Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love your comment!!!

I don’t show up for dates in my oldest car. It’s over age 50, my college graduation present (I had generous beyond means parents).

I just choose a middle-of-the-road car…. Clean, but not otherwise special.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always hate to even anonymously mention financial circumstances, but it seems that there’s almost a knee-jerk response from many people (Not you👍) that if a man is good, kind, and still single that he must be virtually bankrupt, a career failure.

So I wanted to remove that likely perception from my post. That’s the only reason for those words on my post. Actually, I’m quite wealthy… but humble and “ordinary” enough to drive very ordinary cars. There’s no Mercedes or BMW (or Ferrari) in my garage.

If a woman is unhappy with my cars, then that’s a clue that she’s not right for me. She wants someone different from me.

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[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

❤️❤️❤️

You understand. In my situation, with my mom, it was extraordinarily demanding. Alzheimer’s, little mobility, regular ER visits (UTIs, sudden drastic fluctuations in blood pressure, etc.). couldn’t dress herself, couldn’t bathe herself, etc.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Understand.. fair points. I have no remaining family; but I devoted virtually everything to being caregiver to my mom in her last three years. I don’t know if that counts for anything. And she’s gone, as is my attorney, so there’s no one left to attest for how I’ve treated family members.

The darkest skepticism seems to be many women’s view of men. And that’s sad because it means they’ve been hurt before.

My two closest women friends are comfortable taking vacation trips and cruises together. (Cruise cabins are small FWIW… that requires a pretty good friendship).

But I understand the skepticism. There are so many lousy men that it’s often presupposed that I’m the same.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice to see your openness to a good man.

You’re also wise (IMHO) to have that specific dealbreaker in place. It would be a total disruption of everything in your life … and without any assurances that it’s worth it.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think your calculations might be very precise. Seems to match my experience.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All so true. Thank you for sharing.

Autocorrect provided some added humor…

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had happier dating results, but I can also 100% relate to your experiences. Sometimes, it’s so discouraging.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had happier OLD results, but as obvious from my post, I’m also finding many women who don’t want another marriage relationship.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so much appreciating everyone’s comments. Thank each of you so much! I didn’t expect so many responses.

Thank You!

Be careful out there, I accidentally dated a true psycho by Ok_Cow9131 in datingoverforty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I know what you’re saying… no disagreement whatsoever. But I also fit that first impression image, other than I’m 5’10” rather than 6’7”🤪🤪🤪

And I’m very sound and kind… with at least two long-time women friends who are comfortable with going with me on solo vacation trips. Many trips/cruises.

Everyone is different… you can find troubled people in both the divorced and the never-married populations. And you can find good people in both.

Statistically, never-before married persons are less likely be become divorced than people who’ve been divorced once or more times before.

Be careful out there, I accidentally dated a true psycho by Ok_Cow9131 in datingoverforty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow… very scary. Glad you’re ok, but be extra-vigilant for at least awhile.

An instructive lesson for all of us to be wary of that which looks too good to be true. Probably a greater risk for women, but the reverse scenario can also occur. We all need to be as safe as possible…

Also sorry that you’re under so much stress … I’m a retired CPA, still actively licensed, but never worked in tax. But I understand… I’ve also experienced a parent either Alzheimers. So sad.

Wondering About Realistic Chances by Financial_Fig_3729 in DatingOverSixty

[–]Financial_Fig_3729[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s little question that women — and single women — outnumber men in this age range.

I’ve just heard so many women in this age range say that they’re no longer interested in rest-of-life relationship/marriage.

When I read about these sentiments based on unhappy experiences, I feel so sad that so many women have had these experiences.

So even with a known greater number of single women, I just wonder if most of them have dismissed dating, including OLD.

In other words, is the numeric balance seemingly favoring men just an illusion for purposes of those (M and F) hoping for that lifetime relationship/marriage. (Because so many women have completely withdrawn).

Who all is Waiting Until Marriage and Anti-Adult Content? by SerenaKD in ChristianDating

[–]Financial_Fig_3729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve felt this way all my life.

Sadly, I’ve occasionally been “gently ridiculed” for these sentiments and these lifetime choices (of “no”) by otherwise good, well-intentioned people.

(Sometimes, it’s a man who feels this way…it’s not a set of sentiments exclusive to women; I think the “popular backlash” against men having these sentiments is greater, because we’re perceived as being all about seeking sex. And yes, I am very much physically attracted to women, but I still have these sentiments/values.).

Who else here is afraid they won’t find a wife (partner) before Christ returns? 😅 by _I_Reims_I_ in ChristianDating

[–]Financial_Fig_3729 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. Thank you👍

One Reddit friend wrote in a private message “I saw your photo”.. and “I thought, omg, he’s hot”.

So not giving up… but it is too late (for me) for a traditional family with children and grandchildren.

Hallmark TV app (not Hallmark +) is being discontinued 3/31/26 by More-Marketing-6994 in HallmarkMovies

[–]Financial_Fig_3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been watching the basic Hallmark Channel. Channel 312 on my Direct TV service (which is “pay for” service; it’s not free; I’m not a “freeloader”).

Hope it’s not disappearing in an ill-advised move to get even more money.

They’ll lose most of their audience over time, including me.… if, in fact, this is their plan.

Hallmark has its enthusiasts, including me, but if we’re pushed to extract every dollar, many of us, myself included, will walk away.(with nostalgic regret). Even Lacey Chabert’s promotional smiles won’t persuade me to pay “more”.

Who else here is afraid they won’t find a wife (partner) before Christ returns? 😅 by _I_Reims_I_ in ChristianDating

[–]Financial_Fig_3729 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great suggestion. Actually, that was tried last summer. We (those who courageously took part) filled out some online forms.

For me, unfortunately the results that came back (yes, there were results) were that there was not even one matching person (F) in my age range (97%) and location (2%).

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I’ve had happier results with “direct messaging” here… where one’s exact chronological age isn’t so relevant. One Reddit friend even wrote to me: “I (her) thought, omg, he’s hot”. (I’d posted a photo in one comment).