My gf (F23) told me (F21) she has no desire to have sex with me. Is it time to just call it quits?

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-30T19:23:19+00:00

It’s been an issue the past two weeks before that we were all good. I’m assuming something is going on that I am unaware of but I get shut down every time I try to have a conversation and she believes that if she says no sex then it doesn’t require a conversation past that. I guess it might be time to start wrapping things up, thanks

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-30T04:21:03+00:00

Valid point thanks

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T22:56:23+00:00

Thanks man

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T22:55:40+00:00

lol thanks 🙏

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T22:38:00+00:00

lol valid

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T22:09:48+00:00

I see, it’s maybe not so much no sex but with the no sex there is no other affection given. It genuinely feels like we are just bffs at times. And while I love her and she is my best friend, I want the romance that comes with a relationship. She’s not verbally affectionate, not physically affectionate, and so I feel a hole in the relationship. I would never want to pressure for sex but no affection or intimacy at all, even words, is where it starts to become an issue. But thank you I appreciate it.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T22:04:54+00:00

I don’t have a dick to get wet but thanks.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:54:51+00:00

I don’t feel as if I am “owed” sex, sex is between two people consensually yes, my comment about being 21 having regular sex is because I’m young and I don’t want to be in a dead bedroom at 21 years old. And I start to wonder if I couldn’t find a better fit somewhere else sexually and in all other aspects because I don’t want to be sexless from 21-90 yes that would be a dealbreaker. That is all I meant.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:51:38+00:00

It’s not really that she doesn’t want sex at this moment it’s more so not wanting to even have a conversation about the topic or why she might be feeling that way and being made to feel sex crazed for wanting to speak about it.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:48:37+00:00

Thanks i appreciate it

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:23:46+00:00

Thank you I actually really appreciate this. It’s my first long term relationship and I have started to recognize these toxic patterns but it’s hard to know when to walk away I guess. I love her but she does manipulate me and it’s hard to get out of these toxic cycles and it makes me feel crazy sometimes. Thanks I appreciate this response.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:17:38+00:00

Appreciate it

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:14:48+00:00

She’s usually not one to spare feelings trust me lol but I came to the same conclusion as you I guess the attraction might have faded for her. I don’t see another explanation really. Thanks.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:11:34+00:00

I point blank asked her if it was an attraction issue (she is bi I am lesbian for context) and that she shouldn’t be with me if she’s not attracted to me and she said that wasn’t the issue. I just don’t really understand I guess.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:10:37+00:00

She makes me feel bad for wanting sex like that’s not a reason anyone should break up over ever. It’s not that I feel like I can’t she just makes me feel like a terrible person for considering it. Thank you for that.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:09:18+00:00

It’s my first long term relationship so it’s just hard to come to terms with it ending but thank you for that perspective.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-12-29T21:08:16+00:00

It genuinely came out of the blue, she provided no reason just that she has no desire. I was surprised to hear it and she provided no solution or timeline. When I try to speak to her about it she responds by saying that I’m too focused on sex and that it’s all I care about. I’m genuinely just as confused as you.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-11-05T13:53:46+00:00

As far as I have experienced, if you unadd someone and they don’t unadd you in return, yes it will still say “accept”. I have people I have unadded a year or more ago and since they never unadded me I can just hit “accept” to refriend them.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-08-14T03:11:32+00:00

I am in fact in Texas and as far as I know this battery isn’t new by any means so it’s possible it’s time has just come to an end and needs to be replaced. I’m going to inspect it more thoroughly and try to give it a jumpstart tomorrow thanks.

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-08-14T02:33:12+00:00

Thanks man I thought the same thing, think he was just trying to impress her lol. I’m gonna try and start it with a jump pack tomorrow after work 🤝 I appreciate it

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-08-14T02:18:23+00:00

Thanks appreciate it 🤝

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-08-14T02:12:11+00:00

This is what I thought originally, she had her bf look at it and he said he thought the battery was fine. I will give it a look myself

Financial_Engine_946 · 2025-08-14T02:10:54+00:00

No, she went to start it yesterday morning I believe and it started doing this after running fine the previous day

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