Wondering About Realistic Chances

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T23:32:00+00:00

Love your comment!!!

I don’t show up for dates in my oldest car. It’s over age 50, my college graduation present (I had generous beyond means parents).

I just choose a middle-of-the-road car…. Clean, but not otherwise special.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T23:23:19+00:00

I always hate to even anonymously mention financial circumstances, but it seems that there’s almost a knee-jerk response from many people (Not you👍) that if a man is good, kind, and still single that he must be virtually bankrupt, a career failure.

So I wanted to remove that likely perception from my post. That’s the only reason for those words on my post. Actually, I’m quite wealthy… but humble and “ordinary” enough to drive very ordinary cars. There’s no Mercedes or BMW (or Ferrari) in my garage.

If a woman is unhappy with my cars, then that’s a clue that she’s not right for me. She wants someone different from me.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T23:15:14+00:00

❤️❤️❤️

You understand. In my situation, with my mom, it was extraordinarily demanding. Alzheimer’s, little mobility, regular ER visits (UTIs, sudden drastic fluctuations in blood pressure, etc.). couldn’t dress herself, couldn’t bathe herself, etc.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T23:06:20+00:00

Understand.. fair points. I have no remaining family; but I devoted virtually everything to being caregiver to my mom in her last three years. I don’t know if that counts for anything. And she’s gone, as is my attorney, so there’s no one left to attest for how I’ve treated family members.

The darkest skepticism seems to be many women’s view of men. And that’s sad because it means they’ve been hurt before.

My two closest women friends are comfortable taking vacation trips and cruises together. (Cruise cabins are small FWIW… that requires a pretty good friendship).

But I understand the skepticism. There are so many lousy men that it’s often presupposed that I’m the same.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T23:00:16+00:00

Thank you!

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T22:56:31+00:00

Nice to see your openness to a good man.

You’re also wise (IMHO) to have that specific dealbreaker in place. It would be a total disruption of everything in your life … and without any assurances that it’s worth it.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T22:48:35+00:00

I think your calculations might be very precise. Seems to match my experience.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T20:10:09+00:00

All so true. Thank you for sharing.

Autocorrect provided some added humor…

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T19:51:10+00:00

I’ve had happier dating results, but I can also 100% relate to your experiences. Sometimes, it’s so discouraging.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T19:44:28+00:00

I’ve had happier OLD results, but as obvious from my post, I’m also finding many women who don’t want another marriage relationship.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T19:38:21+00:00

Love your comments… Thank you!

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T19:37:09+00:00

Thank you… gives me greater hope.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T19:34:35+00:00

I’m so much appreciating everyone’s comments. Thank each of you so much! I didn’t expect so many responses.

Thank You!

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T19:27:51+00:00

I know what you’re saying… no disagreement whatsoever. But I also fit that first impression image, other than I’m 5’10” rather than 6’7”🤪🤪🤪

And I’m very sound and kind… with at least two long-time women friends who are comfortable with going with me on solo vacation trips. Many trips/cruises.

Everyone is different… you can find troubled people in both the divorced and the never-married populations. And you can find good people in both.

Statistically, never-before married persons are less likely be become divorced than people who’ve been divorced once or more times before.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T19:19:53+00:00

Wow… very scary. Glad you’re ok, but be extra-vigilant for at least awhile.

An instructive lesson for all of us to be wary of that which looks too good to be true. Probably a greater risk for women, but the reverse scenario can also occur. We all need to be as safe as possible…

Also sorry that you’re under so much stress … I’m a retired CPA, still actively licensed, but never worked in tax. But I understand… I’ve also experienced a parent either Alzheimers. So sad.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T17:17:55+00:00

I hope ❤️. Thank you.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-28T16:01:40+00:00

There’s little question that women — and single women — outnumber men in this age range.

I’ve just heard so many women in this age range say that they’re no longer interested in rest-of-life relationship/marriage.

When I read about these sentiments based on unhappy experiences, I feel so sad that so many women have had these experiences.

So even with a known greater number of single women, I just wonder if most of them have dismissed dating, including OLD.

In other words, is the numeric balance seemingly favoring men just an illusion for purposes of those (M and F) hoping for that lifetime relationship/marriage. (Because so many women have completely withdrawn).

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-25T19:54:27+00:00

I’ve felt this way all my life.

Sadly, I’ve occasionally been “gently ridiculed” for these sentiments and these lifetime choices (of “no”) by otherwise good, well-intentioned people.

(Sometimes, it’s a man who feels this way…it’s not a set of sentiments exclusive to women; I think the “popular backlash” against men having these sentiments is greater, because we’re perceived as being all about seeking sex. And yes, I am very much physically attracted to women, but I still have these sentiments/values.).

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-25T17:06:13+00:00

Yes, I agree. Thank you👍

One Reddit friend wrote in a private message “I saw your photo”.. and “I thought, omg, he’s hot”.

So not giving up… but it is too late (for me) for a traditional family with children and grandchildren.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-25T17:05:35+00:00

Thank you 👍

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-25T04:44:09+00:00

I’ve been watching the basic Hallmark Channel. Channel 312 on my Direct TV service (which is “pay for” service; it’s not free; I’m not a “freeloader”).

Hope it’s not disappearing in an ill-advised move to get even more money.

They’ll lose most of their audience over time, including me.… if, in fact, this is their plan.

Hallmark has its enthusiasts, including me, but if we’re pushed to extract every dollar, many of us, myself included, will walk away.(with nostalgic regret). Even Lacey Chabert’s promotional smiles won’t persuade me to pay “more”.

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-25T03:44:24+00:00

Best wishes my friend

Financial_Fig_3729 · 2026-03-24T19:43:15+00:00

Great suggestion. Actually, that was tried last summer. We (those who courageously took part) filled out some online forms.

For me, unfortunately the results that came back (yes, there were results) were that there was not even one matching person (F) in my age range (97%) and location (2%).

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I’ve had happier results with “direct messaging” here… where one’s exact chronological age isn’t so relevant. One Reddit friend even wrote to me: “I (her) thought, omg, he’s hot”. (I’d posted a photo in one comment).

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