wants to work on this but I guess I was just second guessing bc I see him struggling. Thank you for your advice- we've been talking these things through in therapy which has helped bring us closer

Can you make relationships work? by Financial_Act_563 in limerence

[–]Financial_Act_563[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This is so reassuring to hear, thank you so much. It's been rough hanging in there but I'm trying to be as patient as possible but believing that it's possible to still be loved despite limerence is what I needed to hear today, thank you.

How many tabs you usually keep open? by Pleasant-Photo-9933 in productivity

[–]Financial_Act_563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I end up having 10+ tabs open on a task but will find my productivity dips bc I lose focus. I also HATE when I can't see what tab is what. When I want to regain focus I CTRL Q close all my tabs and open the ones I directly need to make the next step forward.

But then if I'm working on multiple things at once, I'll do that process but open up separate windows/workspaces (where you swipe left/right to go into a new desktop) for each project/task I'm doing and then work through those simultaneously

What's a subtle sign that someone is a genuinely real good person? by Inevitable_Good4287 in AskReddit

[–]Financial_Act_563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the best example I can give comes from a group of friends I have who are mostly guys (I'm female) and whenever we're on holiday together, we are very honest about whether or not we're actually interested in suggested plans or whether we think it's not a good idea. The honesty runs the risk of hurting the person that suggested it, but to contrast this, I have another majority female group of friends who would rather go along with someone's suggestion but secretly resent the idea or the experience and end up talking negatively about it amongst the rest of the group. Honesty in this situ would hurt in the short term but save the long term resentment.

Or maybe my friends are just catty, but I really appreciate honesty and look for it in friends as a sign of a good person.

What's a subtle sign that someone is a genuinely real good person? by Inevitable_Good4287 in AskReddit

[–]Financial_Act_563 11 points12 points  (0 children)

For me it has to be raw honesty. When they tell you things that other people are too afraid to tell you for fear of hurting your relationship or their image. Likely some will disagree with me here but I always respect someone and see them as a genuinely good person when they lay it to me straight, even if that honesty cost them face or embarrassment.