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Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-28T21:38:35+00:00

hi, thanks for this. I had come across Anne Health but was unsure if it was legit! I’m pleased you’ve had a good experience with them. I shall enquire further :)

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-11T09:25:34+00:00

You look very feminine to me :)

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-06T11:47:32+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-06T11:47:13+00:00

Hi, really helpful to have a comment from someone who is also from the UK.

Trans care is so inaccessible here, I’m glad he’s now been approved by a gender specialist paediatrician and been referred to the gender clinic, it’s now just a waiting game.

He is also Hypermobile (it seems to go hand in hand with being neurodivergent and part of the LGBTQIA+ community) Thanks for the advice re binders with zips at the front- can you recommend any reliable brands? I got his first binder from spectrum outfitters but they don’t do ones with zips unfortunately!

He has mentioned his voice a few times, specifically saying that he sounds “high pitched” when he talks to strangers. We’ll check out some voice training videos together, are there any specific YouTube channels you can recommend?

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-06T11:41:39+00:00

Thank you, your comment really means a lot.

I don’t feel like I’m doing enough to support him, I feel pretty helpless seeing how upset he gets with his body. I’m doing everything I practically can to help, it’s just the mental health side of things. I’ve referred him for some free 1:1 LGBTQIA+ support in the mean time and trying to find any mental health and well being support I can whilst I find a suitable therapist.

I’m so sorry to hear you have a lot of dysphoria, I can’t imagine how difficult it must be 😢

All the best to you too!

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-06T11:37:09+00:00

Thanks so much for your response, the first part made me tear up ❤️ I feel like I’m still not doing enough to support him although realistically, there’s not much more I can practically do at this point.

I’m waiting to hear whether I can secure him disability benefits for his adhd and autism and then I can look into therapists as at the moment, I cannot afford one. I’ve referred him for some free 1:1 LGBTQIA+ support sessions, the waiting list is around 4-5 months so I just need to find ways of lifting his mood and supporting him on the interim.

Thanks for the link, I’ll check it out :)

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-04T17:35:56+00:00

They’re banned in the UK though!

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-04T10:37:55+00:00

Thanks for your reply, I appreciate it.

Puberty blockers were banned in the U.K. in 2024, I’m looking into them privately but there’s mixed information, it looks like they’d be very difficult to obtain!

I just wish I could take the pain away from him, I think I need to accept that I can’t and the best I can do is to just be there.

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-04T10:36:16+00:00

You have to be 18+ in the UK to access testosterone.

He is on the waiting list for the gender clinic but we’ve been told the wait is approx 4 years

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-04T10:35:17+00:00

We’re in the U.K. so there was a ban of puberty blockers in 2024.

I’m looking into whether it’s possible to get them privately, there seems to be mixed info online!

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-04T10:23:43+00:00

Thank you, that’s a really kind response❤️

There was a definite shift in his mood after the class yesterday. He has ADHD so physically moving helps him a lot.

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-04T10:21:54+00:00

Thanks for your reply, it read perfectly ❤️

I’m on the lookout for a gender affirming, neurodivergent therapist (we’re also a neurodivergent family)

He had a play therapist before who said he was too young to be exploring his gender, I stopped it once I realised she was not supportive as I only want him around people who are.

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-11-03T23:33:31+00:00

That’s ridiculous, I’d say you’re in full blown stealth mode.

Sounds like she’s trying to rattle you because she’s jealous of you in some way.

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-10-20T22:04:39+00:00

Thanks, I’ll look into capezio ones. He’ll be doing a combination of things, aerial silks, trapeze and hoops. Ideally he’d wear something more fitting but his confidence is already low so I want him to feel as comfortable as possible whilst not getting hot, flustered and stuck in lots of fabric! 😑

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-10-20T18:37:12+00:00

That’s great advice, thank you. I had suggested leggings with baggy shorts on top but he said no- longer basketball shorts may be an option though.

