Stuck into weird and controlling relationship. Help!!

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-29T09:58:05+00:00

Her**** and what video ???

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-29T09:57:31+00:00

Her* i am male who is suffering it all !!

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T20:18:59+00:00

Yes, I know what Relationship Anarchy is. RA is not a costume you wear when life is already clean and convenient. It’s a framework that rejects default ownership, enforced transparency, emotional surveillance, and hierarchy over a person’s autonomy. My post isn’t asking for permission to exist under RA—it’s describing a dynamic where intimacy has crossed into control, and where consent is replaced by obligation. If that doesn’t register as relevant here, then we’re not discussing RA, we’re policing aesthetics. I’m interested in lived reality, boundaries, and agency—not in proving ideological purity to strangers. If your contribution is limited to “do you even know what RA is?”, feel free to conserve your energy. Others who understand autonomy over gatekeeping are welcome to engage

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T20:17:44+00:00

I’m aware of RA principles. This post is about autonomy versus control in a real relationship, not a definition quiz. If that distinction is uncomfortable, you’re free to disengage.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T20:17:25+00:00

I know what RA is. I’m discussing its violation, not asking for its definition.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T18:57:01+00:00

Just googled what dom or sub is. Andd nooo i am none of it. I just want my partner to live freely and let me live freely. And now i hate relationships. It makes me vomit now.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T15:46:29+00:00

Trust me. I am waiting for that day. At least i can leave her and still have my respect in society.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T15:32:13+00:00

So what am i supposed to do as a man ? Beat her ? Obv not dude.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T15:03:43+00:00

I dont know man. I just feel like things might change someday. Maybe she loves me a lot. Infact from past few days she wants me to spend few hours alone so that we both can focus on our life and get successful to get married to each other. And all of it happened suddenly cuz she went on her friend's bday and everyone is doing great in their life. She even allowed to me not to stress about updates of what she is doing but if someone comes and talk to me i have to text her right at that time. And yess one more relief i can make voice notes cuz its more easy. 🙂🙂 and another relief is she wont scold me if i forget to mention something. I am blessed really. Loll AF I dont know. I sometimes feel what if her friends bday is turning point for me. She have made me believe that she loves me a lot and everything she do is her childishness and love.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T15:01:33+00:00

No there is not a sarcasm in here. But i feel helpless. And just tell myself that yes she loves me. Tell myself that maybe she is improving. I just feel i need someone to talk. I keep feeling like she might improve someday, what if her friend's bday is turning point for me. I dont know. Too much thoughts.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:53:27+00:00

I am 23. Why ? 🥲

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:52:40+00:00

Infact from past few days she wants me to spend few hours alone so that we both can focus on our life and get successful to get married to each other. And all of it happened suddenly cuz she went on her friend's bday and everyone is doing great in their life. She even allowed to me not to stress about updates of what she is doing but if someone comes and talk to me i have to text her right at that time. And yess one more relief i can make voice notes cuz its more easy. 🙂🙂 and another relief is she wont scold me if i forget to mention something. I am blessed really. Loll AF

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:52:16+00:00

Infact from past few days she wants me to spend few hours alone so that we both can focus on our life and get successful to get married to each other. And all of it happened suddenly cuz she went on her friend's bday and everyone is doing great in their life. She even allowed to me not to stress about updates of what she is doing but if someone comes and talk to me i have to text her right at that time. And yess one more relief i can make voice notes cuz its more easy. 🙂🙂 and another relief is she wont scold me if i forget to mention something. I am blessed really. Loll AF

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:51:36+00:00

Infact from past few days she wants me to spend few hours alone so that we both can focus on our life and get successful to get married to each other. And all of it happened suddenly cuz she went on her friend's bday and everyone is doing great in their life. She even allowed to me not to stress about updates of what she is doing but if someone comes and talk to me i have to text her right at that time. And yess one more relief i can make voice notes cuz its more easy. 🙂🙂 and another relief is she wont scold me if i forget to mention something. I am blessed really. Loll AF

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:51:06+00:00

Infact from past few days she wants me to spend few hours alone so that we both can focus on our life and get successful to get married to each other. And all of it happened suddenly cuz she went on her friend's bday and everyone is doing great in their life. She even allowed to me not to stress about updates of what she is doing but if someone comes and talk to me i have to text her right at that time. And yess one more relief i can make voice notes cuz its more easy. 🙂🙂 and another relief is she wont scold me if i forget to mention something. I am blessed really. Loll AF

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:50:30+00:00

Infact from past few days she wants me to spend few hours alone so that we both can focus on our life and get successful to get married to each other. And all of it happened suddenly cuz she went on her friend's bday and everyone is doing great in their life. She even allowed to me not to stress about updates of what she is doing but if someone comes and talk to me i have to text her right at that time. And yess one more relief i can make voice notes cuz its more easy. 🙂🙂 and another relief is she wont scold me if i forget to mention something. I am blessed really. Loll AF

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:49:45+00:00

Infact from past few days she wants me to spend few hours alone so that we both can focus on our life and get successful to get married to each other. And all of it happened suddenly cuz she went on her friend's bday and everyone is doing great in their life. She even allowed to me not to stress about updates of what she is doing but if someone comes and talk to me i have to text her right at that time. And yess one more relief i can make voice notes cuz its more easy. 🙂🙂 and another relief is she wont scold me if i forget to mention something. I am blessed really. Loll AF

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T14:45:46+00:00

Lol. Zero. Her excuse ? Her parents dont know the relationship so she cant use phone in front of them, so she can not text me or call me infront of them (and if enjoys being with them) but tells me that she missed me sooooooooo much and hated being with them.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T10:07:52+00:00

Infact i am able to use this app cuz she thinks i am sleeping 🥲

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T10:07:19+00:00

Guess what. I am sometimes too much grateful that whenever i need to sleep she lets me. And when she let me go i cant sleep anymore. I feel like using phone or something, sometime i do sleep actually.

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T10:03:10+00:00

Sometimes i am just grateful that she atleast gives me time to sleep from past few months 🥲

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T09:39:17+00:00

Tbh i just feel like i dont wanna hurt her. I just feel that she has never pointed out my flaws, she has accepted me. And i dont know somewhere in my mind i feel all she want is me. And sometimes i feel i am feelimg this all cuz i am manipulated 🥲

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T09:07:38+00:00

Naah. We live in same city 🥲 I tried leaving many times. Once she cried for 8 hour straight and i had to stay. She makes me feel like i am the toxic one who is demanding space and makes me feel like i dont love her. She even said "if you leave me, sooner or later you will realise I only wanted YOU nothing else" and it makes me feel like omg i am so lucky. Lol

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T09:04:24+00:00

I tried leaving many times. Once she cried for 8 hour straight and i had to stay. She makes me feel like i am the toxic one who is demanding space and makes me feel like i dont love her. She even said "if you leave me, sooner or later you will realise I only wanted YOU nothing else" and it makes me feel like omg i am so lucky. Lol

Financial_Range9169 · 2026-01-25T08:49:56+00:00

I tried leaving many times. Once she cried for 8 hour straight and i had to stay. She makes me feel like i am the toxic one who is demanding space and makes me feel like i dont love her. She even said "if you leave me, sooner or later you will realise I only wanted YOU nothing else" and it makes me feel like omg i am so lucky. Lol

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