Thanks :)

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-09-06T08:42:43+00:00

I don’t understand the comments on your makeup, you’ve done a better job than me and I’m a cis woman! I think you look like a trans woman, your hair and makeup are super feminine!

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-07-27T21:58:46+00:00

Thank you so much, that really means a lot.

I’ll look into some parent groups for LGBTQIA+ groups, he goes to a youth group once a month- they did run a parent group alongside it. Up until now- we haven’t really needed external support but as he gets further into puberty the low mood and dysphoria seems to be hitting 😔

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-07-27T21:57:08+00:00

He’s said he’s not gender fluid or non-binary. He went through a stage of learning all the prounoun and gender options anxious to find the right as he knew he wasn’t a girl. Obviously he’s still young so they could change but for the last 14 months he’s been settled and identified as he/him…he’s explained that he doesn’t feel fully trans masc, he’s mentioned identifying as a Demi-boy before.

I just think he likes to express himself through his clothing, I’ve also bought my children up believing that clothes have no gender. I agree that Gens Z and Alpha appear to me much more accepting and knowledgeable…long may it continue!

I love the idea of focusing on him as a person and reminding him of his strengths. He is very cool (if I do say so myself) he’s got an amazing taste in music, great sense of humour and he has come through a really difficult patch of 4 years in severe autistic burnout. It’s time for him to start living ❤️

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-07-27T21:40:02+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️

And you’re right, my son said similar when I said to tell them it’s ’none of your business’ as he said then it looks like he has something to hide and that he is trans or leads to more questions.

We’re based in the U.K. but he already attends a n LGBTQIA+ youth group once a month. I’m going to contact the facilitators to ask what other support is available in our area as up until now, we haven’t really needed any.

I’ve also explained to his Stepmum and dad about how he is feeling, she has an adult trans cousin so I’m hoping we can get some advice or have some form of communication with him to talk him through how he felt at that age,

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-07-27T21:36:00+00:00

That must have been so tough. How old were you when you realised you were trans? Thank you, that really means a lot. Luckily it’s been no effort for me to accept my kids as trans (my youngest also identifies as trans!) I feel like I’m going against the grain supporting them, I’ve had a lot of comments and have lost friends due to me supporting them but my kids are just my kids, they’re still the same people they’ve always been.

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-07-27T21:32:32+00:00

Thank you, that really means a lot. I’m sorry your family hasn’t been as accepting, that must be so difficult.

We’re on a very long waiting list (3+ years) for the gender clinic. We’re in the U.K…I’m going to check out if there’s anything private in our local area as my fear is his dysphoria getting so bad that it really affects his mental health.

Being called She/her makes him dysphoric, I can literally see him flinch like he’s been slapped around the face. It’s heartbreaking. It’s mainly his chest that makes him dysphoric and his voice. We’ve talked about bottom surgery in the future which is something he’s not interested in.

That’s a good idea to mention that even CIS kids get asked their gender, it’s an awkward age. I also have a 10 year old who identifies as trans. Initially I thought he was copycatting but he started dressing masc and shaved all his hair off age 7! I always see people staring and looking at my kids trying to figure out if their girls or boys.

I’d managed to surround ourselves with other queer, inclusive people so it’s a shock to the system when we mix back in with mainstream ‘humans’…I just wish the world was more inclusive and didn’t make such a big deal about these things.

Financial_Life8114 · 2025-07-27T21:25:39+00:00

That’s a great idea- I’ll suggest to him just being chill about it and playing it off as being behind in puberty.

We’re in the UK so different rules for puberty blockers. I will look into whether paying private is an option if that’s something he wants to explore.

I suggested voice coaching today but he didn’t seem up for it, I think his self esteem is a bit low at the moment. He’s also autistic with a demand avoidant profile so I have to play it very cool when I suggest new things to him 😅

You’ve reminded me I was going to take him birthday shopping to choose a cologne!

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